I think I need a reality check but need to ask. Happily married for almost 20 years. High school sweetheart (ie. Our both one and only for sex). Still have great sex life. She surprises me from time to time ( took 1st facial a few months ago). My question is am I missing something? So many beautiful women out there. I just wonder if "hooking up" with a few attractive women would satisfy my curiosity. I don't want to leave my wife. Just wonder... thanks in advance for suggestions.
A well developed and deep love beats running around, even if your wife doesn't find out you'll break the connection the 2 of you have. You have something rare and beautiful, I value and treasure what you have, but never had it myself, tried but never worked out.
I think that would just open Pandora's box. Don't fuck up your marriage just to get some different pussy. I could maybe understand you running out if you weren't getting any at home or just fell out of love, but that is a very, very bad idea. You will feel guilty. She will eventually find out and hate you for cheating on her, thing would never be the same. We won't even mention you losing over half your shit in the divorce. Real it in, put it back in your pants. It's ok to look now and then, but don't play with fire.
Bad idea You already have something many men would envy you for. If you start fooling around: No idea if you would have guilt or not Would you get hooked and think about repeating? With the same woman or others? You highly risk of ruining your relationship by creating a connection or desire
Why would you risk fucking up the relationship with a woman that loves you??! If you’re wanting to try something new, talk with your wife about any fetishes you both have and figure out a way to experiment with making them happen!! Nothing is more sexually fulfilling than sharing shared interests together! Make it fun and exciting for her and she will be open to sharing more experiences like it again!
BigBreastedTxGal has it right. My wife of twenty year and I talk about sex everyday. We share our sexual wants and needs. This is how we stay sexed up. No sex subject is taboo. I hope you value your relationship more than a chance encounter just to satisfy your hidden desires. You might start out by asking her a simple sex question. Don’t expect a answer from her right away. Let her think about it. My wife and I are very much in love, but we view sex as fun and for our health. So, we go nude and go to clothing optional resorts. Even some LS places. Again everything about sex is on the table for discussion and our marriage is rock solid and no surprises.
Get that idea out of your head . Its not good for your relationship. If there is something you want to try then talk to your OH . Part and parcel of a good relationship is communication . So communicate its good to talk
I really wouldn't recommend cheating on your wife in reality. In fantasy, on the other hand . . . well, though I'm a happily married old guy in reality, I've fantasized about being a shemale and having sex with quite a few men and women; you might want to try that.
Talk to her if you wonder about other women, she may wonder about other men. Not fair for one if not fair for both.
It sounds as if you have a great thing going. Don't screw that up! Lots of fun sex acts still to explore with your wife. That's the approach I would take if I were you. And if I were her I would enjoy that!
It sounds like she's going to continue to be more fun so I'd stick with her and talk about what you want. Role play maybe? My neighbor lost her husband a few years ago to cancer but they really started to role play in many different ways before he got sick and she loved it. Just a thought...
I don’t believe in monogamy so take my advice with a grain of salt. If your wife is satisfying you now, why cheat on her with another woman. I cheated on my wife a few times. It was always when my wife wouldn’t have sex either because she wasn’t in the mood at all or because she had sex that day with a fwb. I’d call them affairs because the three women I had sex with it was 2-3 times a week for several months. I’ve been with a few men. I’m picky about who I have full on sex with. Mutual blowjobs not as much. Clean and disease free but when I’m horny, it’s no big deal to get naked and do some mutual sucking. I don’t consider my gay encounters to be cheating in any form. I feel like a mental connection is cheating. When I’m with a man, it’s purely physical. So if you wanted to have sex with men, I’d say go for it. Your wife can’t give you what another man offers. But another woman? Especially one that keeps it lively, don’t fuck that up
Think men look upon sex more as a physical act while many women think it’s purely about intimacy, Biological experts would likely talk about the male compulsion to spread their seed and we humans do retain a good deal of that biological hard-wiring. Been married nearly fifty years and she’s my best friend, love having intimate sex and sharing. Love her very much. That being said, I still want purely physical sexual relationships that other men and I share. I used to be filled with guilt but realized my urges don’t take away from the love I have for my wife. No I don’t share my meetings with men with her because I know she would only see it as betrayal. She grew up in a strict Catholic family and can’t think outside of monogamous life. It would be an unnecessary destructive act to reveal my compulsion with her.
Just wanted to add - no amount of sex with other women will leave you feeling satisfied - only emptier. It's a bottomless pit that can't be filled unfortunately - just as acquiring possessions leaves you feeling empty still. No amount of Rolls Royces gonna fill that pit. Life ain't easy - thats for damn sure. Especially in these insane times...
