Realizing Your Buddy/house Splitter Is Stealing Food..

So my buddy has been out of work for almost a year. His unemployment's finally been cut off as per couple weeks ago. He milked it as much as he could and still is pretty much, being as lazy as possible and trying anything he can (which is nothing) to not have to work or do anything. He's been a buddy for years, and still is but living with the guy is unreliable as fuck!

The landlord's been awesome in always waiting 2-3 weeks into the month to get paid for it.. but he's still getting annoyed regardless and i'm sort of in charge of getting it all together.

Out house is not a shared place.. he has the basement apt and I have the top part. We're the only people in the whole house. He has his part and I have mine, doors are locked because of the fact I am living alone not with anyone... it was to share the rent cost not to share the place.

I been noticing things going missing from time to time over the past few months. I might be a stoner, but I am very good with my money and with being organized and knowing that I bought these things, and when i go for them they're missing or been opened when i know I didn't open them. It's nothing big, but things like coke (the type you drink!), which i rarely buy so i'd know when it's missing. Full bags of chips sometimes half ones that I know I never opened. Just the other day I bought a new bag of potatoes, and when i went to open them they were already slightly opened and I know it wasn't like that at the store.

One morning I came home from work and noticed a pocket knife on my table.. like it was forgotten or something. It was NOT mine for 100%, and nothing major was missing or broken, but I may have had a bag of chips missing from my cupboard and a couple cans of coke.

I didn't believe it at first, but over the few months i've been sort of watching for it and finding it more often. Just then I noticed my box/bag of chicken nuggets has only lasted me two meals rather than four or whatever... I look at the other three boxes I have in the freezer (I love chicken nuggets), and all four bags of chicken nuggets have been openend from underneath, and some not really enoughh to notice by looking, were gone out! I know the store didn't sell them this way...

... so now I'm sick of having to be unsure of myself, when they went missing before I thought maybe it was just me forgetting so I intentonally put them off and tried to hope it was that, but now I can't let it rest anymore. It's not alot of money really, it still mattesr though i'm not making THAT much to support him too... but the fact that he's; not asking me for something but going at it all himself and trying to hide it.. it's just bullshit.

I just hate to confront him about this but it'll happen tonight when i see him.. any imput would be great. I was hoping I wouldn't have to confront him on this but after JUST offering to help him get ajob by driving him a couple places, I find this and regardless of what happens it's just something uncomfortable to live with.

 

So he is only stealing food?
He is hungry.....! lol
If there is food in the fridge here, anyone can feel free and take it....but one better ask about anything else!

Can you put a lock on your doors or get another room mate, who pulls their weight?

 

I know why he would be, but it's not like we share ANYTHING... it's two seperate apartments that should be locked.. but somehow he's picking the lock and relocking it etc which since he knows my schedule could be done.

After I confront him on it I will be putting a bigger better lock there I was just hoping it wouldn't have to come to this.

 

Maybe a lock with a combination number?

 

You should probably throat punch him. Then he'll have a hard time swallowing any of your food for a while

Now that he's not getting any money, how is he going to pay rent? Will that cause problems for you in the long run? It might be time to tell him he needs to leave unless you are on the lease together. For me, it wouldn't be about how much the food costs as it would be the fact that he's breaking in and stealing. That is the part that would piss me off. You definitely need to talk to him and change the lock to one that he can't pick.

 

Yeah, stealing anything....even something small....leads one to question...what else will you be stealing? I agree with you, Ruuby.......if that was their agreement...

 

yeah well the landlord is waiting til the 1st of Nov and he'll be expecting some then but my buddy knows already that if he cant get anything he's going to have to leave so i can get someone else in who can keep it all covered. I already know people who could but after four years it's hard to just kick him out ya know but in the same sense i have no interest in helping him because he's doing this.

So it's either he gets a job in the next week or he'll leave so i can get someone else in... my place is secure and it's thankful we got a reasonable landlord.. but he won't wait forever so something has to be done and he's not going to let me kicked out so he'll leave if it came down to it but somehow he always finds a way to barely scrape by.

we've talked about the rent issue just yesterday/today... but just after finding that about all my new boxes of food being opened I just have to finally bring it up to him tonight!

The rent is one thing, but the stealing food to keep himself fed while I work my ass off for all I have, that seems alot more personal.

 

Have that serious no bull shit talk and lay it on the line.....
reminds me of some song...lay it on the line...I think that was a song....have to check now....LOL

 

Yep, thought so.....


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pz26fcmq3S8

 

Triumph, i'm Canadian!
But yeah i'm a really easy person to get along with but I ain't going to get take advantage of. I didn't want to bring it up first thing i noticed it, but it seems like I got more than solid proof now that i'm not just stoned all the time and forgetting!

 

I was just thinking about the times, if there were any, where someone stold from me....

i will never forget during one of my moves...and the movers were there...it was a private company.....I was moving out of Cooperstown, and things were all over the place. I had absentmindedly left my purse in a room, and walked in just at the time one guy was looking through it. I was mortified.
Another time my whole pure was stolen on top of a car in the country sticks with no one around...as I went back into the person's house to ask one question. I felt my whole world got robbed that day...My whole life was in that purse.

 

The saddest part is taking it without your permission. Everyone can hit a hard time but that does not excuse being dishonest. I think that is what I would address first if it was me.

I would probably help any friend as much as I could but being asked before someone takes/usues something would be an issue for me.

Your landlord may have to evict him if he is unable to make rent. He can seek social assistance for the gap between EI and employment. The key being he is actually looking for work.

Tough situation for you to be in and perhaps now he will realize that it is also not a pleasant situation for him,

 

Definitely confront him about the stealing. If he disputes it, add an extra lock.

 

Sneak into his place and start taking like half of all his food, and leave the knife out on his table.

 

The stealing is bad enough, but the fact that he is breaking in to your private living area would completely creep me out.

 

salmonella ..

 

Laxatives . . .

 

place a sort of "bait", something you think he might be attracted to fuck with, but place it in a way that seems haphazard but infact has been carefully placed in such a way that any tampering with it will alter the exact placement of the item. you can even take pictures of the item and its placement so you'll know exactly how it was and then compare, that way you'll see any changes that have occurred, even if small

 

Put a note inside the fridge that reads "I'll explain why I'm accusing you of stealing my food after you explain why there is now a picture of you reading this note". Have a wild life, motion sensor camera hidden somewhere.

 

Why not mention to your buddy that you're sure that someone is coming into your apartment and taking things, and then mention that you are suspicious of the landlord? Then tell him that if it happens again, you're going to call the police to investigate.