Question For The Wives, Wife Caught Me Masturbating, Again

Here is the short story. I want/need sex way more than my wife. I accept this about her but, my perception of her feelings on sex is "if she does not desire sex, I should not desire sex." Basically, sex with my wife is once every six to eight weeks. Not enough for me. I tried to talk to her about this. She does not want to talk about anything that is sexual at all, ever. We have been married for over 30 years. The first time she caught me was 5 years into our marriage. Late at night, after she went to bed, She came back into the living room. The first time all she saw was me watching a porn movie. She didn't say anything. She caught me in the act several times while watching a movie. She was not happy. I explained to her I needed it more often than she did and I did not want to pressure her into sex. She also realized I would masturbate when ever I was home alone. This theme has gone on for our entire 30 plus years. Sometimes she would bring me back to bed for great sex, a few times she would finish me off in the living room. Mostly, when I came back to bed she would say in a disapproving tone, "Feel better." I have slowed down from 4 to six times a day (smoke'in hot wife, still is), to a few times a week. And I have never refused her needs or desires.This brings me to some questions I hope you will answer.

1) How long have you been married?
2) Did you know your husband masturbated before you married?
3) If you caught him masturbating, how surprised/shocked where you, when you caught him masturbating
4) Does it bother you when he does this?
5) If it does bother you, is it the porn use, he kept his masturbation from you, or that he needs to masturbate without you?
6) Are you available to him when he wants sex?

Please add any comments or your own challenges with your husbands porn and masturbation issue.

 

1. 2 years , not married, but together.
2.he tells me
3. Not shocked. Thats how he spends his alone time, thats up to him.
4.no, its his body. Hes in a commited relationship, not a controlled environment. His freedom of his body.
5. He can use porn. Im not gonna get upset that he wanks off to bouncing boobies haha.
6. Yes, unless im sick ans thats rare.


Shes most likely just insecure. But she should not be upset with you for masturbating unless its so much to the point you want it more then sex or its taking away time from your wife. If its just something you do in alone time there should be no shame. If she has low sex drive or maybe depression maybe she should talk to a doctor. I had a time where i rarely wanted sex and it was because i was having an episode of depression from bipolar disorder. Thats just my expierience and reason for me not wanting it. Communicate with her.

 

1) How long have you been married?

10 years

2) Did you know your husband masturbated before you married?

Are there guys that don't? Are there even women that don't?

3) If you caught him masturbating, how surprised/shocked where you, when you caught him masturbating

I have never caught him. I'm honestly not sure how I'd react but I would definitely be surprised!

4) Does it bother you when he does this?

I don't know when it happens and I don't think about it. The idea doesn't bother me though

5) If it does bother you, is it the porn use, he kept his masturbation from you, or that he needs to masturbate without you?

As long as it wasn't creepy porn and as long as it wasn't an excessive unhealthy habit the porn would not bother me. I would be a little sad to think I wasn't enough for him if it he needed to masturbate regularly

6) Are you available to him when he wants sex?

It's almost always mutual but I know there are days and times where he needs a blow job or to get off and I am happy to help! He's there for me in those circumstances!

 

Kick the bitch to the curb! If she is flipping out over you punching the munchkin that is the beginning steps to other controlling behavior. Once you let one of those things fly you've opened Pandoras box. It starts with controlling your masterbatory habits and grows from there.

C/S,
Rev J

 

1) How long have you been married?
2) Did you know your husband masturbated before you married?
3) If you caught him masturbating, how surprised/shocked where you, when you caught him masturbating
4) Does it bother you when he does this?
5) If it does bother you, is it the porn use, he kept his masturbation from you, or that he needs to masturbate without you?
6) Are you available to him when he wants sex?

20 years
Of course the wife knew
She never cared, actually would help me out if she happened in
Doesn't bother her at all. Poses for pictures so I always have some material handy.
Yes I use porn and wife could care less if I do. She will watch me watching porn and jacking off.
We have sex daily unless one of us is sick, she never denies me sex. Still enjoy a daily jack as well.

We have a very sexual relationship. I never tire of looking at her hot body and she lets me enjoy what she owns. We have always lived naked at home.