Serious relationship... no sex in 4 yrs...

Hello,
I'm new here. Am in need of a little help. I been with my girlfriend for about 4 years now. It's a serious relationship. We are in are mid 20s and both virgin. For the last few years, we been trying to have sex once but penetration never occurs. She always pushes me back or does something to hold me back. She is afraid that it will hurt. We have try like 15 times in 4 years. I do orale to her, she likes it. Until yesterday, she was able to return the favor

At times I get frustrated, but I guess I gotten use to it. I see her really trying. But I am starting to think I might be the one with the issues as well. I don't know, maybe my penis is small (5.5 inches), maybe if I had more experience, I thought of cheating on her just to learn from someone else... Honestly, I don't know. I know we can work through it, separation is not an option.

She is from a conservative family. I don't know is she is teasing me... so we can get marry to have sex.

Any advice? Help? Tips?

Thanks

 

You're fucked, but not in a good way.
Sorry bout that.

 

If it hurts when the GYN is doing an exam, then yes, it probably will hurt.

Frankly, I suspected it would hurt me (and it did) but I wanted it over with so I could enjoy sex. I'm glad I did.

Discuss it with her. Give her an orgasm and use plenty of lube. (KY is my personal preference.)

She could also talk to a therapist about why she is so afraid to have sex. At this point, you can be supportive if she has some issues. Ultimately, she needs to know that if you want sex and she doesn't, it's over.

Normally I wouldn't say to pressure her but 4 years? Wow.
I was horny and couldn't wait to have sex.

 

As for the cheating, that won't go well. You don't need to be experienced to be a good lover. I was inexperienced and have no complaints from DH (my only one.) He was experienced yet I had to teach him how to pleasure me.

 

I think you should have a talk with her and ask her what direction she wants this relationship to go in.
Virgins or not, you have invested 4 years and things aren't progressing and she's acting like a junior high girl, playing around, pushing you away.
If she wants to wait till marriage and you are in agreement to that, then don't play around and wait.
If you want to have sex now, let her know that's what you want and if she's not ready, then maybe you should start dating others. Four years is a long time.

 

Somewhere in the vicinity of just over 100 billion humans that have ever lived on the earth, just over half of them male, somewhere between 2/3 to 3/4 ever getting married.

So roughly 40 billion males throughout history that have fallen for the I'm unable to have sex until you sign the marriage certificate routine or the before the age of antiquity version


But yeah, I'm sure talking will help

 

not if you're a woman anyway.

 

Tell her that a guy on the internet told you that if you don't use it, you lose it.

You can blame it all on me. Or thank me, depending on how it goes..

 

Maybe she could try a vibrator first, preferably one roughly the same size as your penis. This way she can play around by herself until she's sure it won't hurt.

 

excuse english not so good..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PGJfruLLiyk"]Yes, Married - YouTube

 

Thanks to all. Yeah, I know it sucks. I'll see what happens after I talk to her. Thanks again for all the help.