relationship issues

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by thereaperman44, Jan 29, 2006.

  1. thereaperman44

    thereaperman44 Member

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    hey there, need some help
    ive been with chloe over 6 months now.this month weve rowed an awful lot, she doesnt like my friends, my music taste, my sometimes less than happy moods and she doesnt trust me. i cant see us getting married in the long term, yet anyway.it seems to me it would be easier to end it and take the pain than to keep making her unhappy, which makes me unhappy. i cant bring myself to walk away because i love her too much.how do you know when itstime to end a relationship and when to carry on fighting?
     
  2. ZePpeLinA

    ZePpeLinA Jump around!

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    hello there. i might not be in the best position to give advice here but i think its pretty obvious that things arent working out between you two. have you considered having a break and see how things might change, if they do? maybe she needs to miss you, and learn to respect you too, cos if she doesnt like your tastes, friends, etc, so why the hell is she with you in the first place? its all about compromising i guess, but that also means accepting the other one with all defects and virtues.

    it must be really frustrating to be in such situation, but i think if you want to save your relationship, you should talk to her and tell her what's going on and come up with a solution, which might possibly be having a break for a while, or changing other things about the relationship, if you are both willing to save it.

    i wish you luck
     
  3. Random_Zephyr

    Random_Zephyr Lifer

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    i think the point to end a relationship is when you get to the point where the bad outweighs the good. if that is the case, it’s better for both of you to end it. if not, i'd stick it out a bit longer.
     
  4. ~AmyLeeLoo~

    ~AmyLeeLoo~ Member

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    The fact that she doesn't like ur friends or music taste or whatever its not a reason to
    end a relationship. If you really love her and she loves you back you guys should be able
    to find a solution here.
    Everyone is different, you have ur tastes, she has hers... i mean that's something you
    cant change because ur partner doesnt like them, that's just absurd.
    I think you should sit down and talk to her like adults about this. Let her know how much
    u love her and that u want things to work out between you too but that she needs to
    make some sacrifices too, this life is not about finding the PERFECT PERSON is about
    finding the one who fills your needs in life and learning how to deal with imperfections.
     
  5. dietcoketree

    dietcoketree Member

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    heres the thing. dragging on something thats not there only makes things sour and uncomfertable. (sounds like you are living proof of this right now...) soooooo- tell her you love her and want whats best for her, and that maybe right now you feel that you may just be bringing her down. she'll appriciate your respect (maybe not right away, but in the long run no doubt) because either that will:
    1. make you realize that maybe you both arent ready to be in a relationship (especially with eachother)
    2. make you two realize how much you really mean to eachother, and you will both embrace eachothers return.

    :) hope that helps!
     
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