Question for male and female homosexuals

I have been wondering this lately. And I need some honest gay answers from both men and women.

Ok so, since gay men aren't attracted to women at all, and lesbians aren't attracted to men at all, why is it that some gays will dress and behave feminine and girly, and some lesbians will dress and behave manly and butch? If you're not attracted to the opposite sex, why is it that you try to mimic them?

I'm not stereotyping ALL homosexuals into this category as I'm fully aware there's plenty of manly gays and feminine lesbians out there. This is something that sort of occurred to me lately and the whole fact they do this sort of puzzles me.

 

i suppose it's for the same reason some heterosexual men behave girly and heterosexual females act butch. you know, not all girly guys and butch females are homosexual, some of them are heteros.

and i think it has something to do with exposure to estrogen in men and testosterone in women during critical developmental stage in the brain that shapes individual's behavior. it's not a choice really, it's something inborn.

 

Traditional wisdom here (with a number of exceptions) was that the people may want to signal their sexual role preference. Very manly gay dudes were signalling that they were most likely looking for a bottom, i.e., more "girly" dude and v.v..

No doubt, this has changed in the recent years to the point that it hardly really means anything. People adopt a certain identity most probably because they feel somewhat comfortable about it. They identify with that "manly", hands-on approach because their friends are like that or because they want to hang out with that kind of guys. Conversely, more "girly" dudes want to talk, shopping, make up, fashion and hair-style, etc. and possibly hang out with the like-minded crowded.

I agree that the inclination may be biologically determined. Yet, a number of guys are shifting between the groups as they find fit and opportune. This probably indicates that there is a degree of societal adaptation taking place here.

KD

 

The question is based on assumptions that are incorrect in the first place.

And you seek the truth? You are not going to be able to handle the truth.

Whatever the causes the effect is small petite effeminate gay guys get too much of the rest of the male population excited. And at the same time they are the least threatening males to the female half of the population, well when the girls are younger that is, when they get older, more overprotective of the husband and put on weight then its claws out.

 

Well I guess most people would guess I'm gay most based on my voice which isn't very masculine. One guy said he guessed cause of my personality. But anyways I still act pretty manly and have average guy's interests for the most point. I just can't relate with the very girl guys, some for example were all into fashion and glamour.

hmm starting to ramble, well anyways I just find it funny as a gay even I don't really get the "femmes" either.

 

I think the premise is wrong. There may be some gays who aren't attracted to females "at all", but sexuality, according to the Kinsey institute is a continuum, with bi's in the middle. There are guys who consider themselves straight but just like, from time to time, to have sex with other guys (denial?) There are other guys who are primarily attracted to guys but occasionally have sex with girls, for a variety of reasons, and sometimes marry them. There are plenty of straight-acting gays whose habits other than sex are indistinguishable from normal masculine guys. Lots of variation. And the OP acknowledges this. But he's right that there are effeminate gay men, and my question is similar to his: why would a gay guy be attracted to one? ( I know lots aren't) The mere fact that the femme guy has a penis?

 

why would a straight guy be attracted to a butch female?

also, read this--- http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=436128&f=59

 

In a nutshell .... :2thumbsup:

 

i honestly think it has everything to do with being yourself. if that's your personality, that's your personality. i think it's awesome that people are so comfortable with expressing how they feel inside, outwardly.