Question for you...

Ive been with my fiance for awhile, I love him to death and he rocks my world when we have sex. The problem I have is with oral, it just has never really offered me the sensation to orgasm. My fiance gets really bummed out about it because we can't really think of any other forplay for me. I love being fingered and having his hand rubbing my clit but because he works a workshop job, (he builds horse trailers) his hands are so rough my sensitive skin hurts.

It's not just him that I've had trouble with oral with. All of my past beau's (girl or boy) it's just too weak for me to enjoy it.

So last night we were fooling around before we had sex and he just goes quiet, and I ask him whats wrong and he tells me that he's bummed that I'm not enjoying it. It's not that I don't enjoy it I just don't get off from it.

Whats a nice way of telling him that I don't get off from it but that's ok? I've told him like that a few times before but he doesn't seem to understand, because he's still getting super upset about it.


Any input is appreciated.

 

rough hands?

hmmmm. tell him to rub some burts bees almond oil on that shit.

and quite simply he sucks at oral. you must train him or reconsider marriage, eh? think about 40+ years with the same lame tongue...o jeeze

 

He doesnt suck at oral. I just don't get off from it. And sorry but that is the most immature shit I have ever heard, reconsider marriage...over oral? I hope thats a joke.

I'd have 10000+ years with that tounge cause it's attached to him.

Anyone have anything USEFUL to say. I wasn't complaining about not getting off from it I DON'T CARE, I just don't want him so upset by it.

 

Allrighty then; How about you try to explain to him that it's a problem of yours and not a problem of his. Try to explain that if you can't cum from oral, it could be a problem with you, not with him, (whether it is or isn't, I don't know, but I'm saying that's what you should say). Once he knows that all the blame/pressure/responsibility isn't on him anymore, he'll ease-up.

It's a "guy who's gonna get married soon" thing. Happened to my older brother a LOT. Whenever he was stressed or upset about something he thought he was responsible for, I explained to him in plain English that it wasn't his fault, it was the other guy's.

 

So guys get a little up tight before they get married?

 

You could say "baby, I love you and you rock my world in bed. You don't have to go down on me because it just isn't my thing. I am sure if it was I would be going crazy, but it just isn't. Its nothing you've done, and I love all the things that you do, so how can we make oral sex a non-issue?" You reassure him while telling him that you aren't interested in oral and aren't likely to be. He wants to please you, and it sounds like you know that. So, tell him how you feel.

If he has rough hands maybe he could "play doctor" and wear a rubber gloves. Or he could rub you through silky panties. Whatever you need to do to get his fingers pleasing you without the ouch factor of rough hands. Get creative! It will be fun finding new ways together.

On the oral sex thing...before you write it off completely....have you tried g-spot stimulation while he is licking your clit? Some women have little feeling in their clit, but add other stimulation and they go nuts. Other ideas are masturbating in front of him and having his face close to your pussy. You may be able to associate his face + your pussy = orgasm.

Lots of things to try, and you have tons of time to try them. Don't be afraid to experiment! The best part is when you and your partner find some trick that really sets you on fire. He will feel like he has struck gold, and you will be happy he did

 

Holy shit yes! Men of all ages DREAD the day of their wedding. If it were up to us, the whole matter would be a strictly paperwork-oriented thing. If he's confirmed to himself that he's getting married, he should be very tensed and easily irritated as the big day gets closer.

Now, all of this is just observation of my older brother six months prior to his wedding. And it certainly varies in the details from man to man; but I'm solid that that the basic premise is the same: As the number of days until the wedding decreases, the levels of anxiety, irritability, stress and overwhelmingness of overall responsibility increase.

 

Have him use a vibrator on you while doing oral, also anal stimulation and YOWZA! You'll enjoy it.

 

What types of foreplay do you enjoy? In the heat of the moment I would beg for one of those things and then REALLY over emphasize how great he is at it. You won't be faking anything other than vocalizing to him that it feels great, and he'll find a new focus to feel good about. Some gals just don't dig oral. Sometimes it is just a timing thing too. If a guy goes from nothing to diving in for some oral, things will be sensitive and more irritating than feeling good. You have to warm things up before jumping right in there.

Anyway, just tell him it isn't your thing and never has been (so he knows that it isn't HIM). Put the focus on something else that you DO enjoy.

 

Oral is important enough to be a factor in marriage, not saying for a girl necessarily, but if a girl said, "No, I won't give you oral," I damn well wouldn't marry her and I'd pretty much dump her immediately. It's way too important.

 

Nah, I love sucking dick, and to be honest, I don't know many men that say no when I tell them that they can do less work in bed.

 

First of all to me sex isn't "work" even though it takes effort...

and secondly...

I am having some VERY naughty thoughts that I will keep to myself.

 

lol perv

 

I'm with Hack on this one. Nothing like a gorgeous woman making that statement.

 

Aw dave, you think I'm gorgeous? I'm flattered

 

Dave... Tag Team.

Whoomp There it is.

Not only am I somewhat of a perv, I am also quite nerdy.

 

Just tell him what you told us here. That would work best. Get it right out right away. Tell him you love it but it dont make you cum. There's a lot of thing I love my wife to do to me but I will never cum from it. Doesnt mean I dont want it every night.

 

Well, of course I do.

 

what is it about these forums that bring out the sexiest damn girls Hack?

 

I don't know. I hope she doesn't take my sexist comments to heart... I just find her to be stunning. Can't help it. She gets unfiltered male testosterone.

I'll try and curb that.

Dave, you and I share the same brain. I hope you let me have it soon...