You seem to have thought it through really well... I don't think there's any reason in the world not to. It's a really great thing to be able to do for someone, and a great honor that they trust you to harbor their child for the first nine months of it's life. It seems like everyone is in agreement that it would work, and are willing to talk to a therapist about it... You're even trying to check out the angles you all might not have thought of. It's great! I say go for it. Of course you will have a very close bond with that child, but if you know that you would be happy in an "auntie" position, and they are willing to let you be a part of the baby's life, it should all work out fine. Congratulations on getting to be part of such a good thing!
Wow!! I know it woyuld be really risky for me to have children so i have to find another way to have children. Thats very thoughtful. Adoption is one of my choices and i was thinking surrogate mother but i'm not to sure Peace T
Erin, considering you were just pregnant a bit over a year ago, and were pregnant 3 times in three years. And because you were having some depression issues after Riley was born, and some health problems too, I think it'd be a very good idea to wait. Your body needs a lot of time to recover from birth, something like 3 years to be totally okay again. I think pregnancy so soon, with all the added complications of being a surrogate, would be a bit risky mentally and physically. Although, I applaud your love for your friend.
Yeah what she said. But aside from that. What a wonderful gift to give to a friend. What a great friend you are. Kathi
wow to even think of being able to do that is amazing. whatever you choose to do in the end i applaud you for that you need to have a very strong soul to be able to go through something that demanding
yea, I thought about that one. :/ The PP depression may be an issue. Lately though, I'm in a much happier more supportive place in life. The reason why I was so stressed was because I couldn't figure out how we could raise another child, chris was in college and away for 5 days a week. My job payed me 100 dollars a week and Chris couldn't finish his schooling while working (he had way too much on his plate trying to get done early). I lived with his mom who pretty much hated me for being able to have a baby (she miscarried around the time when I had Riley). She took out a lot of her grief on me. We've gotten our own place since then, shes appoligized (though we arent close anymore) and Chris now is here at home all the time besides work. So that part MAY be a little better. Now my body is something I haven't thought about. I have been doing a lot of cardio and strength training but I have no idea on how well this will benefit me with a new pregnancy. I'm sure it'll help some but who knows. I am def. going to bring this one up to the doctor. I will prob have a physical before we try this if a therapist thinks we would be ok. Thanks Holly! so much to think about!
oh I wanted to add... this may not even be happening right away. With all the things we have to go through it may even be a year before we try. I want everyone completely comfortable and ready (including my family).
well if i may suggestr to u eryn...i know a lady thinking of the same thing very seriously..and she was getting down about it....so i made her watch the episode of friends where phoebe decides to be a serrogate mother for her brother and his wife...lol...that helped tremendously, and made her laugh...humor is the best medicine and puts you in a good state of mind to think more clearly...good luck hunny {{{HuGz}}}
