Hi Everybody: I am 61 y/o ... for those who are married and/or single but have "NO SEX LIFE". I am probably one of many and all of us for different reasons. Mine is: that I chose to go with a woman who was domestic ... but ended up being TOO DOMESTIC and starting as far back as the early 90's it started going down to where in the 2000 it was down to 4 times a year ... AND NOW it is "ZERO" for the past 7 years. Mine is: that the thought of contracting AIDS or the untreatable Gonorrhea or even Syphilis has kept me from even fooling around.
look... everyone is waking off. don't be ashamed. it's nothing special. tho since you do have a wife maybe you could have a discussion with her? try to do something romantic that will make her remember the old times. flowers and stuff.. try to reignite the old flame.
Wow, that seems harsh OP. So even if you ask your wife once in a while does she just say no and that's it? Or have you just not brought it up in the last 7 years? I hope when I get to that age my wife still puts out once in a while at least. Or if not I sure hope there's some kind of virtual reality doll or something other than simple masturbation
I don't know her reasons, but when I read this stories, I always wonder how come a person denies such a simple pleasure to a partner for life. Did sex use to be enjoyable for her, or did she often end up without an orgasm? I'm just trying to understand how that's possible. I understand your frustration.
It is easy to say "what's the problem" until your experiencing it, who knows why some go like this, maybe they try religious, maybe their hormones change ... I have a friend who simply says ... "your not giving her enough" .... wow, simplistic view indeed, will thanks for your post
But what IS the problem? Have you talked to her about it? Don't be accusatory. Say you miss the romance and begin the conversation. Alternatively, why not do something romantic? Pretend you are dating again. Do something you used to enjoy doing. Eventually you need to find out why your sex life has gone downhill. When I was pregnant with our first child, I REALLY wanted sex. My sex drive increased and hubby didn't realize it. He was busy studying for an exam and I didn't want to disrupt his time. Eventually I said something to him about wanting it more often. I teased him about "neglecting" me and he was happy to hear I wanted it more often. Recently I hit my mid thirties and my sex drive is through the roof. Again, I told him I wanted it more often and we actually have a plan to do it every night. We have two small children who usually prevent that from happening, but we try and do it whenever we can. You both have to want it for it happen. And it needs to be GOOD for both of you, otherwise, why bother?
