All things considered would things be for the Better if done differently? Haven't a clue to the specifics - justa wild assed guess...
i think things probably turned out for the best, its just a trip to think i would have been having a kid soon. it makes me a little sad.
i never usually respond to these things.. but i'm quite afraid i may be pregnant- more than ever (i'm gonna take a test tomorrow). thinking about the responsibility i may have to endure- not raising a child, but aborting it and dealing with my own foolishness and carelessness for ever... i don't know if that's what you went through, but whatever it is... you're really brave for carrying it through.
You shouldnt feel that way, things like this happen. the best you can do is suck it up & try not to get too emotional over it. its hard but it can be done. i was actually prepared to step up & raise a child. then i got really sick when i was about 2 or 3 months & that was it. i had an abcess in my throat & couldnt swallow anything for like 3 days. i got really dehydrated & thats why i lost it. when i look at this now its almost like i got sick for a reason that this happened for a reason, maybe i wasnt ready. i most certainly couldnt afford a child & i have no health insurance. at least you know youre making the right descision, that will save you a lot of confusion. i wish you luck in whatever you decide to do. i know you can be brave about it too
chi;dren are a wonderful gift, but they are not a gift designed for everyone and they are definetely best accepted when you are ready. i have three little girls and i love them dearly. i was ready for them and they are what i needed to be reminded of the beauty in the world. on the flip side of that though there mothers werent ready and the pain they have had because of something so beautiful has tainted the purity of thier presence. make sure both parties are at an understanding as to whether or not they are ready for the responsibility. women, if he is outright against the idea of having a child dont bank on the fact that he will "come around", he might but if he doesnt your screwed and there is one more child without a father. and men, if all she talks about is how happy she is to be having "your" child then you might want to reevalute the shelf life of your relationship because she is having the child for you, not neccessarily because she wants it and if you ever leave her she will ahte you for it. pregnancy is a good time for both parties to take a real look at where the want to go as a couple. i'm saying these things from experience and mean no one any offense, but if you are offended i am sorry if "my" truths are painful. much love.
I cannot imagine the torment and anguish you must be going through. I hope for your sake you are not with child, that should save you a HUGE decision. Good Luck.
