was having a discussion with someone else about this and thought it made sense to talk to an actual transexual about it, so here goes. do you let your partner know about your history if you're post-op? do you make sure to let them know at least before sex, or before any other type of contact? if not, why not? I've read some answers already and it seems that no one feels they should disclose anything to anyone. then there are a lot of analogies about medical history, plastic surgery, etc. but the truth of the matter is that I would most likely suffer serious emotional distress if I found out I had slept with a transexual. it's logical to assume that most men feel the same way I do. if you know that you're getting someone to do something they don't really want to, wouldn't the right thing to do be to tell him the truth?