Let me start by saying I love my wife to the moon and back! We've been married for ten years, have two beautiful children, and live comfortably. We are both considered attractive but we are both over weight. A little about both of us before I explain my problem. I'm 46, stocky muscular build, with a belly, and a short (avg. according to studies) thick cock. Wife is beautiful, size 12 but was a size 20 or so until she had the lap band surgery. So on to the problem, I'm very open minded. She is not. My wife does love sex but, it is the same thing and routine every time except maybe for a once a year thing! I love sex too, but I'm getting to the point of where I don't care anymore since it's routine and boring! I've tried talking to her multiple times about numerous things to try and spice things up, but she always says "why do we need to spice things up?" "I'm happy with things the way they are." So damn frustrated I don't even try and talk to her about it anymore. I would do anything for her, sexually or other, if she wanted. I always do and get everything she wants! If she wanted to watch me with another man, hell, I'd at least try it to please her. I'd love to have a three way with her, but unlike most men, I'd love for it to be a male, female, male threeway. I'd love to see her with another man while I watched and/or joined in. I'd love to see her experience a bigger cock, kiss her while she's being pleasured, be in a sixty nine while she's getting it from behind, etc. I could keep going on but I think you get the picture. And while I'd love to see this and participate, it's really for her pleasure, I love seeing the look on her face when she's having multiple orgasms, and I just want to intensify that even more for her! She's not even interested! She doesn't even masterbate or have any fantasies (which she is either lying or isn't normal)!!!! Help!!!!!!! Advice on how to get her to open up? I've been talking and hinting for ten years! I haven't been pushy either!!!! Any advice would be appreciated. Then again, maybe it's just me being over sexed?
see you talk about how you want her to be with another man for her pleasure when it's already quite clear she doesn't want that and you already pleasure her. so this is just selfish really, you want to experience your kinks. no point trying to jusitfy on her behalf, it's you. I feel the sooner you get it into your head that the real work and relationships are not like the ones you watch on your porntubes the better. curiosity can get the best of anyone, but it doesn't mean you HAVE to go out of your way, especially if your partner has already stated she's not interested. So you gotta stick with her, or find someone else more compatible. would that be worth it?
I do understand that, but I'd even be happy if she would be more spontaneous or want to something to spice things up. Our sex routine is the same thing, same place, same position every time. Sex somewhere other than the bedroom would be nice, I guess I focused too much on one thing in my post. I do respect that she's happy with me and me alone and I simply told her a fantasy, I know it'll never happen. Was just trying to find something to peak her interest. Hell, the back seat of my truck after a concert, on the couch in our living room, in our camper while camping, somewhere other than the bedroom which she doesn't feel is needed. But thanks for responding! I apologize for getting carried away more on one subject than another.
She is who she is and if she is ss you claim she is, what you are looking for is well beyond what seems reasonable for her. There is nothing that indicates that this is a possibility. No history that would lead one to believe she would open up to these types of requests. I could see trying to get her to open up slightly ( move from a 3 to a 4), but your asking her to love from a 1 to a 10. It sounds like this is the woman you married. In my experience, Tigers don’t change their stripes very much. If you, in the past, had episodes that were adventurous, then maybe, but given the fact that this isn’t the case, it seems unreasonable to believe she would all of a sudden be open to this.
