Should i be worried..

If im wondering that im pregnant , should i watch what i eat, drink or do? Im wondering because I had sex on tuesday with no condom. im on the pill of course but Im wondering cause my period is right around the corner and I feel no cramping what so ever, i should start this tuesday and usually the pill gives me a "warning" or to let me know its coming by crampIng or pain in the ovaries about 3 days before. Now it was weird, the night we had sex, 2 hours later, I felt real bad stomach pains and ovaries pain. which seemed weird to me.

Now im wondering, that when your period is close, dont you fertilize more? Im not worried if i am. Ive been before and had to get what seemed a forced abortion (long story). and i wanna make it right next time

anyways. just a wonderin girl. thanks for your help

if i put this in the wrong spot. sorry

stacy

 

If your on the pill and you take it properly then chances are that your aren't pregnant. However I think you should be more careful, your only 18. And while you may want a child you are in no way ready for one.

 

Wow, lulu!

You are most fertile about 2 weeks after your period. Usually when I am pregnant, I get much worse cramps and feel much more like my period is coming, but then it doesn't show up. As for being careful, I can't be one to give good advice here. All three of my children were conceived while I was nice and high LOL. I always stop smoking immediately when I find out I'm preggo. I also have been very relaxed about what I eat during pregnancy, I've even had sushi this time. Good luck! Chances are you are not pg, but then again I'm carrying a baby that was conceived while I was taking the pill.

(((HUGS)))) see you in chat love!

 

That's a bit unfair. Do you know this girl? How do you know whether she's ready for a child or not?

One of my friends had a baby at 17, and another is expecting her second baby around the time of her 19th birthday. They are both wonderful mothers. Myself, I got pregnant at 19 and had my son a week after my 20th.

Unless you know this girl personally, I don't see how you could possibly know whether she's ready for a child or not.

 

Well said. You cant judge people like that, its terribly closed-minded. Im 20, married and were planning our first-is this wrong because Im 2 or 3 years older than this girl? I can tell you now it isnt. We know people twice our age who arent half the parents well be

Back to the subject at hand I doubt youre pregnant if on the pill and youve taken every pill. Youre also usually fertile mid cycle, not towards the end. The pill can mess with periods and your feelings a lot. I wouldnt sweat it. If no sign of change as the days pass then test to put your mind at rest

 

well thank you for the advice. its sunday night and still no signs that its coming. Ive had sex on the pill and it never did this before. Ive been late a couple times lately with the pill but I dont think that'll make a difference.

Im anxious to find out if its coming. Im nervous but if I am pregnant, I know what to do this time


And for your comment, I know Im young but that doesnt make me ready for my own baby. I'd work like hell to raise a baby despite age. Some girls do, some girls dont. My cousins are 19 and 21 and both had babies and are doing fine with husbands to be too.

but thank you again for the advice ill keep you updated.

 

This is how she knows:

Really?! in 2008 you don't know the answer to that question?!

 

good luck with it all stacy. i think if you've been taking the pill regularly, you're most likely not pregnant. i know when we slip up and don't pull out, because it's POSSIBLE my mind plays tricks and i feel every single pang or wierdness in my belly region that i wouldn't have even noticed had i not been on "pregger alert."

and i agree... age isn't a perfect determinant of whether or not someone's ready to be a parent. while a fewer percentage of 18 year olds are prepared mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, etc. for the life changes that come with having a baby than say, a 25 year old, there are many many MANY 18 year olds who have had babies and are excellent parents, either alone, or with a partner. there are also MANY 25 year olds and even older, who have lots of money, are in marriage relationships, whatever... the things we call determiners of who is prepared to have a kid... and who are SHITTY parents.

so... the only person who can make a choice of readiness is you. and you sound like you've thought it through, and have dealt with things, and can make smart decisions.

 

the thing is, studies are always telling us one thing or another, and change what is recommended all the time.

personally, i think that smoking pot during the pregnancy is completely different than smoking cigarettes, and it's possible that i may do so occasionally while i'm preggers (whenever that may be).

i think the fact that she's asking for more information shows that she's concerned for the welfare of a potential unborn child, regardless of whether or not she already knows the information.

knowing the information doesn't make you fit to be a parent. seeking out what you don't know, and using the information does.

 

hey its called asking for advice. God forbid if your daughter came up to you asking for help





I know what to eat and what not to eat, im just making sure from experienced women so if you dont like what im asking, then butt out

And ive been pregnant before so I know what mothers feel about babies cause I lost mine when I didnt want it to be lost.

Again, maybe it is the pill playing tricks. I just wish it'd stop lol

 

yes the studies are always changing but there are fundamental things that never change....good eating habits, exercise, not smoking/drinking,no drug use, taking vitamins, etc....
IF my daughter came to me for advice on this, I would feel as if I failed as a parent(I'm not saying I wouldn't help her because I would that's what mothers are for) at 18 years old in this day and age she should know the basics of it all, mostly out of my teachings but also because there is so much info everywhere you turn these days....

knowing doesn't neccesarily make you ready or not ready, but like you said nth seeking the info is what's important, and knowing where to seek it is even more important....hipforums certainly wouldn't of been my choice as a starting point....

I apologize for coming off flippant that was not my intention.

I wish you the best of luck stacy, i know how stressful these things can be.

 

I still stand by my statement. I've never seen a successful young mother. And lately I think it's a fad to get preggo young. Lets look at all those highschool teen girls shall we?

 

Suppose lifes simpler all boxed up

 

^ thats a good quote lol

I didnt come here to be criticized. Im sorry if i dont know the basics of the right foods to eat. Its not like i read the pregnancy magazine every day

 

Thats just the thing though, if your trying to get pregnant you should be. You should be very aware of what your going to be putting your body threw and what it's going to need in that situation. If your mature enough to have a child you should be mature enough to take care of it, from the second of conception.

 

but thats just another thing. I never said I was trying to get pregnant. If I was, I wouldnt be coming here on asking advice on how to get pregnant

I said i wonder if im pregnant. Which im not, fortunately. but If I was, I'd still do everything in my power to support it. The girls you think about are the white trash girls who dont care. Im far from one. and it angers me that you still said that without even knowing me and I wish you would take it back but whatever.

 

But alas I wont. I still believe in my opinion. You have yours I have mine.

 

Seriously?? Never?? And what do you qualify as successful?

 

Ouch. Thanks. And here I thought I was doing okay.

Stacy Lulu... any "word" yet one way or the other? To answer your question, yes. Watching what you eat/drink/do would be a very good idea. Just in case. Those first weeks are supposed to be crucial for organ development.
love,
mom

 

my neighbors got married/pregnant young. things aren't going so well. they quit their good times too soon, i think. i haven't seen succesful lives from young parents, either. but you know something? there's a lotta older parents that suck just as much at it. as long as you love your kid and do your best, they'll notice and love you for it.

but the OP said "should i worry?" that's a key indicator of not being ready, especially since she's been on the pill. we can safely assume she didn't consider herself ready, either. but, at any rate, her first question is to go on to what she should be eating or drinking. stay away from alcohol & drugs until you know, but dont' freak about it. see a doc to test for your pregnancy asap.