Hi all I am new to the Forums, so be gentle LOL I am IN a LDR with a beautiful and wonderful man From Australia. I will be moving there in a few short months (not soon enough) We talk everyday, sleep with the headset on you name it. He was here with me in the States for a little over 3 months and we have now been together for over 1 year. My problem is this. By the way I am older then him..no worries there everyone is supportive except his mum (yes he is over 18) and we are getting married soon as well. NOW the reason why I am worried. We both came out together recently that we are both Bi-sexual. He has not done it yet but is attracted to men sexually as well. I have been with a woman before and once in a while I like it. MY issue is this. I want him to be able to explore that side and He has found someone who just wants a friend and a F*ck buddy. We were talking last night as they have not met yet. He asked me can you love two people? As I am scared he will fall for me or I him. I did not know what to say to this. I said well I would be hurt if you did fall in love with him. Imagine how you would feel if I did this to you. NOw I have not been with a woman since he and I were a couple and he wants me to explore that as well. We have grown extremely closer, talking you name it more. He says he loves me so much and can't wait to spend his life with me have children with me and make a beautiful life. I feel the same way. He says he wont fall in love with him he is more worried the other person will and he just wants to see if he does like it. NOW we have done anal on him as we both now about the Pspot. and he loves it..I love it! LOL He is attracted to some men and thinks about it sometimes but not alot...Im scared though that he will like it more then me or he will fall in love ,,, NOW his parents are these controlling abusive jerks...and he has finally moved out on his own and has decorated it with all our pics and that. He tells me alot about how he cant wait till I get home. He also would like me to watch it get done which I kinda wanna see. How can I get past this scared feeling of it or is it normal to experience this as it is his first time??? Sorry If im rambling...just mind is going so fast..THANKS ALL!!!
It is normal to feel apprehensive any time you explore a new area of your sexuality. There is always a possibilty that he may develop feelings for the man, and he may fall in love, you just never know. Although he is like just curious and wants to check it out. As long as you are open and honest about it then it's okay. Some men are bi curious but could not get past "just sex" with a man. Look at it this way, you know he is curious and he knows he can tell you, so you have a pretty solid relationship. Maybe the two of you can talk and come up with a way that will reassure you without making him feel bad for exploring his sexuality. You can either come up with a workable solution, or he can deny his curiousity. Those are pretty much the options, and the second one is bound to cause problems. You sound happy with him.....I hope everything works out for the best for both of you.
thank you! you made me feel so much more at ease with this. I appreciate your kind words and advice! HUGS to you Oh yes I am so happy with him and he feels very comfortable in telling me things now. Before he was rejected and with his parents trying to control him still even as an adult I am the first person who listened and did not leave him and accepted him for him. Again thank you
I don't think neither of you are ready for marriage, maybe u should wait a while until u guys decide if u wanna keep exploring ur sexuality, even toguether..u know whatever makes u happy,but u guys are still really young and in ur case also moving to another country is a big step .. so give it a thought, if u still think u can handle those tinny things while married then go ahead. I wish u and ur boyfriend the best
