Howdy, I just wanted your thoughts on this. If you have any theories, input, or experience like this I'd love to hear em. I've found that I often yearn to get physical with men that i talk to, and even not talk to and just glance at. I understand that this is a biological feeling, duh, but even when I have someone that I am involved with physically and emotionally, I still have thoughts and fantasies about other guys. I even feel awkward with most of my male teachers yo. I'm not looking for commitment of any sort, but I don't want to think of every male I know in a sexual way! I find it distracting, mind-fogging when talking to them, and I don't enjoy being physically involved with lots of people at a time. I prefer to limit myself in those endeavors. I feel that thinking of men in that way so much is disrespectful in that I am thinking about them in an instrumental way. And how do I cope with these types of feelings and desires I have for all these guys? It could be normal but I'm just sick of battling it and I feel like there must be some sort of explanation and way to cope with these annoying fantasies/thoughts.
Yeah I wouldn't feel bad about thinking of a male in those ways. I'd even go as far as fantasizing about cock and ball torture on the bastards.
What your experiencing is what guys feel around women all the time. From what you've described there is no difference at all. The best thing to do in these situations, is disassociate your guilt, with your thoughts about what society tells you is right or wrong. The only thing you have to worry about is if you take a behavior, thought, fantasy, and emotional urge and act on it, when it IS inappropriate. Most mature men are flattered in some degree when they realize they have a crush, only immature males don't know how to handle that situation gracefully.
