i was with a girl for a nearly 2 years now and really loved her , 2 weeks ago i cacught her flirting with sum guy on facebook and then find out shes flirting with another lad the next day i went mad as i really love her an would never excpetced this as i have been very loyal to her any way we started argueing and then she hit me a few times then i kicked her out but i feel like the bad guyn now have i over reacted? i still love her an shes not wanting to take me back as second time we broke up am 18 shes 17 and advice??
its hard to help when i dont know your whole situation but from what i do know id say that you should be loving and understanding to her but at the same time explain to her that you want to be the only guy in her life. tell her you dont mind her talking to other guys but you dont want her flirting with them. one thing that i notice a lot of guys do is that they try to stop there gfs from talking to other guys all together. im not saying you do, but if you do just have faith that she wont cheat. trusting her will probably help bring her back to you. sorry im not dr. phil, but atleast i tried to help haha
flirting is generally harmless, but it could potentially lead to less harmless acts. so while you shouldn't completely ignore it, you probably did overreact. that said, where the fuck does she get off hitting you? that's far more fucked up than some innocent flirting.
If she has a temper that gets to the point of physical violence (hitting you), it might be best to leave it alone and move on. If not, you could be facing something far more serious in the future.
its been 1 week since we spoke and i know the hitting was un called for but i could never hamr a woman and i think shes still speaking / seeing this guy now and is making no effort after me apologizing and loads of other stuff so looks like its over for good thanks for the comments anyway
If you were in an exclusive relationship with her and she was truly flirting then you did the absolutely correct thing. I went through this with a "stray" I took in when I was in college. The girl was just using me for a place to stay. I caught her messing around with a supposed friend of mine. I packed up her shit, escorted her to my car and drove her ass straight back to her low life parents house. She screamed bloody murder when I dumped her off at her driveway, dumped her shit and drove off. It was one of the most satisfying moments of my life. She emailed me (don't know how the fuck she got my email) about 7 years later and tried to apologize. I emailed her back that if she ever tried to contact me again I would get a restraining order against her (bullshit of course, but she was too stupid to know any better).
i havent decided weither i want to hurt her back or not yet but if i do il tell u how it goes and that story from jamgrassphan respect man
If you you admit that it's over and you're ready to move on, don't waste your effort or time trying to "get back at her".
I know it's over between you and this girl, so this is just general advice: The flirting thing, in a trusting relationship, should be a non-issue. Some people are just naturally friendly/bubbly in a way that may seem flirty to observers. I also know that many girls, while in great relationships, just enjoy flirting while having no will to go further. If you can't trust your girlfriend/boyfriend to stay faithful to you, you're not ready for a relationship. The hitting thing is a very bad sign, but people can lose their cool every once in a while. It shouldn't be taken lightly, but it's forgivable if it's only happened once and she doesn't have a habit of throwing tantrums. I'd say the only real problem there was that you'd broken up before. More often than not the on-again off-again things don't work out in the long run. There were obviously deep cracks in the foundation before these flirting incidents.
I concur with this assessment of your situation. Also I'd also like to add that you should not launch a campaign of revenge upon her. To do so, would be a sign of immaturity and will highly damage any future attempt at a new relationship with a new person. And to do so would prove a vital flaw in your own character to handle stressful situations that do impact relationship between many couples, married or not. It is best you focus your feelings in a positive manner in something constructive, charity work, education, work, and hanging out with friends. You're still very young, you've got the whole future to look forward too.
