Last night I went on a First Date with a work colleague. A Blind Date of sorts, as although I had spoken to the girl many times over the phone, we had never actually met. We arranged to meet at a local Pub / Restaurant. Nothing fancy. As it happened that's as far as things went. To be honest, I wasn't really expecting anything more. However, things being as they are, I decided to go prepared & made sure of taking a pack of condoms & some lube with me. It wasn't something I expected to happen as a foregone conclusion, but felt it was worth taking precautions, just in case. Even if things had gone that far, I would still have wanted to stop off somewhere to get a pack but (without intending to sound as if I'm bragging) it's not that easy to find condoms to fit in High Street shops or Supermarkets - I need to order MySize ones online. Even then, things may not even have developed that far until we were at her home, and I doubt very much if she would have had any - certainly not of the type suitable for me. However, the question I couldn't help asking myself all along was that if the situation had arisen, how would she react to the fact that I had brought condoms. Pleased that I had been responsible enough to take precautions, or insulted, thinking that I only had a single agenda & believed the same of her. It seems a dilemma whereby you're damned if you do & damned if you don't. It would be so much simpler if all men were obliged by law to take a pack with them when going on a date. In that case you would be covered as simply being a law abiding citizen. The question is, though, particularly directed to the ladies among you, if you were to start off with a seemingly innocent first date, and events were to gradually progress to the bedroom stage, which you believed to be romantic & spontaneous, only to find that he had prepared for such an incident, how would you react? Is he right to think ahead & be responsible, or is he wrong to consider you to be so easy?
The lube was taking it too far. Come on, now. What the fuck were you thinking would happen? But, having one or two condoms at all times, I grew up with guys like that. So, I don't think that's weird. I always thought the practice of having condoms beforehand was pathetic of the guy. But, hey... at least he isn't a guy that wants to do it raw. Those guys are way worse. So, I rather have a creepy guy that is prepared than a loser guy that wants to not use any condom. In a perfect world, it's just better to wait to have sex, I think. Less BS for the couple to have to deal with, such as this. It kills the mood and it makes everyone involved look like a piece of shit with their own motives. When it should be more fun, casual, and an overall good bonding experience with another human being.
Well, the blind date aspect, and packing condoms and lube, could make it appear like you expect sex. But, I know many couples who had first date sex (just not on blind dates). So, being the good Boy Scout and being prepared is admirable. I'm curious, a couple condoms slip in a pocket or billfold. Where does one discreetly carry a tube of lube. (As an older woman, lube is really useful. It isn't always needed, but if it is,it's the only way something will happen. I appreciate my partner who thought of it. Now I keep my own around...even though we haven't needed it.)
This is what you do. Get a plastic baggie, lay it in the driveway and run over it a few times. Place a condom in it and stuff it far into the back of your glove box. If sex is starting to happen, tell her you think you might have a condom somewhere in the car. Bolt out to your car and dig it out of the glove box. Bring it in still in the "old" sandwich baggie. Blow dust off of it. She'll be happy you "found" it and she won't be insulted. :rofl:
I actually misread it at first and thought she meant the condom. I smell a baby coming on. That, or an STD.
It seems to me that carrying your own condoms etc. sends the message that you give a fuck about the safety of yourself and your perspective partner. C/S,, Rev J
With the nature of the job, yes. As to how to discretely carry it - I'm a biker. I carry my lock & chain in the backpack, which is also where I carry my helmet. There are a few side pockets for such things. The lube was just a small Durex Play dispenser. As Drumminmama pointed out, in maturity often comes dryness, which (without meaning to brag) can often be a problem with a generous girth. Also, by their very nature, condoms tend to restrict natural lube qualities. Even though they are sold as 'lubricated' it is rarely enough.
As it happens, the condom wasn't required. She's past the menopause & we have absolute trust in each other. The whole relationship has been like one from a Romantic Novel / Movie. I first got to know her as an operative on an Emergency Out of Hours Support line, and the relationship developed from there. Neither of us really knew how far things were going to go, and we had a few more dates before things actually got down to making love. However, because she is petite & very tight, and I am excessively well endowed girthwise (that's not intended as bragging - it really is a problem sometimes), the lube was a necessity. I am happy to say the relationship continues to develop - and not just as far as the sexual side goes.
