Sexual frustration?

ok me and my wife have been married 3 months we still haven’t had sex yet we was waiting until Marriage but nothing we have had 3 hotel rooms plenty of privacy we have talked about having sex and not a thing ever happens and I’m so aggravated about it and she know me this I’ve told her we need to have sex and she always says to quit pressuring her Bc it makes her not want to do it more. So me being frustrated about it I have stopped kissing her we r way distant now I don’t hold her hand or anything and I want too but I just can’t get past the fact I want sex and she may never want it I hardly talk to her I stay on my phone or distracted by other females walking by I love my wife I truly do but what do I do about my situation?
I have suggested marriage counseling and she says no I’ve tried everything thing we had romantic nights and everything

 

This is a thing now.

 

and it's so adorable.

I miss being young, innocent and watching Sesame Street

 

To say that "I’ve told her we need to have sex" is a tad concerning - and not understanding her feelings makes one think that your desire for lust takes undue precedent.
Sex through Love may be an outdated concept but one has to ask, if you got married just to have sex and does not bode well for the future.
Maybe you want to take the physicality of action off the table and concentrate on the mentality of mutual respect and understanding -if it is to be then it will be

 

I have more respect for my wife the. Any one else I love her so much that why I. Don’t want to get a divorce of this I wanna work things out. Ur yes sex is an important part of a marriage I didn’t marry her to just have sex if I just wanted sex I would have left a year and half ago I wouldn’t have waited

 

If you've only been married for 3 months, this sounds like grounds for annulment. This is definitely something that should have been worked out long before you got hitched!

 

Will probably take you another 20 years to work out she has probably been doing some 50 yr guy these last couple of months

 

Are you just an instigator, or do you actually believe the shit you say?

 

Sex before marriage is such a ridiculous concept. I prefer ‘try before you buy’

 

Maybe something happened to her, making her afraid of sex? Just guessing. If not and she just doesn’t want to ever have sex, you might need to make a difficult decision.

 

Maybe she's a Shaker. Try taking her out dancing.

 

i have nothing to add. i'll wait until the upcoming "we've been married 4 months and she won't have sex with me" thread.

 

Why not just start by enjoying each other's company with an item of clothing off. When she's comfortable try again with another item off. Compliment each other about what is revealed. May take a long time but perhaps it'll be the best in the end.

 

What a load of crap.
The guy has been married for 3 months and no sex yet. (if true)
I am pretty sure no one would claim he is pressuring her. That is absurd. IT'S BEEN THREE MONTHS.
The fault is 100% hers. Now that fault might be related to a physiological problem stemming from past abuse or incest, but nevertheless he does not bear any fault.
A guy wanting to have sex is normal and acceptable. Claiming he is insensitive because so, is ludicrous.

As to the OP.... you both should go to a therapist. The root of her problem is the only way to find out why this is happening. And don't try playing therapist yourself.

 

Daddy issues for sure with this one

 

Wow - An expert ?!?

 

Champagne and Barry White.

 

No, just reasonable.

 

you, or them? lol

 

... In your Minds eye