Quickie BJs vs full sex

We have kind of fallen into a pattern of always finishing with full sex even if we've played around in lots of other ways. My husband often comments he wants to finish inside of me. However... I think he says that because he thinks thats what i want. When in reality I orgasm by him touching me or licking me. And, i know he LOVES a quick BJ, and most recently he has gone crazy over a good tit fuck.
I find both these quickies incredibly hot and would gladly pleasure him as often as he wanted in these ways.

So how do i incorporate a quick BJ into the routine without fullblown sex expected? And how do you suggest getting creative with BJs? I love the idea of sneaking off to a bathroom at a restaurant, in the car, in his office... and not just the same old "sex in the bedroom, at 11pm with the lights low and door locked because our 4 kids are sleeping" i want to be able to shoot him a glance from across the room and him know if he steps outside with me hes going to get the BJ of his life.

Men... Would you Regularly like BJs in addition to sex or do want BJ as foreplay leading up to sex? Or a balance of Both?

 

I get head every time we have sex. I get head every day without sex! Every episode ends with her playing with and swallowing my load. I am so spoiled and accustomed to this, I would never want it any other way. If my lady gave me quick head and didn't finish, I'd be disappointed based on what she's always done. I don't always have to have sex. Because she loves having my dick in her mouth, I know when she just wants to do that or when she wants sex in addition to it.

I always say it is best to have a conversation about it. No need to guess or assume. Personally, if you wanted to just give me head and nothing else AND finished with swallowing, I'd be cool.

 

You're never going to believe this, I have never enjoyed a good blow job, I just don't like being touched or fondled by anyone Male or female..
To me a blowjob is an affectionate act that requires true feelings and trust, I don't have either of these things for anyone and hope that I never do..
Sex is just that to me it's just sex..

 

Caroline, subtle hints don't work on men. You have to use the direct approach. Just sidle up to him and ask, "Hey big guy. How would you like a quickie blowjob. I'd love to suck your cock."

 

I kind-of agree with the Captain. Just tell him, "I'd love to give you a really great bj, but I want you to finish in my mouth. (or on my tits, etc.) Sometimes I just want to do that and satisfy you that way. I love doing it, so please let me have my fun too."

If you approach him that way, being direct, I'll bet he's going to be agreeable to your wishes. I know I would be!!!!!!

 

I woke him this morning witb a BJ and he hasnt stopped mentioning how much he liked it. I told him id be happy to do that more often. I kind of wish he would ask for it more often but i am the one who takes the lead with quickies, adventurous, etc. I think he doesnt want to cross the line or come across as domineering. But i kind of wouldnt mind him dropping his pants and pulling me over to him and letting me meet his needs at crazy times of the day.

 

Much like Nike’s old tag line: Just Do It! Anywhere, anytime. The knowing glance is hot, but so is just being completely spontaneous.

 

Why limit the fun to a bj? The spontaneous handjob or foot job is fun too!

 

If you want to give a BJ that doesn't end in intercourse, keep your clothes on.

 

I like to see her naked when a woman is sucking my cock, even it if is a quickie.

 

Clothed OR naked - OR partially dressed - I'd LOVE it if my wife just started into a bj or handjob for me. I think most of us guys love it if our ladies take the lead without being asked. It makes us feel WANTED in that way - and not like a "yappy little dog" barking for his "yummy-treat." Being the only ones to initiate sexual play makes us guys feel unwanted and more like that "yappy little dog."

Don't be scared girls !!!!! Come and GET US !!!!!!!

 

Perfect description! I am that yuppie little dog!

 

Anythingonce - ^^^^^ I think when we guys are always the ones who have to initiate sex, it paints the women as not being into us or the sex itself. What guy doesn't want to feel "wanted" by his lady sexually?? I love it when my wife initiates!! And always did with other ladies (who initiated) before I met my wife. You don't feel as though you're always "imposing" on her, so to speak. Feeling wanted ...……. is just a great feeling!!

 

Definatley a balance of both

 

To enjoy prolonged pleasure women apart from giving head , pussy and butt should learn the tact of toning down the guys erection , it's an art , keeps men safe until late .
I like long sessions , only masterbation is quickie business.

 

Do you like anal

 

Listen. Anytime anywhere she wants to give me a BJ, is more than OK with me, my pants are off, boom. It doesn't need to lead to sex, but just let him know your intention on where it's leading, whether he needs to hold back or lie back and let it go... Don't over complicate it. Grab him and go anywhere you can - that's half the fun of it. A BJ is great as foreplay and she knows how much more 'enthusiastic' I'll be afterwards returning the favor. Oh, and when you're not thinking of it and he drops a BJ hint, just do it without blinking an eye. It will make your man happy - and you'll have fun, no matter how tired you are........

 

Keep at it, hand jobs, bit of prostate fingering as well. My wife wakes me up every morning that way. She goes to work much earlier than me, so it's a parting gift. I don't always wake up during, but later, with the evidence of her work.

The less sex is always about ending with intercourse, the more variety tends to be on the menu, and the more frequently it occurs.

 

Agree with Phil - ^^^^ Variety - that's key. Would you want to eat the same exact meal every day - or would it become boring?? It's the same with sex ………… though you wouldn't know it by behaviors. (both men & women are guilty - not pointing fingers!)

Marital counselors all say - "Try new things!! Add variety. Add spice. Try toys and gadgets. Get out of your comfort zone - you might love it!! " ............… Can I say, "duh!" ??

On another thread here, a wife tried anal for the first time with her husband and LOVED it. She took a leap ………… and it paid off big-time!! Great for the two of them.

 

Once in a while it's incredible to have her ride her T.O.M. with suction cup dildo while she sucks me off.....when she starts coming she about doubles suction and usually i jerk it off on her face. A lot of times she'll put a butt plug in too