Our sex therapist told us to not have sex for a few months, we are about a month in. I feel like I've lost my sex drive now, I was fine prior.. but now I just cant get aroused even if I try to by myself. I've tried porn and it's not doing anything.. I'm also worried because it's been so long, when we do have sex I'm going to feel really embarrassed of my body again. Because I'm always like that when I first start having sex. I feel ugly and unattractive, and unwanted. I know he's only doing what the therapist said and I really want to be supportive to my partner because the issues are on his side. I just am worried that this sex therapy is making everything worse when we were finally starting to make progress. I feel like sex is a beautiful thing that brings you close together. And it feels like because we arent having sex that we arent as close. I just dont know how not having sex is going to make sex better I would of thought it would have the opposite effect. I dont feel attractive, I dont feel sexy. I honestly want to cry.
I feel the exact same way you feel "ugly and unattractive" but i am pretty sure you're not ugly. and i really wouldn't listen to that sex therapist, i mean..its your life and HIS life, you both can do whatever you want to, if you both want to have sex, you're free to do so. but i honestly don't think that you guys need to have sex in order to feel closer to each other, you're already closer to each other without it. idk anything about sex, i'm not experienced at all, so i can't give a positive input on why you're not getting aroused, and not even with porn. everything will be fine, just go with your gut, trust your instincts.
