How did your interest in Bi Fun develop? Mine is like a time line of different occurences over the years that seemed to push the envelope further with each experience. What was your starting point and how have you developed over time?
My starting point was when I turned 20, I was seeing a woman in her early 30's. I was like a puppy with her, everything she did and said was fantastic and sexual. We had threesomes with other women, when she suggested a threesome with another guy, it really didn't seem so odd or off putting. By the time the other guy and I had shared her a few times, and some weed was involved, everything seemed cool. That's how my "interest in bi fun" started.
My starting point was when I was a 22-year-old virgin. I was seduced by an older man during a massage. After struggling with my homophobic feelings for about a half-hour while his hands roamed my body, I ended up getting off like a massive fireworks show. Less than a week later, I started having sex with a woman in my rooming house. More fireworks. Equally explosive. During the five decades since then, I have had about dozen male lovers and an equal number of female lovers, and have come to appreciate that many sensual lovers, including myself, have both male and female characteristics (in the same person). I have also increased my appreciation of lovers who are considerate and affectionate.
How much time do you have? This question has made me want to write a comprehensive blog post about my bisexuality and someday I might. But I'll keep to the basics here at least for now. And I'm happy to answer questions if asked. For reference: male here, single, close to 50. The idea came spontaneously in my early 20s. I was downright shocked by how much the idea turned me on! This was something I dared not share with anyone in the universe at the time. But of course post nut clarity made me feel embarrassed, ashamed and guilty about such thoughts. I had no idea what came over me but I was determined this was a one time thing and bury it in the past. But a few months later the feelings came back. Again I was in denial afterwards. Every few months this would happen and every time I swore it was the last. It wasn't. Over time the time in between grew shorter, and I began to look in the Internet for support. And I did find a lot of kind, helpful people for which I am grateful! Over the past five to ten years or so the post nut clarity allowed my attractions, and I slowly began to accept I have some kind of attraction to the same sex, but I wasn't ready to consider myself officially a bisexual yet. Then about two years ago that realization did come about as spontaneously as my first realization so many years ago.
With me, there was an interest in what it would be like to play the female role in sex. But, I was having a great time having sex with girls and eventually my wife to push those thoughts out of my mind. When I got older and my wife and I split, I lived temporarily alone in another stare for work. It was then that I felt it was time to act on those thoughts and found I really liked it. I had a regular FB for a couple of years, took a break and now have met with a guy a number of times over the last several months.
i knew i was bisexual from the age of 12. i was quite certain about what i was :] - a homoromantic bisexual genderfluid.
I have told this story on another thread and I am not sure it qualifies here but why not? I was as straight as an arrow my entire life until the day I saw a cock on a woman. I had been chatting with her for months on an old web site until one day, she told me that she had not been honest with me. I had no idea what she was talking about until she told me that she was not a real girl. Now I was really confused. How could she not be a real girl? What did she even mean by that? It was then that she told me that she had a cock and even then I didn’t believe her. So she proved it to me. She thought that I would be angry with her and stop being her friend. Instead I found myself wanting her and wanting her cock - in my mouth - in my ass. That started a long journey of questioning myself until I finally accepted my desires. Eventually I acted on those desires and discovered true sexual fulfillment. Now I am happy as my transgender girlfriend’s bottom - something I never could even have imagined in my previous life.
I recently ask myself this same question. I started thinking back to the earlier sexual influences in my life and I was kinda surprised at some of them and how it led me to a bi fun world. As a young teen I would watch the only porn I had access to and in one scene a guy shared his wife and another the girl insisted a guy lick his own cum off of her. That was probably the very beginning for me because it put the thought of tasting my own cum in my head. When the internet became household I researched cum eating and then other masturbation ideas that could enhance orgasms and I came across playing with the ass. After playing with my back door and cumming in my own mouth, in the height of horniness I wondered what the real thing would be like....it was a lot of fantasizing and then guilt for many years until I finally realized exactly what I was and that I was okay with that.
I had a summer back in my teens where a couple of my friends and I had circle jerks on weekends. We occasionally touched each other. We all got married and moved on as everyday norms. I was content with sex with my wife our whole marriage though I did occasionally think about that summer. Fast forward to three years ago. A friend I have known for near 50 years were sharing stories and fantasies. He is not one from that summer. Never known him to be anything but a straight married man like myself. Our stories brought about us being nude together, then touching each other to eventually trying oral and talk of trying anal. We don't see much of each other. And when we do we have to hope for opportunity to be alone. In a way it keeps things new and fresh though.
I has been a progression that has taken several years. It started out as a fascination with cocks and then discovering I could just get the head of my own dick in my mouth and self suck. Which was both really uncomfortable and very exciting. Over the years I changed where my boundaries are and I suppose evolved into what I am now. Bisexual? I’m not sure. I do enjoy cocks both in my mouth and in my ass if a guy is good at being sensual and not just a jackhammer. Kissing a man is the next hurdle for me. I really enjoy the sensuality of kissing a woman and have not had that same experience with a man. So far I’ve only had sex with men that are masculine and thought thats what I wanted with men. Recently I’ve wondered if a feminine man is better at kissing or at least what I prefer. So I guess its a journey for me.
