Now I have been wondering for the past week about somthing. I resently took a greyhound from Florida to ohio and I met a really cool chick on the way up, she was sitting next to me for about 12 hours (till she got to her stop) and We had a really long conversation and as we came closer to her stop I got kinda sad because I didn't want to never hear from this girl agian because she was really cool so I gave her my address and told her to drop me a line some time. Now comes my question, I have a girlfriend who would probably freak out at the idea of me having a female pen pal, and I was wondering what you would do if you found out that your boyfriend (or what ever) was writing some girl who lived pretty far away, would you be jelious? Angry? Or would you not have a problem with it and do you think I should Tell her? Thanks for the advice, Zeke
Well in my opinion you chatting on here to women is no different than writing them on paper.. I pen pal and I consider the 2 to be pretty much the same.. Would I be jealous? No because my last guy wrote his ex.. If this girl is someone that's leaving a pretty big impression on you and it could ruin your current relationship then leave it be, assuming you're happily involved? If you're looking for friendship only just ask your gf if she would have a problem if you started a pen pal friendship with another woman and let it go from there.. In a relationship I don't believe you shouldn't have friends whether it's the opposite sex or not but you have to be able to control certain urges.. You don't want this going too far.. At least I wouldn't.. Good luck with whatever happens.
Talk to your girlfriend about it. I wouldn't care if my boyfriend had a female pen pal...as long as he promised me they were just friends and they weren't writing about sexual things or intimate things...To me, that kind of stuff should only be shared with your significant other... But if you have nothing but good intentions, I wouldn't see a problem with it.
if you think its problem worthy then perhaps leave it alone. Sounds like you might have more of an interest in ythis girl than just as a pen pal.
Right, Which is what I'v been trying to decided. She lives pretty far away (somewhere in the virgin isle's) I figure I read her first letter and then decided. I'm Happy with my girlfriend and I love her and when I was with the other girl the thoughts of somthing happening never really entered my mind. So it should be safe, but I'll talk to my girlfriend about it, Thanks for the advice :-D
Life is way too short to give yourself limited options. You are young, have fun.... Things sometimes funny as they are happen for a reason. If you feel deep down that you ever want to find this girl and really get to know her, that's cool! If your girlfriend isn't down with the pen pal, then she has jealousy issues. Hell you are not married... Write her all you want.
i personaly wouldnt be ''happy'' about my bf having a female pen pal... cant you just take it for what it was (a good day with a stranger who helped pass the time) and take a look at the woman who wants to be with you now IN PERSON? i understand the bus girl and you had a connection and you want to be friends, but what is it that is drawign you to this mere stanger? if your not happy in your relationship, youve got bigger problems then deciding to write some girl a couple letters. life is about choices and its your job to make the best ones you can.
Hmmm... yes I would be jealous. Would I do anything about it. No. At least nothing crazy. Seriously. I get jealous. I'm not too proud to admit it. Most people do get jealous, even if they pretend to be so much more zen than that. When you fall deeply in love with someone, it is common to be selfish about it. I didn't say it was right, but that is another topic entirely going into conditioning and such. But I'm answering your question honestly. Am I adult enough to handle it though, yes. If this same situation happened with me and my boyfriend and he told me about it, I would first ask him questions, like why does he find her so interesting and is it that he would rather be with her than me. Things of that nature that I would honestly want to know. No point in spending my life with someone who is pining after someone else the whole time, ya know. Then I would tell him that it made me feel jealous and a little uncomfortable because it would make me feel like I was not good enough (assuming that there was some reason for him wanting to correspond with this person other than just being interested in her culture or experiences). But after telling him how I felt about it, just expressing my genuine concerns with the situation, I really wouldn't have much to say after that. I am assuming he is being completely honest with me and I trust him. I would not tell him not to speak with someone if he really wanted to. Right now my boyfriend talks on occasion to a girl he dated for a short while before we met. She still has the hots for him and is always looking for an in (that was what he said, not me, I was naive enough to trust her intentions). Now that I know what she is after, I don't trust her one bit. But I do trust my boyfriend when he says he loves me and would never hurt me. So, I don't make a big deal of him talking to her. I talk to some guy that I was trying to hook up with before I met Jeremy. Just comes down to being mature enough in your relationship to be honest with each other about your desires and feelings, and being able to respect the other. I'm rambling. sorry. Good luck.
You have a crush on this girl, I'll bet you think about her a lot huh? Yes I would have a problem with it. Wouldn't you???
