sexual dysfunction

Anyone here have a sexual dysfunction? Premature ejaculation? Erectile Troubles? I don't have either of those but I do have one. My dick can stay rock hard for a really long time but it won't cum during sex if I'm topping or being blown. I think it's mostly due to me being circumcised. I've read some circumcised guys can have lesser sensation in the tip since it's always exposed. But I think it's also mental because I can make myself cum pretty easy while jerking off. Also may have to do with a long term sexual relationship I was in where I was the bottom.

I've always loved guy's asses. And when I'm with a guy with a hot ass, I want to stick my dick in it so bad. I think I was mentally a top at first. But the first few guys I fucked, I would always use a condom and I would just fuck them forever until they couldn't take it anymore, then I would have to take the condom off and finish myself off. Then I became monogamous for a long time with one guy who didn't really like to be fucked, let alone be fucked for an hour straight. So I became the bottom in the relationship. I mostly pleased him orally because he could cum super fast that way which made me really envious because he could never please me orally. When we did fuck, we finally got it to where I could cum from him jerking me off while he fucked me, and that's pretty much the only way I would cum for years unless I was jerking myself off. So did I condition my dick to only cum from jerking off? I did have this issue before being in that relationship but maybe I just made it worse?

So my question is. Is there any hope for me? Has anyone had this issue and overcome it? I am really frustrated about this. I have accepted my role as a bottom and I really enjoy sex as a bottom but I still want to be able to fuck a guy and cum inside of him so bad. I am getting really desperate. Thinking of buying one of those contraptions that stretches your penis skin over time to make a new hood for the head of your cock. I've read that can return the penis head to it's natural mucous membrane state and increase sensitivity. wtf, who gave my parents and/or the doctor who delivered me that right to alter my natural body? It should be illegal. Also wondering if sexual hypnosis would help. For now, I'm gonna try the 90 day nofap and cross my fingers.

 

is this a serious question? 'cause the ultimate paragraph in your post was kind of borderline insane. forget about the hypnosis and stretching your penis to restore the foreskin. if that really worked don't you think plenty of guys would have done it by now? it's just myths.

it does not sound like a mental, or a psychological problem. i cum easier from jerking off than from fucking or getting blown too. most guys do. the reason is simple, when we masturbate we think about the things that get us off most, things that are sexually most exciting. some of the contents of those fantasies can be more explicitly exciting than just fucking a guy at times, which itself is dependent on the physical chemistry between you and the other guy among other things. thus, the process of masturbation is not directly analogous to having actual sex with another person. if you cum easier from masturbating it just means you know what gets you off and you're good at taking care of yourself. it's not a symptom of having a mental block on cumming from fucking an actual person.

 

Well, sometime I do feel a little borderline insane. Stretching out a new foreskin and restoring some of the sensitivity to your penis is not a myth though. You'll never get back the nerves that existed in your original foreskin but keeping the tip of your cock tucked into skin the way it's supposed to be instead of rubbing up against underwear all day does seem to restore it to more of a mucous membrane state (judging from some before and after photos I've seen). The reason more guys don't do it is because:

A. It's a lengthy process/ordeal/hassle that requires wearing a contraption on your cock most of the day. Who would want to do that? I imagine is very uncomfortable and requires a lot of discipline. I don't think I could ever do that. I'll just have to wait for medical science to come up with a break through where they can just regrow a real one.

B. A lot of guys are quite happy with their cut cock and wouldn't have it any other way.

I know it's easier for most guys to cum by jerking off. But not to the extent that I have this problem. I've been with a fair share of guys and they don't have this issue that I'm talking about.

 

I do not think that altering your penis by means of the pulling of your skin over your glans or whatever is going to solve anything and you said that you were able to have an orgasm during your long term monogamous relationship while your partner masturbated you while you were bottoming, maybe that is what you should try in the present and accept that you are not able to have an orgasm by topping or receiving oral sex. I should think as long as you can have an orgasm, it is pleasurable experience and not that big of a setback like being impotent. The glans at the tip of your penis is what causes the sensitivity and to pull skin over it I don't see how that would enhance the sensitivity of your glans at the head of your penis.

 

Sensitivity, or rather, the lack of it, can contribute to problems achieving orgasm. I have heard that foreskin restoration can help restore some of the sensitivity that was lost due to circumcision. It definitely wouldn't fully restore the sensations, but it may help. You also said that you used condoms while topping, which is good for protection, but can lower the sensations felt during sex. If you are in a relationship or with someone you trust, you could try bareback. Many guys will tell you that it is totally different. I can't use a condom if I want to top somebody, it just causes me to go soft due to the lack of sensations. But I rarely top, so it isn't a big deal for me.

 

Relatively few guys orgasm by receiving oral sex alone. Frequently, there is some hand action involved, too. Even fewer guys shoot after having being sucked for only several minutes unless they have a bad case of blue balls.

You may want to abolish the notion that sex is a race towards shooting your load in any previously planned manner. You want to go with the flow, enjoy the play, and shoot when the time comes, no matter how.

You are doing yourself little service by focusing on the lack of sensitivity that you are experiencing. Adopt this as being one of the aspects of your sexual being. Tons of other dudes are decrying the fact that they are too sensitive, shoot far too soon, and hence, disappoint their mates and themselves. You are on the other end of the scale, so start seeing this as something that is an advantage, too.

I always experience a great pleasure when a bottom dude admits that he cannot take the pounding anymore. You can give more than he take. Not too bad for you!

KD

 

I'm a top and like to be really hard when I am fucking my partner. Although I wouldn't class myself as having sexual dysfunction, I do find that I often lose the edge off my erection when fiddling to put the condom on. I now have half a viagra tablet about an hour before sex, and find that it keeps me really hard.