Do you ever feel like the whole world is completely obsessed with sex to the point that it's ridiculous and you're just sickened by the whole thing? Do you find the search for a real relationship, 'true love', is seemingly impossible? Is anybody real anymore?
feel the exact way thats why what in my thread i just made is going to be hard looking for a new person eventually, everyone is just whores, or pimps no ones true
Yeah, I don't actually expect this to be a very popular thread. I was just wondering if anyone else was having the same thoughts. Everywhere I look, everything I read, sex sex sex sex sex. It's almost to the exclusion of everything else too. Freaky sex, nasty sex, disgusting sex. No lovemaking anymore. I'm getting almost completely turned off to sex because of it. Everyone's ruining a beautiful thing with this crazy obsession.
Well the harsh, or from another view, awesome, reality of life is that there are so many people that thought they had love then something whisked it away from them that alot of people are just looking for a good time, and are trying to protect themselves from a big letdown scenario later on. If your looking for true, real love, then yea that sorta sucks and its gona be harder to find, but if ur an opportunistic sex fiend then hell yea would be more the sentiment.
who says real true love has to last forever, or be with only one person? who says kinky, nasty, naughty sex isn't connected to love? who says sex and love are separate things? just questions...
Not saying they have to be separate, just saying they usually are. Everybody I meet seems to be obsessed with sex alone, the joining of two bodies and nothing more.
people are just as 'love obsessed' as 'sex obsessed' its a good thing to give love to everyone... love is something that makes everyone happy and makes life worth living... so why not share it with everyone! it's an easy concept. and people appreciate it.
I didnt understand your ? at first cause I thought it was about the bombardment of sex images on tv. But i seee your point cause it like I have a steady gf and I see the rest of the world as being loose and nonbinding relationship wise. Its like saying go out and fuck just anything we're all doing it its o.k.
I do agree, these days the world's mind is all on sex and one night stands and banging around and just fun, but I mean can't kid yourself when you know that everyone truly wants real love, not just sex sex sex, i mean when you find real love and add the sex, it overpowers the sex, its a true relationship, romantic, sweet, and a true connection. thats what i have now with my bf and i love it, we're real to each other, and we have the best sex ever, sweet and romantic, and sometimes we do it for fun. but to have a good relationship is better than just playing around, you know that theres always someone there waiting for you, never saying no to love you, to make love to you, and to be with you..
I find that most people, now a day, think that love and sex is the same thing. The truth is love is how you feel and sex is what you do. I’ve come to hate when people say let’s make love or we were making love, when most of the time; love has nothing to do with it. Or how about, I want to sleep with you, to me it would be great just to go to sleep holding someone then the next morning wake up still holding them but you know that’s not what most people mean when they say that. It’s easy to see why love doesn’t last anymore because most people don’t know what love is in the first place.
Sex can really screw up a good relationship, but it can also be a magical thing that transforms our lives. Don't give up. instead, let your feeling be known before ever going out on the date. If they don't like your honesty...bark up another tree. If you have a very low sex drive - tell them NOW. Those of us with a higher sex drive NEED to know because for some of us, sex is really important. It's not fair to make a horny person beg for once a month sex. Nor is it right to pester someone who doesn't want it.
No, i'm not talking about low sex-drive. I'm not saying sex isn't important. Just tired of people making everything about sex. There's so much more to life. Especially a good life.
I would rather have a relationship based on love, mutual respect and friendship, with sex as side benefit rather than sex as the as the main reason for the relationship as soon as the sex gets boring time for greener pastures just my two cents
Sex has indeed became a drive in people's lives to the detriment of love.. I have to admit I don't like it but the phenomenon is easy to understand, though I am not supporting it. Love does involve a lot of emotions and personal investment. You can't love someone without letting your defense down, but nowadays people don't trust each other to let their defense down. People get hurt at a very young age.. and not too many want to go through it again. Sex is just a quick substitute to love.. for too many people. Not all, whom I am happy for. For most men at least sex is better than love. Less emotional involvement, less time consuming, cheaper sometimes? Whatever the reason is, a lot of men would regard sex as a drive rather than love. And women aren't completely dumb... they do understand that sex is a way to get to men. So what's next? Women just became overly sexual.. thinking that being a sex goddess will get them the man they want. The more provocative, the more special they are, and the more chance they'll get to mesmerize men. Is it the solution? I don't know. It is just my observation. A lot of my female friends follow that pattern without even realizing it. Does it work for them? Depends on what kind of men you want i suppose. Please don't bash me ~_~ .. that's just my opinion.
hey everyone, the reason the world has become so obsessed with sex is their are to reasons in my oppinion. 1 the whole world has turned very materilistic due to the art that was out there and media. they loose track becouse they see sex as just a physical action with not much feeling kind of like a chore like driving to work or taking a shower. there is no passion in it its just a thing to do that gives you allitle joy becouse everyone is so joy deprived in society. and also the second reason is that we as a culture are getting worse and worse the world is getting more and more toxic in every sense from the food we eat to the media we see. its our body way of sayying its getting really fuckin bad and if we dont reproduce as much as possable were going to be be extinket. we are missing the true bonding experiance it is.
Here's how relationships work nowadays: First of all, everyone knows that people who have sex have a very high status. If you are having sex all the time, everyone will respect you. It used to be that only men were respected and women were called sluts, but slowly things are progressing so that women who have lots of sex are just as respected as men (thank you Sex In The City). Usually, if you don't have anything wrong with you or if you're average enough to not be intimidating to anyone, you can easily get into a relationship. What that means is that you will have a status above anyone not in a relationship... you don't really have to care about each other at all, you just have to not want to be alone, and you have to be confident enough to want that status. Love is when two people get together and they both don't want to be alone, so they agree to put up with the other person if that other person will put up with them... they do this because they're afraid, and being with someone provides enough comfort for them to forget about that fear. If this continues for long enough and they grow very comfortable with each other, they can get married. Being married means you have a status even higher than those just in a relationship. In fact, if you are married you are so high on the social ladder that you usually spend time only with other married people, or with serious couples. Single friends cramp your style. Sometimes this leads to babies, which is like the ultimate in status. People with babies are so high up the social ladder that single people often grow extremely depressed in their presence. Of course, if the person you're with can't provide that comfort, it doesn't work out. At this point, the best possible way to break up is to have sex with someone else-- because not only does this grant you the status of being in a relationship, it also grants you the status of having had lots of sex-- very very very high status indeed. After breaking up, the two involved parties still get to cling to their relationship status by referring to their 'ex', just to remind everyone that they were in a relationship. Of course, if they wait too long to get into another relationship, they will fall into the sad pathetic loser category of people not in relationships... so they keep referring to their ex until eventually someone else comes along. When this other person comes along they go back to being average so as to not scare him or her away... OR, alternatively, they can begin to dress and act provocatively and start having one night stands with other people who don't care about them and who they don't care about-- so the status formerly granted them by being in a relationship is now replaced by the status granted them because they are having sex (remember, lots of sex=amazing person). They do this until they feel ready to be average again, and wait to meet someone who will help them enter another relationship. And the cycle continues...
Not all people fall under this juristiction, because my boyfriend and i actually love eachother. We don't quote "put up with eachother" to be high on the social ladder of life. Also, we are waiting to have sex until we are both more mature. Thus, i don't quite agree with your theory. I believe that people are so obsessed with sex nowadays simply because the way it is portrayed in tv and in other forms of media. It's like playing a game, the person who screws the most people wins the game. However, this system flaws because some people realize that this simply just isn't fa-filling enough. They want something that could last, where they can have that feeling of completion and love for someone. Most of the people obsessed with sex in society are around my age, and that's because of all the shows that have sex on them make it seem so disposable, as though no one really needs to get involved, you just get what you want then you move on to something better.
hey heywood floyd that is a horrable materalistic way of looking at tjings thats not how it is. you could be anyone ugly,pretty,evil,kind and have lots of sex nomatter who you are. i guess thats how little kids look at it. sex and love are totally diffrent, dont get me wrong sex is great!!! and totally enjoyable. but you dont"put up" with someone just to have lots of sex
