Should i give up hope?

Ok, so i've posted some parts of my private life here, and parts of my relationship, but now i feel like im a deadend and have nowhere to go

I've been going out with this guy for a year and 2 months, and i truly, madly, deeply love him. Two weeks ago he said to me that he wanted a break because he needed some space and time to cool off, and also he had a lot of work and he needed to study for his exams... I said ok because i don't want to put preasure on him and the deal was not to see each other for 2 weeks, but we can talk ord send sms to each other.
So it was ok for awhile, but one night we talked on the phone, and i asked him if he was with any other girl, and he said yes. Than i got mad, and i sad that he hurt me, so he told me to meed him tomorow. So we met, and he told me that she ment nothing to him, because he loves me, and that i should not get upset because we were on a break, and he didn't cheated on me. But than i asked him more questions about here, and i find out that he liked her, and that was the reason that he wanted a break, because he didn't know what to to do and he didn't want to hurt me. So the things got really bad, bacause he did hurt me, and we broke up. He told me that this way we can make things right. And we decided not to comunicate for a week, so we can think straight. So the week passed. He called me 2 times, telling me that he miss me, that he loves me, he even wrote on one forum that he feels sad and empty because i wasn't next to him. So i called him and ask him if he wants to meet, because when we talked on the phone the other day he said he did. He said ok, so i went to his place, but all evening he was very cold, he did even hug me So i asked him, what was he doing the past week, how was he emotionally, did he find out what he really want, and he said to me that the time for that conversation isn't right. So i just sat there, stering at the TV, asking my self "how can he be so distant?" So i coulden't take it any more, and i told him that i have to go. He wallked me to the bus station, and huged me. I just raised my head, and he kissed me. I didn't wanted to kiss me before, when i tried to kiss him, but he kissed me now, why? So my bus came and i went home confused like hell. I said to myself, that he would probably call toonight, but he didn't. And he didn't call me whole day eather. I sent him a sms "I want to hear you, and i want to see you but i don't know what to say to you after what happened yesterday." He didn't answer.
What is he doing? Why is he accting that way? Should i give up from him, or keep trying?

 

hello.
right...
first things first. a break can be a really good thing for a relationship...but if one strays, then it becomes complicated. you said that you's have been seeing each other for little over a year now, things were going straight and seemed solid. then he wanted a break.
you said the reason of his was "exams, and to get his head straight". thats fair enough, everyone should repspect that...but (!) he lied to you, when it's quite obvious the sole purpose he wanted this break was to see another girl.
his exams are coming up, could you's have not just agreed to not see each other as much until they've passed?...nope. he didnt want to 'cheat' on you whilst seeing you.
i honestly dont blame you for getting mad at that. to me, he's a right dick for doing that to you.
but anyway...
you pressed him further, and later found out he has feelings for this lass (come on, is it soo hard to figure out). he's apparently told you that "she means nothing" to him. so, if this other girl meant nothing to him, why put a relationship on hold, with a girl that you apparently love, to go and taste another?

to me, thats strike 2.

so now, he's not too sure what he wants. he's still 'seein' this other girl, while still claiming love to you. is it just me, or is his priorities just fucked up?
oh yeah, to put something else ontop of this...he wanted this 'break' to consentrate on this exams...yet the nights he's supposed to be revising, he's learning the nuts and crannies of another girl.

he's calling you, texting you, talking to you, meeting up with you, telling you he misses you...but come on. where is this really gonna go afterwards? it isnt fair that he's out there, experiancing someone new, while you're still hooked up on him.
of course he's gonna' miss you, still have feelings for you; 1 year & 2 months is quite a long time for a late teen relationship. but seriously, and in all honesty; drop his dumbass. he doesnt deserve you, or your time.
if he really cared for you; really loved you; really wanted to be with you...then he wouldnt put you's on hold to sleep around (or whatever he's doing, none of us will know that).
and as far as it goes about "what it means?" about what he's doing...he's just stringing you on. putting the bait out there, and reeling it in everytime you get close. turn away. you'll more than likely end up getting hurt even more in the longrun
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i hope someone else replies to this post, besides me. lol...
take it easy

 

Give him his space. Continue on with your life. I hate to say it sounds like the end, but in my experience this kind of situation is usually the start of the end. Take the space he wants and go live your life. If you should meet someone else in this time you like, hang out with him (he did after all hook up with someone else while he should have been focusing on what he said he needed space for, which certainly was not seeing other people). If not, live free and unbound and secure in you singleness. Don't try and define it, you'll just make yourself crazy trying to make sense of it all. Embrace your new freedom and see this as a chance to grow and evolve. One of the most fucked up things one can do to another is to leave them hanging while they take "space". If he needs space he's pretty much breaking it off but doesn't have the balls to really do it because part of him does still care about you, and he doesn't really want to hurt you (even though he did). This is probably confusing to him as well. Confused or not this is selfish. He doesn't want to lose you while he's taking space, and he doesn't want you there either while he's figuring his shit out. He can't have his cake and eat it too. Move on girl. You deserve better and he deserves to be free if he wants to and you both deserve the respect of each other. I know this sounds harsh and maybe a little mean but I'm really trying to keep it real for you. You're young and chances are you have a few more boyfriends to go through anyway before you settle down with the one that's right for you. Don't wait around for this guy and tell him you're not waiting. If it hurts him,well...then it hurts him. Life hurts. This experience will only make you and him stronger, better and hopefully more self-realized people.

 

sorry, i couldnt figure out how to delete a post...so.
hello again.
good bye again.
take it easy again.

 

I just talked to him on the phone...
and the truth is that, the more time passes, the more repuslive he is becomeing to me.

I used all time when we were apart to think things trouhg, but more i analyse and think i found that he is a selfish and mean person that doesn't deserve my love and my trust. He thinks that he controles the whole situation, and that he can do whatever he likes with me, but i just realised that, that is his way of hiding who he really is and hideing frome the fact that he has everything, and he is still lost and that he doesn't know what to do. Uhhhhh i'm angry

 

hmmm...lol.
you're angry at the minute, maybe 'cos you've opened ya eyes to see what he's really doing. i mean, if you's do work it out, then thats great. you's might be happy for a while, but he isnt really going to change. whats to say that, you's hit it off again, you conect with him on an even deeper level, and then he decides he needs space again, or someone else. it's toying with your mind, we can see that.

you're seventeen. get out there, get wasted, lose all responsibilities and run wild...its ya only chance. lol.

 

p.s.
yes, i do realise i am the same age, but my mind is older. haha

 

true- he doesn't know what he wants

Yesterday when i talked to him on the phone, he was so cold, and he had that tone in his woice like i dicapointed him, and like he is way too mature for me (btw he is 21).

And i don't know if he is worth waiting, i meen, i do love him, but he need to straight some things up in his head. At this point i'm so angry at me because i let him feel that he knows everything, and that he is the person with experience, and is some way let him manipulate with me emotionaly. And i'm andry at him because he can't recognize sincire love, that he is so selfish in this relationship, that he doesn't care for my feelings, and that his picture of love and good relationship are totaly wrong.

 

He is using you. Come on, he comes up with an "idea" for a break but really just wants to bang some other girl. Your better then this, tell him to fuck off.