So this past Thursday I had an ultrasound. The cysts have cleared up but now she has "sandal gap toe" in both her feet. The technician recommended amniocentesis but I don't want to do it. The quad testing results were 1 in 3,500 for Down Syndrome and 1 in 5,000 for the other genetic abnormality. I didn't think I was that worried but I have been having nightmares that something will be wrong. Like last night I had a nightmare that I miscarried and the night before I had a nightmare that I delivered a still born.
I'd say, go with your gut. Amnios are invasive and have been known to deliver false positives causing heightened anxiety in pregnant mothers for no reason! But in the end, it's really what you feel is right for you and your baby. If it will put your mind at ease, then do it. But if you don't feel comfortable with it, don't feel pressured by anyone to have it done! It's your body, your child. Something else to think about, no matter what the results would say, you're still going to love that little girl, I can guarantee it, because I KNOW you're going to be one kick-butt mama. No doubt in my mind. Hang in there sweetheart, you all are in my thoughts. {{{Hugs}}}
I had nightmares during the last half of my pregnancy that Moire would be mentally handicapped. Almost every night. I started to expect it. I couldn't shake it. Then she was born fine. A friend of mine had nightmares in both of her pregnancies that her sons were physically deformed. Again, almost every night to the point she was expecting it. And they were born perfect. Sometimes, it's just anxiety. Trust your awake momma gut. But those dreams could mean anything.
Thanks girls. I really keep hoping and thinking that she has her dad's funky looking feet. He has a huge gap between his toes and he doesn't seem that mentally handicapped
Well there you go! After reading your initial post, I looked up some things about Sandal Gap Toe and it seems that there are quite a few instances where it doesn't mean anything detrimental to the baby to have it, and it only accounts for 45% of Downs so it's definitely not a sure thing. So odds are more in your favor. Besides, you're young, you're healthy, all those go in your favor as well! {{{Hugs}}}
I tried to do some research and just got discouraged because I read how it is more of a soft marker for a genetic abnormality then the cysts are. 45% is almost half! I was optimistic though because most women who are 25 have a 1:1500 chance of giving birth to baby with Down Syndrome and my quad testing said my chances where 1:3500. As both of you mentioned I will love her the same either way but I just don't want her life to be difficult. I was also optimistic because we didn't see the sandal gap toe in her earlier ultrasound. I hope this mommy's instinct thing is pretty true... because if that is the case then she will definitely have daddy's feet.
Not quite half, AND there's still more than half a chance that it's not going to be an issue. And like you said, maybe she's just going to have her daddy's feet! You know, I remember when I was pregnant with the twins and I was warned that I was possibly losing one of them because of the size difference. It scared the heck out of me, but I'm telling you, I just knew they were going to both be fine. Gut instinct. And fine they were and are!
as for testing: if you have it, will you use it to learn about the condition, the help that can be out there and what to expect...or will you just freak? if the test as a positive made a decision about not keeping /raising, then I'd get the test done. If you will keep and raise the baby no matter what, then ...do you want the info now or later? at 45:55, I'd personally want the answer, within statistical anomaly. Personally, I'd want to be over prepared. I'd also want the extended family prepped.
I had a 1 in 300-something chance for down's in my first child. Pretty high-risk at 25 years old. He doesn't have it. The amnio would not have changed my mind about keeping him, and would have gambled his life, since 1 in 200 misscarry from poking a hole in the sac. So I didn't have it. Drumminmama, just because 45% of down's people have ugly feet, it doesn't mean that 45% of people with ugly feet have down's
DON'T DO AN AMNIO!! They say amnios give u a 45% chance of miscarriage/stillbirth after having one.Don't stress mama! your child will be born completely healthy and perfect the way she is!!
hi there, i would also like to know the outcome of your baby as we have been diagnosed with sandal gap in one foot at 20 week scan but was given the all clear. now 38 weeks pregnant they are saying head is measuring small which could be another soft marker for DS. cant stop worrying now!!
Hello all. Amelia Violet is a happy healthy baby. I wouldn't worry to much about the scan and I guess everything can be a marker for DS. I think the doctors just want to cover their bases, ya know?
