Should I be a Nudist?

I'm 19 and Female, up untill last week my only experience of public nudity was either at the doctors getting a check up or the showers at the Gym or school. last month however i went to a new friends house for the first time, I've only known this girl for about 6 months and didn't know a lot about her, she was new to our area, but I was invited to a family barbecue, it was a boiling hot day and after a while their pool started to look very inviting, so I asked if I could borrow a suit and go for a swim, Annie, my friend said I could go for a swim but no one in her family used suits, they all went skinnydipping, so I couldn't borrow one, I found this a bit strange but thought to forget it, maybe seeing my heitation Annie and one of her female cousins started to strip off right there, after a lot of persuasion they convinced me to join them. So after a few minutes I was naked and hooked, I found it odd and brilliantly liberating that although everyone else there saw me naked no one cared at all or paid me undue attention, a few of the boys did share but not in a pervy way or a ay that made me feel uncomfortable. It was truly brilliant, this was on a friday evening and I didn't go home until monday morning, and I spent that entire time naked, sometimes I was the only one to be so somtimes all of us were but whatever the situation no-one thought it was anything but fine, or natural, and the whole time I felt comfortable and free. It was actually a real disapointment when I had to get dressed to go home. Anyway the next week I talked to my family about my desire to be naked around the house, They were, understandably I know, shocked but my parents at least, said that if thats what I wanted to do then of course I could. so the next morning I didn't bother getting dressed when I got out of the shower, and went down for breakfast naked, they all looked a bit surprised and uncomfortable but didn't say anything, then the first weird thing happened, my dad who was going of to work, instead of giving me, as has been usual all my life a tight hug just leaned over, careful to avoid any contact with my body and pated me on the back, for the rest of the day my mum was very stiff and even formal with me, as if she didn't know how to react, but my brother, 17, was the most worrying, he spent most of the day starring at me in a way theat made me very uncomfortable, I think that despite all his talk he hasn't actually ever seen a naked woman in person before, I've only repetead this experiment 3 times since, all with similar results.

I find this very dissapointing, as I truly love being naked now, not for any sexual reasons, well outside of the obvious ones, but just because I feel really free and comfortable that way, I can see three options, and in increasing chances of happening here they are, 1. try and get my family to spend a day naked to see if they like it and would join me in attempting such a lifestyle, 2. try and educate them on naturism, bare in mind i'm still figuing it out myself, or 3. should I give it up until I move to uni next year,I would love any advice or help any of you could offer, what do you think? am I being unreasonable springing this on my family or do they just need time to adjust, what should I do? help please. thanks

 

Greetings, Rosie, and welcome to the Forums.

First of all, congratulations on having discovered the liberating and natural experience of casual and comfortable nudity. An experience like that BBQ at your friend's place is among the best to come to know that being nude is best on hot days (or, in general, really).

About your family, I'd say it's a good sign that they did not react by banishing your wish to be nude totally, but tried to get along with it. I guess, their discomfort is based on being thrown into the cold water, so to speak, therefore not being totally at ease, dealing with their nude daughter. Our society has put "nude" into a sexual drawer, by means of advertizing and other media, therefore taking away the ease of dealing with it. Therefore, your dad wasn't comfortable with hugging you while you're skyclad and your mum reacted the way you described. As for your younger brother, well, at age 17 his hormones are still boiling, and you might be right, that your body was the first real one he saw nude close-up.

Regarding the options you listed, I wouldn't try to force number 1 (trying it out) on them... it seems they still need some time to be comfortable with it. Option number 2 sounds good - but I wouldn't use the word "educate" but "talk", rather... they might learn something from it, but to educate someone sounds a bit like forcing them into a situation to having to learn something. If the conversation results in revealing their discomfort, although they initially said, that they'd be OK about it, if it makes you feel OK, best stick to option number 3 - moving out to go to college means entering a new situation, meeting other, possible like-minded people and perhaps being able to live in a clothes-free environment.

Until then, best enjoy your nude freedom while being alone or, even better, while being with your friend, who seems to be very open and carefree about it. About your initial question in the title of your post "Should I be a nudist?", I'd say that you already are and feel good about it. Keep it up and enjoy it.
:sunny:

Wiggling bare toes,

~*Ganesha*~

 

Again congratulations you've discovered what took me 40+ years to realise. You have also found that it is a largely textile world and that not everyone shares your passion for going nude. When you go to university next you may find that your house mates are no different to your family in their attitude so I'd go softly softly there when the time comes. What you should do is to continue enjoying nude swimming and sunbathing when you can and never forget just how much nicer it feels.

Perhaps pushing your nudity onto your is not such a good idea though again you could go softly softly. Sunbathe nude if they don't mind, indoors perhaps a light robe, talk to family and ask how they feel.

You should think about the future and how you want you life to develop, any partner and family you may have. I wish I had been brought up in a naturist family, you have the fore knowledge to do that for your family in the future. Best wishes.

 

I think that Ganesha has given you some great advice. You are a nudist and enjoy your new found freedom!

 

If you enjoy it and know when it is not going to offend others, well done. Swimming naked is wonderful.

 

Hi Rosie,

So you got the "n"-virus ;-)

I guess the most working possibility to make nudism part of your daily life is to widen up your nuditiy range by and by, step by step. The shocking methods usually don't work or have bad side effects.

Anyway, it's good you have friends who offer you possibilities to go bare at their site.

Good luck and take care!

 

Thanks for all the replies guys, I talked to my parents about it again and they said it wasn't that I wanted to be nude, they don't have a problem with that it's more just that they are going to need time to get used it, they even said, which really surprised me, that 'under the right circumstances, at some time they could maybe be tempted to try goin nude' although I think that was more to try and reasure me that they don't have a problem with me being nude than any desire to be so themselves, I'm lucky to have them as parents I know, they are very understanding. To help them get used to it I'm not going to drop them in at the deep end, as I did before, by going completly naked all the time, instead I'm going to build up to it in stages, like right now i'm only waring a pair of panties and nothing else, interestingly my dad gave me a proper hug this morning even although it meant my naked breasts were pressed against his clothed chest, although i think he might just have been making an effort, bless him. My mum also seems to find it easier to treat me normaly when i'm like this, I'm also taking to leaving the door open when having a bath or shower and not covering up between my room and the bathroom, I'm also, when weather permits, sunbathing nude in the garden. what do you all think are these steps appropriate or am i still doing to much to quickly, keeping in mind I do have the tacit approval of my family. in relation to my brother, he isn't as bad with staring at me now as he first was but he could still be better, I think I will either take him along to Annies house one day, which I could easily forsee being a horrible mistake, what do you lot think? or just try and get him a girlfriend, my only fear with that is if he does get a girlfriend then he may start to relate nudity to sex and nothing else, either that or I may just continue to carry on as I am around him and let him grow out of it at his own rate. any more thoughts, or advice on any of what i've said would still be much appreciated. Cheers guys.

 

So, it was just initial surprise... nice to hear, that your parents are generally positive about nudity and also wish to try it out... let's hope you all get the chance to enjoy some recreational nudity outdoors as a family this year, before the weather gets too cold.

About your brother and your idea of taking him to one of Annie's clothing-optional parties... he might react to the nude young women around him with a typical thing (literally) happening to young men inexperienced with nudism - an erection... Among nudists, it will be taken in stride and most likely ignored, if he doesn't flaunt it.
Perhaps he'll be more comfortable around other nude people, if he tries it out slowly at first, for instance with you and your family.

As for finding him a girlfriend... well, sex and nudity walk hand in hand, when he discovers the world of lovemaking. However, he already has come to know by your example, that nudity isn't necessarily sexual, but merely the most natural state of being.

Congratulations are again well in order - this time for the open minds of your family, who are willing to not only accept your lifestyle and wellness choice, but also to try it out themselves. I'm sure that very soon Scotland will have one more happy nudist family.
:sunny:

Wiggling bare toes, currently skyclad at home, too,

~*Ganesha*~

 

Congratulations on your new found nudist experiences, Rosie!

You might also like to share them on these sites which are geared towards younger aged people: http://www.internationalyn.org and http://www.chatbocks.com/board

 

Congrats!!!!!!

Being naked is awesome and im glad you were not afraid of yourself to remove your clothes!!

CLOTHES ARE NOT NATURAL so its understandable why we feel better W/O THEM


Welcome to the site!

 

Yeah, think my parents were really just saying that to try and convince me that they don't have a problem with it than through any desire to try it themselves, at least thats the impression I got and I'm not going to push them into it, but rather leave it to them and let them have the initiative. In relation to my Brother Ganesha, of course I know sex and nudity go hand in hand, and when I'm looking for a sexual partner I still use my body to its best advantage, I'm just scared he might make that sole connection between sex and nudity, as, I'm afraid to say that was the case for me before my first expereince of co-ed nudity I was only ever naked in front of a guy if it was going to involve, intamacy, which seemed normal. In relation to your idea of easing him gently into a nudist lifestyle, as I think nudism could be good for him, he has very low self esteem, and he has expressed a passing interest in it before. just a couple of days after your post I got the chance to try it out. Anyway, I was having a bath, with the door wide open of course, when Keir, my brother, got home from a run, I called him into the Bathroom and we chatted for a bit, but he was obviously waiting to use the shower, so I suggested he just use it at the same time as I was in the bath, the Bath and shower are completly seperate nothing incesty going on I promise. at first he seemed shocked and very unsure. After a bit of gentle persuasion from me he said he would be to embarassed and actually said he was afraid that I would 'laugh at it' I was a bit upset that he had this belief but managed to re-asure him by saying 'wh would I laugh? I'm your sister besides I'm already naked you could laugh at me if I laugh at you' to my surprise, I really thought he was just going to wait, he started to strip, he did turn away from me when it came to taking his boxers off, and he did try to cover himself at first but after a minute, when he was under the shower and saw my non-reaction, he calmed down and started to act normally. when I got out of the bath and started to dry myself he did get that 'typical thing' you mentioned and immediatly stiffened, if you'll pardon the term no pun meant honest, but I just ignored it and he relaxed again. Any further work to such an end however will have to wait as I'm now on holiday with Annie at my first nude beach!! YAAY! i'm loving it

 

Being naked is indeed natural - finding an appropriate location and people of relevant mindset make a good, relaxing atmosphere of freedom

 

Just because you have chosen nudist lifestyle, it shouldn't be forced upon your brother. Your brother might not be able to separate a nudist situation from sexual impulses. Those who make it sound easy are usually older and have forgotten how youth and hormones affect people. I was raised in a nudist family and I still have times when I get aroused.
Let your brother practice among family and friends before having him interact with strangers. impromptu erections can be awkward.

 

you miss understand me, I would never force him into that lifestyle or any other lifestyle for that matter, just because I enjoy it doesn't mean he or anyone else would, but he has expressed an interest before and all I'm trying to do is provide a safe comfortable enviroment where he can try it if/when he should ever want to. okay so maybe further work was a poor choice of words, and I wouldn't take him along somwhere where nudity would be prevelant against his will. All I'm wanting to do is allow his curiosity to take a natural path.

 

Rosie
I'm sorry if I did misunderstand you. I love being nude. I love the freedom and I admit that I have a "thing" about how certain textures feel on me. All I meant was to say, go slow with yourself and with him. Good Luck.

 

No harm no foul as they say, yeah i'm certain this isthe lifestyle for me but I am still experimenting on how to make the most of it, like where and with what, people are more or less tolerant, as for my brother or anyone else around me and my nudist friends that might be influenced either way, well, everything in life happens at it's own pace and all we can and should do is play our part when appropriate. Just my curiosity but which textures do you mean? assuming you mean clothes, for me personally I can't stand the feel of Nylon, even before I beame a practicing nudist I couldn't stand its feel.

 

What Kind Of Seasons Do You Get In Scotland, I Always Assumed It Was Too

Cold To Get Your Kilt *sorry meant kit* Off...



Cheers Glen.

 

August and september are our warmest months, usually. May-July, it's bareably warm, most of the rest of he year it's bloody freezing, and nudism is more of an indoor pursuit, or so I've been told anyway, apart from the odd day.

 

True but there are options depending on how important it is too you to get opportunities to be naked. I'm more conservative than most (well most in naturist forums) in that simply being nude indoors generally doesn't do anything for me and I'm not inclined to bare all in front of friends and family who are not nudist inclined. However when doing DIY, housework and gardening I will go nude if it seems right even in cooler weather. Sun bathing and swimming does need warm weather.

From what you have said (Rosie55) I can empathise with you though at your age I didn't try nudism, thinking back to when I first bared all on a beach for a year to two afterwards I was far keener than I am now. If you want to push your personal boundaries above all be careful with your sexuality. A safer and possibly lucrative way of exploiting your assets would be to consider life modelling; I've spoken to some now more mature ladies who used to life model as students and many of said that it was a stimulating experience.

 

It's not about getting anything from it for me, I just genuinley find it more comfortable to be naked than to be clothed, so inddors or outdoors makes little difference to me, and as you can maybe tell from my posts, I'm not at all bothered who sees me naked, nudist or other wise, got to say, I'm curious as to what you mean by 'above all be careful with your sexuality' as i'm no more sexually active or extrovert now than I was before and the only people who see me naked, and might get the wrong idea, are family, friends or other nudists, apart from a few when I was on holiday I guess, and none of those groups think of me like that, at least as far as I know. As for the life modeling, yeah I've been thinking about that, it could be amusing and interesting, might answer some ads about that. cheers freecospirit