Sex problems with my bf because of Anal

My boyfriend loves anal. We have a 4 years relationship. I am really open about sex and love it and decided to have anal sex for a first time 4 years ago with him. I have problems concentrating and be completely horny when I do it because it is sometimes painful but sometimes it is amazing and I can come through my ass and it feels great - but only when I am really horny. Though, we do it probably once in 2 months because sometimes I do not feel ready. I am having problems when I need to clean myself because I do an enema and also I am on a diet for 2 days before the actual sex so it is going to be clean and nice but this turns me off because I know that for example tomorrow we need to have anal because I am clean and yes this needs to be the right moment for it. It feel kind of boring for me because it happens to be a routine to have sex.I am really emotional e love when things happen naturally. We had a fight because today i tried to have sex with him( anal ) and I wasn't horny enough so everything was kind of ruined. And he of course wants to do anal once in a week. But i struggle to make it happen.I haven't stop doing it though I keep trying but today we had a terrible fight because he thinks that I don't like anal. This makes me feel like I cannot give him everything in the bed and I feel really guilty and terrible because of that. Now we don't speak to each other because of this. I have no idea how to deal with this kind of things. This is the first time when we are having a fight about sex. Any suggestions?

 

yes....buy a dildo same size as his penis and next time he wants anal pull out the dildo and say ''you first baby''

 

also...you may be slightly over doing that 2 day prep thing....by 2 days....just have a crap that day and you will be fine..thats what wet wipes are for

 

Wait, all that stuff because of anal sex? That's ridiculous. Your boyfriend needs to get over it and realize that anal sex isn't a "need to do" thing. Sex should occur naturally between a couple, and when it becomes a have-to thing, it turns into a chore. That's no longer fun.

 

Sex should be enjoyable first & foremost. Both partners should be comfortable with what ever act is being preformed. My hubby loves giving me anal but doesn't expect it every day.

 

Lube, Lube , Lube. Oh yea and lube !

 

I don't get this need to have anal? I have a theory as to way some need it but I will keep that to myself...

 

Yes, buy a strapon, hide it in the bathroom, when you’re both naked, tell him you gotta go to the bathroom, strap it on and come out...

 

"needs anal sex" aka "porn addiction"

 

I get u girl u want to plz ur man sex is suppose to be hot n sexy a way to free yourself don't stress to much about it screw all that 2 day stuff sounds like some damn spring cleaning bs that's just extra he loves u and you love him which means he loves everything about u and vice versa make it fun use toys butt plugs try foreplay let him get u really worked up then just let go have fun sex can be messy it can be dirty just take a damn shower afterwards you'll be fine and so will he

 

Right!

As a guy who enjoys being fucked anally.....I also hate scat/shit and not being clean .But there is no need to have this '2-day preparation window' ....just get yourself a simple rubber bulb douche and use it shortly before ....take crap first and then douche about 3 times with warm water and you will be fine.

Take care,

Simon

 

Your boy friends have much more respect for you, If you do not want something like Anal Sex and you say no, No means No, He should get over it , and stop being a child about this subject and grow up . There is lots more into a relationship then just having anal sex , I am not saying not to do it , Because there are people that really enjoy it .. We are all different and that is a fact of life .. Good luck

 

If I had prep for any sexual act two days beforehand,I'd be showing my bf the door tbh.Whatever happened to spontaneity?How boring that you need to prepare so far in advance! As for your bf getting angry when it does'nt happen,he sounds like a control freak to me.He'd probably be better dating a hooker.Time to ditch the dude! Find someone who is more spontaneous,and is'nt so much into anal if thats not your thing.Never do anything for a man,that he either would'nt like done to himself,or won't do for you (For example,oral).Sex is mutual pleasure,not surrending to some jerk's demands.

 

I don't require anal from my girlfriends.

 

My wife had an unpleasant anal experience in college and will not do it again. I'm okay with that. Her pleasure is most important. If your bf doesn't feel the same bout you, dump him.

 

Olderndirt,just out of interest,if your wife did want to do it again,would you allow her to wear a dildo and do it to you?

 

Anal sex
One of those bucket list destinations for men

 

^luckily, not all men

 

Oh
I accommodated those first few times
. . . with absolutely no success
Never
Never again