Sex Whilst Sleeping

within the bounds of our relationship and not wanting to cause any hurt, i tried to get away with doing things sexually with my wife whilst she was sleeping. the idea was to see how far i could get without waking her up.

unfortunately we never fisted and when i fingered her, i never used more than two fingers. and fingering her vagina, i was always driven to put another finger inside her, so the most i ever did was four fingers inside her vagina up to my hand whilst she was sleeping. i was surprised it didn't wake her up.

we weren't into s&m, but she loved having her nipple sucked, softely bitten or pinched. one night whilst i was rubbing her breast and playing with her nipple, i pinched it increasingly harder to a point where i could not have pinched it too much harder without hurting her.

i am currious if sex and sleeping is something others enjoy

 

yeah, sex and sleeping are both things that most people enjoy.

raping one's wife is something a few people enjoy before the divorce and/or jail.

 

I like to have sex when I'm having sex, and to sleep when I'm sleeping. Anyone who interferes with either is playing a risky game.

 

I bet she loves you because you remind her so much of Bill Cosby.

 

now that's not good. you could probably use, no, you could use help. your moral system, or rather lack of it, based on not raping your wife because of the social consequences sevely lacks any personal responsibility. you should avoid raping your wife because of personal morality and care for her well being. but far be it from me to preach, other than to say, it is probably better for you to not have a wife as the guidelines that you imply that you follow in treating her are based upon how society treats you.

 

my wife was aware of our physical relationship -as i described it, "whilst she was sleeping" i did not say "without her knowledge or consent or awareness". making jokes about sexual assault, especially when it comes to women, may be funny to you, but it isn't to me. so i would appreciate it at least in responding to my posts, if you keep your perverted sense of humor, implied willingness to mistreat women or misogyny to yourself. its not funny.

 

Then why did you say " I tried to get away with doing " If it really is with her consent why not say , Pretend to be asleep and i will fuck about with you !!
More Fun I reckon than getting a slap

 

Dude yout do stuff to your wife while she sleeps and nowhere I the first post did you mention the with her consent part. I think everyone's mind went to rape, undies just said it out loud.

 

because i didn't write, "I tried to get away with doing". i wrote, "within the bounds of our relationship and not wanting to cause any hurt, i tried to get away with doing things sexually with my wife whilst she was sleeping". i didn't write, "Pretend to be asleep and i will fuck about with you !!" for numerous reasons: i nor my wife consider, think, feel, etc of vaginal penetration as "fucking" nor "to fuck", it wasn't pretending.

"within the bounds of our relationship" is not expressing implied consent, it is expressing given, accepted and received consent. contrary to what "Aerianne" and "I'minmyunderwear" wrote and have implied, rape and or sexual assault is not "our", it is "my". one would think that this forum's administrators would not let children or under-aged people to participate.

my wife, as well as i was when she touched me sexually whilst i was sleeping, was aware of our sexual relationship, consented and enjoyed it. neither my wife nor i were hung up on the sexual insecurities that "Aerianne" and "I'minmyunderwear" portrayed in their responses by bullying of another in suggesting sadistic practices and accusations or inability to understand context or perhaps just read english on a 7th grade level.

one may reasonably wonder if "Aerianne" and "I'minmyunderwear" think or feel that every woman in a relationship is being violated when her spouse sees and looks at her in a state of undress without her awareness of every moment he sees her so or every woman who delivers a fetus naturally is raping her baby boy because she gives birth to him through her birth canal without his expressed consent. after all, she is putting his penis in her vagina and he isnt conscious of the event, is he.

 

Wow why do, things like wearing jeans turn us on............mainly 501s blue ...........by the way I'minmyunderwear you look good.

 

No but if a dude stuck his hand in my vagina while I slept I'd call that rape. Also, if this has you this upset, this probably isn't the place for you.

 

Unless you are really tired and fall asleep in the stirrups at the OBGYN

 

that is what i thought, Mattekat. after all, the subtitle to this forum, " Free Love", "Is promiscuity wrong or the way we were meant to be? Discuss sex without hangups, threesomes, orgies and more!"

we, my wife and i, always enjoyed falling asleep still in coitus, after she humped me or i humped her and we had climaxed or even without. or we enjoyed waking each other up purposely with sexual arousal.
in our marriage we often tried and succeeded in seducing each other: out of sleep, come home from work early, at our parents or friends houses, restaurants, etc

so what's with the pc police, the quickness and desire to cry wolf? we, my wife and i, never wanted nor engaged in anal sex, and i never have, but i don't go around accusing people who do sodomites.

we often kissed each other when we were conscious, without either knowing beforehand nor with either's expressed consent each time we kissed so. we often kissed each other when the other was asleep. so... let the accusations role on that.

 

i slip the women the dick all the time while she is sleeping, she loves it.. and recently pissed off because I havent woken her with the dick in over a week. Ive been getting up to late for work, sorry honey..

 

Calm down.

I'm the moderator here, not you.

 

According to this I'm a rapist, because I paw my husband into sexual readiness all the time when he was fully asleep until he's not so asleep anymore. Instead of crying rape or foul, he's quite grateful he's not asleep anymore. I'm going to venture a guess that the majority of people who answered this with "it's rape" are not married and don't understand that deepest level of closeness-at least that's how my marriage is. When my husband wakes me up with pawing and kissing (even in the nether-regions) I most certainly don't cry rape because I love the man. If he wants me during the night that's fine. If he still wants me after 20 years together I'm nothing but happy to oblige. That's marriage guys and girls. Give and take, share and care alike. You have to learn to give a little for someone else's benefit as they will do for you. If I hadn't learned to do this we wouldn't still be married. Same for him. I know I'm no frickin' picnic to deal with sometimes, so I can forgive him his little idiosyncrasies if he can mine.

 

Is your wife aware that you're doing this sort of thing? Is she okay with it? Those are the only questions that matter. Consent can be given for a specific sex act, or it can be given in a more general, flexible way, if someone chooses to do that.

When my husband and I agree to do something together, the last thing I want to do is get feedback from people online to see if they approve. On the other hand, once you put something out there on a forum, you should expect to get all kinds of opinions on it, from one end of the spectrum to the other.

 

im not lucky enough to have married but it sounds fun if both people agree to it

dont think id enjoy it much though...im a very light sleeper every little noise wakes me up

 

If my partner tried to wake me up by pawing around down there, with the intention of waking me up so I can actually enjoy it, well that's one thing. But if he stuck for fingers inside me while purposely trying NOT to wake me, then yeah that sounds a little Bill Cosbyish. I guess it's possible you have some kind of agreement to do this and she's okay with it, but that's a whole other another level of odd. Is it so bad she prefers to be asleep for it?

 

If a woman doesn't wake up during that it sounds to me like she's on some serious pharmaceuticals.