Sex In A Relationship

Lets say, i have started to date a girl. Should i wait to consider for sex for a few months we have dated, for it to more special or more comfortable and relaxed and i know the person more, so it would be more smoother? I have somewhat researched waiting for sex for a few months, might be healthy for a relationship. What are you thoughts? What if the girl insists doing it sooner? Should we talk about our ideas of our sex, even before doing it? And what we want from it?

Im asking because my last relationship, i might have rushed with sex and thus we didnt know each other so well ,so the sex part was rushed and comfortableness around each during sex or talking about our desires with each other wasnt that good, for the tension during sex could be low. But also back then i was inexperienced, that was also a factor.

Anyway what are your thoughts?

 

Your experienced, you know what to do, go with your plan A

 

Do it when you feel comfortable, and when she feels comfortable.

 

Everyone is different, there is no right or wrong answer, I think if you both want to then just do it!
I met a guy a couple days ago and as much as I wanted to fuck him within hrs of meeting him, I didn't, I was drunk and I really wanted to be sober for our first time. We went on a date the following nite and I kept telling myself I should wait so I don't look like some horny little slut, but after kissing and being all touchy feely with each other, I just went with the flow and we ended up having amazing sex!
I seriously can't resist this man, and if it is meant to be it will be, no matter what!
I think I blew his fucking mind to TBH lol

 

Dubai has some far-out cop cars too!!!

 

Depends on your age. At 20 I met my wife and had sex on the first date. We are married over 44 years. Quite frankly, if there is not immediate sexual desire for each other, I moved on. I did not always expect sex on the first date, but did on the second. Girls I dated knew what I was after. I had just returned from a year of combat and was long over high school dating. I wanted an adult relationship with sex. Did not want to waste time dating someone for months only to find out that we were not sexually compatible. Life is too short. Worked out very well for me. My wife and I shared the same girlfriend, had a non monogamous marriage with a lot of fun fetish stuff and still love each other as we did when we first met and got engaged 3 weeks later. My ex fiancee and I waited 6 months and she ended up cheating on me. So I do not think waiting has anything to do with it.

 

Sex was our 1st date. We have been together a lot years now and were still having so much fun in life.

 

I can't believe on love without sex, so when you meet a girl you like one of your first goals is to have sex with her. It's undeniable.
I frankly don't remember after how many dates I had sex with my wife, but I can say it was pretty early. If there is sexual attraction it comes natural.

 

I don't think there is a wrong or right way to something like that... it's just a matter of being on the same page with regard to intimacy and expectations... if neither of you want to wait and you're both interested in a relationship (or even something more casual for that matter) then why should you wait? If one person wants to wait a bit then that line should be respected and in time if both parties are interested nature will take its course...

 

When you both feel comfortable, I think. You both might not be in love, but if you have amazing chemistry and are growing to really like each other, then I'd say why not. Sex does bond people though, your body releases chemicals that create pair bonding. That's why people feel so connected after sex, and if there aren't any feelings there, it can be awkward. I'm married now, and never slept with guys I wasn't in a relationship with, tbh mainly because I didn't want to bond with someone who I wasn't emotionally into. That's just me.

 

isn't that mostly a female thing? i thought women got the bonding chemical from sex and men got it from, well, i don't remember what. but i thought it was something other than sex.

 

It gets released in men when dinner gets served regularly

 

If that's what you call dinner? But no, i ment dinner served at home

 

dinner? i'm thinking a cold beer in a frosty mug while i'm watching a ballgame...

 

Sex is good and all...sex in a relationship is fan-fucking-tastic though.

 

Mmmmm hmmmmm

And can you expand on what "emotionally into" means