Hi everyone. Perhaps a strange subject for my first ever post, but something I have struggled with for some time now & I'm curious as to the opinions of others. Many years ago in a past relationship I had my first experiences of receiving oral sex from a woman. It was.......incredible, something I had thought about & wanted for some time. It seemed that it was mutually enjoyable (& as a side note I'd like to make clear I was more than happy to reciprocate. It's always been important to me to be sure any partner I've had is as satisfied as I can possibly make her, Ladies first you might say). We became a little more adventurous I suppose, taking pictures during, cum play etc.....& it seemed she genuinely enjoyed what we did together. Some time down the line we had a pregnancy scare & she appeared to believe it was possible to become pregnant as a result of swallowing. So far as I'm aware that is simply not possible, however when I said as much I didn't expect the reaction I received. She became angry & over the course of an extremely unpleasant argument I was made to feel that I was wrong to ever have enjoyed it at all. That it was disgusting & selfish of me, that in fact she had never enjoyed it at all. The guilt I felt was enormous. I had had no idea that she felt that way (if indeed she did & wasn't just speaking from anger). Long story short although these events were almost 20 years ago I'm still affected. I have enjoyed similar experiences with other women since, but in the back of my mind is always the worry that it's wrong somehow. That a partner may not be truthful & may hate it & secretly resent me for it. Basically.........help? How do you feel? Many thanks anyone for taking the time to respond.
I'd have to say it's her personal problem for misleading you in the first place, but I am sure a bunch of ladies will tell me otherwise. Plus add to the mix her complete misunderstanding of basic biology. Jeez.
How is it wrong? You give a woman some of the most pleasurable experiences by bringing her to orgasm orally. You are her hero. Listen, 80% of women cannot orgasm from penile intercourse. Those that do usually have to have oral stimulation if not orgasm before the penis is inserted into the vagina. She must let you know how and where to place your tongue, lips, and any other part of your anatomy in order for her body to receive the pleasure you can provide. If she resents you for trying she isn't being fair to you. Her lack of knowledge of the human anatomy isn't your problem. Your lack of knowledge is. Bringing a woman to orgasm orally is right and the only way most women can receive satisfaction from sex. You have to retrain your mind from the traumatic experience of long ago. Teach yourself that you aren't the problem but the solution when it comes to women and orgasm. if you bring her to orgasm correctly you will become Mr. Right, not Mr. Wrong.
