Ok me and my b/f have a pretty bad sex life, we both admit it. We love each other very much and know this wont break us up, but I really want to work on this. My b/f has to get up at 7am for work and because of this he’s come up with the rule, no sex after 10:30, dose any one else think that’s crazy? I mean if I get really….in the mood he say’s “no its after 10:30” and if its before 10:30 he lays down on the bed in a star fish position weighting for me with his hands behind his head, how off putting is that???? And his idea of foreplay is grabbing my boobs or my….*cough* “leg”. I’ve tried suggesting to him to look online for tips but do you know what he said “its stuff I already know, but too lazy to do” lol I mean come on! And for his side of the story he says “it takes two to tango” - so he thinks that I should do all the foreplay - but the thing is I’ve just given up, because every time I tried its either after 10:30 or he doesn’t return the favour. In the past three months I’ve given him massages, tickled his back for him (he loves that) and even worn some kinky clothing - but he’s done, well nothing. All I wont from him is a little more foreplay so sex will last longer then 5 mins….. So please someone tell me is there anything more I can do to improve my sex life or is it hopeless?
hmmm this is a difficult one... i dunno what you should do...why isnt he trying? he should be...but anyways... just you engage the foreplay and get really kinky with it...do things that he wouldnt expect you to do and it might put him in the mood...and as far as the 10:30 thing, thats pure BULLSHIT! my man has to get up early for work as well but doesnt let that stop or complicate our sex life.. i think you should tell him what your thinking.
I did forget to mention one thing. He was put on anti depresent and it put his sex drive to an all time low, but its been a week since he stoped taking them and i want his sex drive back. He dosnt even masterbate any more. He knows how I feel but i think I need to push him into foreplay. One thing I think might be stoping him is he dosnt know what i like....I've tryed teaching him but he ushaly gose strate into sex -so should i offer to teach him once agean?
yea and mix the sex up...like different positions and stuff...that works for me...i really dont like foreplay but there are sometimes that i really want it...let him know what you like and ask him to do it for you and tell him to loosen up a bit...LET THE DRIVE FLOW!!
Sounds like he's either bored, or he's boring. Not much you can do if he's boring unless he gets a serious wake up call like you suggesting "taking a break". But if he's bored, try teasing. Don't give him any, but tease the hell out of him. Don't reward him with sex untill you get what you want from him. Face it, some guys are just meat and potato guys. Is your man the kind of guy who will spend time preparing a meal, experimenting with spices and willing to try new things, or is he the type to cook his steak the same quick way every time and eat it as fast as he can? If that's the kind of guy he is, that's why romance novels are so popular. And, getting a little action on the side now and then. Also, if being sweet and giving him massages, doesn't stir his passion, you may even try picking a fight with him sometime and turn it into something sexually agressive once you have him really pissed off. Just a suggestion. It can work for some but be cautious.
If you don't mind me asking, what anti-depresent and why? I missed that line when I made my last post.
Take on another lover on the side. OR Suggest to him that the both of you should see a sex therapist. Tell him that this is really bothering you and that if he doesn't smarten up, you will need to find, *eh-hum*, alternatives, like another lover. Maybe that will smarten him up.
Sit on his face. Seriously, part of the reason the ex and I split is he was sexually inconsiderate. It's rude to kick back expecting service all the time. Traditional therapy doesn't really do much and is expensive. Fighting more than likely will be unpleasant. Say everything that you said to us to him, and if that fails to work, then perhaps you're just destined to be pals.
Lol well he cant cook, and when its his turn to cook he gose out to buy fast food, the only thing he can cook is cheese on toast and narcho's..... I'm not shure of the name of his anti-depresents, but he took them because of stress, he was really stressed out at work, and his best friend came to him saying he wanted to kill himself, so he put all his friends troubles onto himself. another thing I for got to mention is his past sex life....I've knowen him for 5 years so I know all his ex's (which is two) one gave blow jobs using her teeth, the other asked for sex by saying "do you want to wank off in my hole?" lol so I can understand why I have to teach him every thing.
the thing is we dont actualy fight all that often, and if we do its nothing that we cant solve in 5mins of talking. I've written him a letter so I could get all my points across at once - if I talked it out to him I ushaly get stuck on one point and forget the rest...
sounds like another douchebag what happened to all the romantics? am i the only one left in the world?
He can be romantic, he's sent me flowers for now reson at all, he poor's me candil lit baths, and he's fulled the bedroom with candils on more then one ocation for no reson....hes a reall sweet heart, he just sucks at foreplay...
jsut flat out tell him that he is not pleasing you and until he starts to be more considerate of your vagina then he gets no more sex. if he loves you then hell understand and wont cheat.
Hes definatley a homo. THis aint muthafuckin grade school. You make his ass stay up and fuck you.... it probably means hes cheating on you.
the anti-depressents have to go. so does willy's curfew. he needs to aquire the tase for pussy. he needs to come by these realizations on his own, but you have to guide him into it with out letting him know that you are. he also needs to take the active role in lovemaking. its nice for a guy to be able to lie on his back and not work it. its nice for a change. his job is to take charge, pound the shit out of you till youre cummin out your ears, and then you can reward him by layin back with you on top. men are more sensitive then women and have a fragile ego, so you have to be careful how you bring him to these conclusions. i wouldnt dump him or cheat on him yet.
well I told him right out. He was a little shocked because were so happy together that he didnt know that this upset me. But he said that because this upset me he wants to work this out because I mean the world to him and it hurts him when I'm sad, the we huged each other all night - we didnt start then beacause I got my period just after I told him, and didnt really feel in the mood for sex, I just wanted to hold him.
well its uselly its the other way around my bf whats it all the time dont get me wrong i dont complain but a man saying no theres got to be something wrong there they are always up for it
