I am ten years older than my brother (14 now) and for the first several years of his life I took care of him. I discovered he was autistic when he was two and spent three years trying to tell my mother who ignored it until a random pediatrician suggested it (because after two minutes in a room with him it was obvious!). When he was six I went off to live in my van and my oldest brother started taking care of him. My mother is a special kind of crazy. It's something I wont go into right now. My brother has a tablet that he was looking at some soft core porn on, apparently. My mom caught him and he tried to hide it (duh) and it made her angry so she started yelling at him for it. Now, on top of the already obvious complications my brother is going to have, he's got this mass shame thing hanging over him because my mom is an idiot. So, now, I feel like either me or my older brother should talk to him about sex and porn and such. He is very high functioning but, he's got a lot of privacy, embarrassment, and confidence issues. I feel, it has a lot to do with the way my mother acts and reacts. I don't think she knows or cares to know how to raise an autistic child. She refused help and advise from people with experience because she's raised three kids and doesn't need anyone telling her how. We were raised on humiliation. It's ridiculous. Our parents would treat us like idiots for acting embarrassed or deliberately try to embarrass us either as a form of punishment or their own amusement. Needless to say, me and my brothers have had a difficult time with just about everything. I can't imagine how much harder it is for my little brother. It breaks my heart and makes me very angry all at the same time. So, digression over, what's the best way to go about the sensitive topic of sex with an autistic child going through puberty who has been trained to be ashamed of himself? I understand that it's a very specific question and any thoughts would be appreciated. I don't expect this to be easy.
No it doesnt sound like it and i can tell how much you love him..... Autistic ppl need alot of love and understanding which most do not understand.... Your brother is probably QUITE AWARE of everything right?? (Aspertame being bad,etc) Please dont give up your love for him,sounds like he is quite lucky to have someone who cares and totally undertsand him Peace and love to you and your brother
