Regrets hearing the details of your wive's past sex?

We married out of high school. We both had sex a very small handful of times prior to finding each other. For over 30 years, even the thought of my wife with another man made me ill, even though our past seemed like a life time ago.

Things have changed. A lot. In the last year or so, we've been experimenting with talking about fantasies and such while having sex. Her fantasy is being doubly penetrated, me in her vaginally, another guy in her anally. Can't explain why but it is an immense turn on for me to hear her talk about it. And she likes it because I like it. And I like it because I know she would get off on it.

From that, the thoughts in my mind have evolved to that of wanting more. Lately, I have had the burning desire to hear about the details of her past sex. I think it would drive me wild hearing about it. On the other hand, I'm scared. Scared that I might get a mental picture in my head that I don't want, one that won't leave.

Anyone else gone through something similar and regretted hearing those details?

 

Anyone?

 

Her other lovers were after we were together, and most were group sex. I think she has a few secrets from me, and me a few from her. On the other hand I know several married women, who had lots of sex their husbands never knew about.

 

My wife and I started dating in high school and went to different colleges. She had a lot of sex in college. I didn't know about it until she told me after we married. It turned me on to hear about her sex with others. They had sex with her, but I got the girl.

 

I couldn’t care less about a woman’s past, except for disease or weather of not she has drug issues, or been to prison.

 

No regrets, we even had a threesome with her rather well endowed ex.
I think she and I had more wild times than he and she, but that was a wild weekend.

 

Well i started dating my wife when i was almost 30 and she was mid 20’s so obviously she had other lovers. I’m like you, the thought of it used to make me feel sick. Now not so much. She lived with an aunt for a couple years and admits thats where she had her wild times. She told me of wet tshirt contests and rubbing titties with other drunk girls but thats it. The thought of other guys enjoying the sight of her and gawking at her both bothers me and excites me. . I want to hear about how the night ended. Did she get fucked? Did she swallow some guys load? When we started dating she swallowed for the first year so i know she was swallowing cum before me. I know she was doing anal before me. I know i wasnt the first guy to cum in her ass. I want to hear anout who was. I want her her to lay next to me and give me a hand job and whisper the details in my ear.
I want to watch her get fucked by a man of her choosing and her not know im there just to see her be herself and not hold back.

 

I love knowing her past and hearin bout big cocks shes had and the randoms she had it turns me on knowing shes had some bbc also

 

Honestly, I prefer my partner had a lot of past lovers. If they want a relationship with me after we had sex that tells me they're probably not that crurious about finding someone better. Virgins or women with low body count will always be wondering if they could do better,

 

My wife was NOT a virgin when we met. As we got comfortable dating she told me that her previous boyfriend had not taken her virginity. It was a guy from years before. She also told me that her previous boyfriend enjoyed having sex with her quite often and she described how his cock was. Never bothered me. If she told me things now that I never knew about her sex life, it wouldn't bother me.

 

I know my spouse had sex with other men before we met. She had to have because she was really good in bed. Insatiable as they say. Her sex experiences were of no issue to me as my own weren't to her. So we've never traded experiences with former partners. We do know who some of them are but as far as details, no. No need as it wouldn't have made our sex any better than it already was.

 

No, We wanted to be open with each other. At times,as she was losing her sexual desire, I wished an old flame of hers could come join us and get her up to speed again, but it was hormonal so maybe it wouldn't be that easy. I had a vasectomy, a stupid thing to be conned into by my first wife who left me soon after. I actually mentioned to my wife, because I regretted not being able to get her pregnant, that an old flame of hers might like to come and give that to her for me. I would not have minded. She's always regretted not having kids.

 

Hearing about my wife past had no effect on me as I am not a jealous person. Note: You can’t be jealous in the lifestyle. I can see where some men might get a mental pictures of his wife sexual past, But the way I see it, she has every right to be her sexual self.
That said, We are very open about our sex life with each other and we enjoy consensual non monogamous sex play with others.

 

;-)

 

My wife and I met at 14 years old. I had girlfriends before her and she had boyfriends, but neither of us had had sex before.
She did blow one of my friends before we got together though. She was drunk and he was way better looking than me, so whatever. The thought of it has always kind of excited me.
She made out with and felt up some other girls in college.

 

It never made a differnce what either of did sexually in the past, but we did talk about our experiences, likes, dislikes and fantasies. History is just that.

 

The biggest thing I dislike about hearing of her past experiences is that they were far more adventurous and it feels like I missed out.

 

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Tarp if you're still around, breathe, breathe deeply, relax. Don't get all tense. Breathe deep and exhale all. Have fun with your marriage, with your amazing wife who is opening up to you, don't squelch it. Sex talk is important in a marriage, continue talking about fantasizes, the future, who cares about the past but if you go there realize its the past. As for DP use wall toys, double handled dils, and ménage a trois strap ons, or any combination. Also sex machines work but are more difficult in combination live. We sex talk all the time. We did from the very beginning. My wife told me everything after telling me that if I were not okay with it, not to waste our time. She of course was much more experienced than me which made her a much better lover. We talk about things we did last week, last month, last year, 10 years ago, its all good once you open up. Personal erotica is the best I believe.

 

Not at all - she was reluctant at first, but after some time she realized I not only didn't get jealous, but enjoyed it. We talked a lot about her first husband. I wanted to know what he did right in bed, and what he didn't do for her