My girlfriend loves it when I dominate her and gets more turned on if I include anal foreplay and it gets her wanting to go for it, but thanks to her ex she got hurt bad because he didn't do it right, and he didn't use any lube. In the heat of the moment she wishes we had lubricant, but if her mind wanders, she remembers how badly he hurt her and she gets scared to let me, and with the urge now gone, even after being turned on by the anal foreplay. I've talked to her and she has agreed that we should get the lubricant just so we have it for the times of spontaneous surprise that's in the way I dominate her. Any ideas on how to get her past being scared out of goin' for it?
Go slow. It is a mental block she has. Might take time....just take it slow...literally. Maybe just inserting your tip...pulling out...she might just say go for it! If she does, she might want it more and more . Be patient with her!
It MUST be her call, 100 percent. F**k the D/s stuff. She's been hurt physically in an intimate way. Maybe toys, smaller toys, to start.
