Question for men: convince me to let my husband go down

I admit I am reluctant to let my husband go down on me. I let him do it every so often and I do like it but i feel like Im holding back from really allowing myself to relax and enjoy it. I think my concern is being worried that he doesnt like it. Or that its dirty. While I will give a BJ whenever, i prefer to be fresh ut of shower for him to lick me.

1- convince me why i should be more open to letting him go down on me .

2-How do you like your woman to groom for your optimal experience? (waxed, shaved, trimmed)

 

1 - Because he wants to.
2 - Just naturally clean and maybe trimmed neat.

Relax and both of you will enjoy it.

 

You are worrying too much. Like women, men are all different, but personally I'd rather eat a woman's pussy after she's been out of the shower for a while. I want to smell and taste a woman, not a bar of soap. My gf shaves pretty often but a little hair doesn't slow me down a bit. Honestly I love to go down on her, and she'd have to be pretty gross down there to make it anything other than a wonderful experience for me












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My wife and I like to be freshly showered before we play. We both shave smooth for each other to avoid hairs in our mouths, stuck in teeth, etc. Everyone has their own preferences as to freshly showered, shaved or hairy, etc. If your husband is enjoying himself when he goes down on you - let him!! Lay back and enjoy all those sensations!! He obviously wants to pleasure you that way.

I love to lick all around my wife's "lady zone." I usually indulge for at least an hour, and usually for 2 hours at a time. She LOVES it!! I can usually give her 4 to 7 orgasms in that time. I love her to pieces, so ……… why not?? I love making her feel so good!!

Let your husband make you feel good too!!

 

If he wants down there by all means let him. For myself to hear the sighs and moans makes me feel special. I feel like a man.
As far as grooming I prefer shaved or trimmed neatly. I prefer fresh but I do admit to pulling out the plug and having at it. Although she resists that time of the month She has cum hard and thanked me after.
She also very rarely has any foul odor so I’m never hesitant to go down. Now if I could just do this more than once every 3-4 weeks I’d be a happy dude.

 

How often would you prefer to do this? Weekly? Every time? I think my husband would love a BJ every time but im just not ready every time for him to go down. I working on being more open to it. Because i think he likes it. And the orgasms from that are pretty awesome.

 

It doesn’t have to be every time. I’m very proficient with my fingers also and she likes that. She is satisfied having sex once every 3-4 weeks. For example last Saturday was the 1st sex in 21 days. None since. So when I get the chance I like to have my tongue running circles around her clit until she has a pulsating orgasm. Then I’m frustrated for the next month thinking about it.

 

Fresh out of the shower is the best as far as I’m concerned. Clean and tasty! And I prefer no hair anywhere, but a landing strip is ok. And believe me, any man who won’t go down on a woman willingly doesn’t deserve the woman who wants him to!

 

Communication is key in every situation. I personally love going down on my wife after she comes out of the shower/bath. And yes for me shaved is what i prefer.

The more he does it, the more you will enjoy it. But never force yourself on doing something you are not comfortable just because he does want to. Just talk it over with him and im sure everything will work out.

 

I don't much care how her pussy is as long as it's not that time but not an issue in my house anymore. I wish my wife would let me every time I want to but she doesn't like her smell anymore. She's gotten very vanilla since menopause. As far as hair, at my age 52, I had it from full bush to smooth and if I'm eating pussy and making her exploded I don't care.

 

It's a natural instinct for most men to want to taste a woman before intercourse. Suckling a lovers breasts and then slipping down to taste her sweet nectar is such a turn on. What men get from tasting a woman's vagina is the odor that she is becoming ready for sex. It is not a heavy odor but subconsciously it makes the mans desire to mate with the woman stronger. Once he inhales her scent he will linger enjoying the pleasure she provides for his senses.

Carolina, please your man by allowing him to savor you in every way he can. What you think is dirty or nasty he will think it is the nectar of the gods. That man of yours loves you and every inch of your body including your vagina. If he has a problem with going down on you he wouldn't. By what you have posted he doesn't have any issues and willingly wants, possibly deeply desires, to taste a very intimate part of you that you should share.

 

You want to suck and lick his balls, you want to roll your toungue over them in your mouth. So this is your compromise. You let him go down on you, and go with the sensations it arouses within, you let yourself go. As he hits the right spots you let him know. In return you ask that you can take his balls in your mouth and explore the sensations. How about an old fashioned 69er position as compromise?

 

Good advice by these posts, Carolina!! Very good advice.

Don't be so uptight, Carolina188. He WANTS to be down there, so your fears about odor or taste are just that - fears - not reality. At least to your guy! Why not let him love you orally? He WANTS to do that to make you feel very, very good. You said the orgasms from his oral pleasuring are pretty awesome - so why not enjoy them each time you two play?? !!

Phil had a great idea just above - why not enjoy a hot, lusty 69 session together?? Both of you can drive each other crazy at the same time. That's my wife's favorite way to REALLY get hot & wet!! Sucking on a cock gets her wet & horny, and then having a tongue licking away happily for her pleasure doubles the heat level. I think Phil 53 hit the nail on the head!!

 

I love it and so does she. We could do it everyday! And we do it all over the house and outdoors.

 

When I met my wife she was even more reluctant than you. It was a combination of 2 things. 1: All her past experiences with men going down on her have been uncomfortable, due to them being way too aggressive. Everyone is different, and not all women want her man going at her extremely sensitive areas like a starving wolf that just found a kill!. 2: She constantly worried about taste/smell down there. We had a wonderful talk about it. I told her that I absolutely love giving pleasure to my partner, that in turn gives ME great pleasure. I came up with something she was "kind of" ok with lol. First thing was that she takes a shower first, not for me, but for her piece of mind that she knows she's as fresh as possible. Second thing is that she has 100% control the entire time, and promised to tell me what feels good or uncomfortable. We showered and did our normal kissing/nibbling/teasing and all that good foreplay that gets the mind in a wonderful place. I slowly worked down her neck and breasts with kisses and nibbles. She was definitely getting tensed up as my lips gently made contact with her Beautiful pussy. But I remained gentle and slowly noticed her legs and body relaxing. The best thing was starting to hear those moans as her mind changed from memories of the past to the amazing sensations of the present!. After a half dozen body shaking orgasms with her hands gripping my hair and pulling me as deep as possible, I slowly made my way back to her neck and whispered "I told you that you're going to love it". Needless to say, she absolutely loves oral and loves squirting over and over on my face and covering the rest of me. I've came close to an orgasm while giving because it turns me on soooooo much. You know those feelings you get when he's jerking and moaning due to your mouth massaging his cock, and you know it's all because of you?? Relax and enjoy, allow him to work his magic and experience those same wonderful feelings and pleasures that BOTH of you deserve. Communication is important.

 

I think once you understand and enjoy the pure pleasure he can give you, you'll be more willing and will end up craving it. Your body is your body, don't be concerned about that, he loves you and wants only to pleasure you. Try taking a bath or shower together for an intimate warmup. I love it smooth - sure prevents the 'oh wait, I have a pube in my mouth' delays. 69 is the perfect way finish after he has worked his magic..

I always keep it all in 'BJ ready' condition - you never know - or I'm always hoping....

 

I don't even know where to begin

Perhaps ...

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is a good start.

I suggest you let your body rule your pleasure. Not what your church, school, parents or friends told you.



This may sound crude or vulgar, but I honestly suggest the two of you take a Thailand sex tour.

If you continue denying your own pleasure as well as not providing anything interesting for you husband to feel for the last ... what, 30 years? (it was 21 years for me)

Seriously ---- I am 59 1/2, old enough to start withdrawing from my retirement accounts without penalty. Yet I still think about sex as much as I did when I was 16, 18 or 24. But my marriage failed and I am hurting as much as it ever did

It is truly a curse for men to have this constant 24/7 desire for sex (and don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise) - and if you still have trouble getting the concept, just google Robert Kraft Florida.

Sex is something that permeates every sector of my brain. I am 59 1/2. If you think it doesn't consume your husband's mind, you are wrong. Tragically wong

 

Just let go. Stop thinking about it and focus on what your feeling. Guide and tell him what's working. May be awkward at the start but it can grow into an amazing and intense connection.

 

For me its actually a deal braker. Ive had hookups where there was literally all we would do.

 

I can understand a woman feeling a little self-concious about something so intimate, but most guys actually really like it. There's pheromones down there in that aroma and taste that really turn us on. So, if you like it, just do it and enjoy. Don't think for a minute that he isn't really enjoying it too.
With regard to preference, clean and fresh is good, but I also like it a while later when it's less soap and more woman, if you know what I mean. For me, trimmed tidy is fine. It doesn't need to be fully waxed.

 

I shave and I shave her so we are both clean, been that way for 50 years and its still fun and shows our love for each other, its great to keep at it.