In all my years of nudist activities (beaches, resorts, and get-togethers) I've never run into anyone I know. I've often thought that experience would be something like, "Hey, it's great you enjoy nudism also." But, I suppose there could be a chance of a negative experience. So, have you unexpectedly run into friends or acquaintences, and have any of those encounters been negative? All positive I hope!
Since we visit a nudist club not too far from home, we have realized that this is a possibility, running-into someone we know on the outside. But when it did happen, I was not prepared for my feelings about it. The couple who were there were not people we knew well, but they knew who we were, and were very "glad" to meet-up with us. In fact, they wanted to spend more time with us than we wanted. I wasn't prepared for what my feelings were, but I soon discovered I was much less comfortable with this fellow seeing my wife naked, simply because he as a known factor from our "other" life. The biggest problem has been that after we went home, they wanted to continue a relationship away from the park. Even though they were not people we had a lot in common with away from the nudisit club, we did accept one of their invitations. They had planned for us to join them in their hot tub, naked, of course, and we could not find a way to refuse, so we did. After getting out of the tub, the husband wanted to engage me in conversation about "what great-looking wives we have" and I knew exactly where he was wanting to lead me. Even without any encouragement from me, he proceeded to tell me that he liked women with "really big ones", which of course my wife had, and even commented that he was glad to see more women who "refused" to shave "down there", which meant that he had been studying my wife's "private area" more than was obvious. He even asked me if I thought his wife was "well put-together" and I tried to answer his questions as well as I could without saying too much. And, whenever we meet in public, they both like to make us feel that there is some kind of special connection between us now. He once said to me "You've seen me my wife, and I've looked at yours!" So, I would say that it can be a problem if you meet-up with someone from the "outside" world.
I've only ever bumped into people I've known at nudist saunas or met at nudist beaches. Having a conversation without saying how we know each other when others who know us are present can be difficult, though there has always been an understanding that the world should not be aware of how we know each other.
That sucks John, sorry you had that experience. What a creep! Obviously someone enjoying nudism for the wrong reasons, shallow womanising shame
I don't think I have much worry about running into a co-worker. I'm pretty comfortable with who I am, and the older I get, the less I worry about other's opinions of me and my values. But Son of John, your situation certainly sounds unfortunate. I would probably try to handle a situation like that by avoiding that other couple as much as possible. If it went too far, it would be time to cut off the ralationship. I'm sure I would have to say, "Look, you're after something that I'm not interested in and it's best that we not see one another any more."
Everyone at work knows I am a nudist and down here in South Florida it is no big deal. We have a legal public nudist beach, which I frequent (Just got back right now BTW). I have been writing nudist articles for years (under my pseudonym Rob Boyte - Google it). And, my naked pic has been published several times in the '80s and '90s. So, no hiding it for me. I ran into our CEO at the nude beach, with whom I don't get along. I always stroll the whole beach to see who might be there. He seemed a little ill at ease :blush5: but seeing co-workers doesn't bother me. I was walking fully nude and he sat there tucked between his legs. Yep, something about being naked - the great equalizer. Anyhow, today I saw him there in his usual spot (we always seem to settle in the same section of beach). We don't speak but he eventually left when he found out I was staying with friends at that end of the beach today.
A second situation to consider is if you meet someone on the "outside" that you originally met at a nudist club. This also happened to me and my wife once, but with far better outcome. We had visited a club while on vacation and met lots of very nice people. The next day, while doing touristy things, we met-up with one of the couples we had met the day before at the club, but now we were all fully clothed. We all were genuinely glad to meet-up, in this different setting. They invited us to join them at their hotel suite, and once there, they said that they always preferred to be nude when indoors, and that they hoped we didn't mind if they undressed. We said "Of course not!" so the did undress. After they were naked, they invited us to join them if we wanted to, but they did not seem to pressure us. I looked at my wife and we exchanged a silent message that said "Let's join them" so we both undressed too, much to their delight! We spent most of the evening with them, and naked all the time. We found it was not as strange as we might have imagined, and in a very short time came to accept our group nudity as a natural and normal thing. It was a bit more "intense" than being at the nudist club, with lots of other naked folk around, but I did not feel that it was "bad" in any way. We all behaved with complete decorum. It was a wonderful experience that we never got to duplicate, though we would like to. But as we all know, you have to pick and choose with whom you will go naked! But to my way of thinking, for two married couples to be naked together is just about the right size group to truly enjoy the nudist experience without feeling that you are part of a crowd. Any thoughts?
I was always pleasantly surprised to find ppl comfortably nude in their homes and would join in an instant. But I have been a nudist for a couple decades and fell into the concept in the '60s by hanging out with communes that were clothing casual. It just requires ppl to grow up and realize that we can be in our natural state of social nudity without sexual connotation. That we all know what the other genders' parts look like so just ignore it and enjoy the freedom. Not saying that nudists are asexual. I have been to nude parties at night where you could feel the overly-familiarity of friends and knew that swinging was also going on with some. Have to know who your nudist friends are and if you are comfortable with more than mere nudity.
Shale, good answer, and it is refreshing to hear from a "real" nudist who will admit that being naked with others is not completely A-sexual. Of course, it is always sexual to some degree, just as so many other situations are, even when everyone is fully clothed. But I do believe that the fact everyone is naked does put some inhibiting factors on them in a way that being fully clothed does not. Most nudists with integrity will "police" themselve more carefully to be sure they do not go over the line. For instance, some jokes which might be funny when everyone is dressed, would not be so appropriate if they were naked. Another problem which nudists have, and do not seem to have a way to explain, is the fact that everyone is very aware of their own nakedness, as well as the nakedness of the others, even if they are not free to let it show. I am quite sure that after a fellow has met several naked women at a nudist club, that if asked he could tell you just which ones had the largest breasts, or nipples that point up and out, as well as which of them had a light or heavy growth of pubic hair. But that is nothing to get upset about since we already use our visual memories to identify people, by such things as their facial features, size, height, etc. So, if someone has a cue inside their own head which identifies a woman as "the lady with the really big breasts" then that is completely natural, even if we don't admit to it.
Once, at a nude pool party with lots of ppl, I met a woman for the first time and we talked a lot during the afternoon. I suppose I was taking in all the visual cues of her body as our species does, not particularly scrutinizing any feature, just observing it. When she was leaving she came back on the patio fully clothed to say good bye. Momentarily I didn't know who she was. It was only by seeing the necklace that she was wearing all day that I remembered how I knew her.
Shale, I have had similar experiences where both men and women were concerned. It is true that after seeing a person naked it is not always easy to identify them when they are clothed. All the "clues" you were using to identify them have been covered up. Whether nudists will admit it or not, they do identify each other by such things as the size and shape of various body parts, as well as amount of body hair, etc.
When I lived in Holland I once ran into a work colleague on the nudist beach at Zandvoort. However, he was there as a voyeur, sitting fully clothed at one of the clothes-optional cafes. He thought it was really funny to tell other colleagues about it - their response was pretty much, so what?
The response from your Dutch work colleagues shows the general maturity of people from their country. The voyeur I hope got his comeuppance at some point. I have visited the Netherlands on a few occasions and when using saunas and spas only came across one person who I would have described thus- at least because of the rules of the place he was naked too.
I've remembered since that one of the secretaries also spotted me once, when she and her partner were strolling on the beach and happened to wander through the nudist section. She never said anything about it, but gave me a big smile next time we were in the office.
Finally ran into someone I know...I was at the local nude beach yesterday and ran into my extremely cute next-door neighbor. Didn't bother me, but she was kind of flustered, probably because she was with a guy other than her husband! (I told her don't worry. I won't tell.)
