Puppet Master And His Doll.

First time ever posting on a forum like this, but I have been thinking a lot about relationships and love a lot lately. Now, I want to ask the women here a question, and no this doesn't fit into the other parts of the forum it does have everything to do with relationships and being with someone you love.

Who on here would become a doll for a man? I'm just curious is all not asking any to become one. But who on here would become a doll for a puppet master?

Let me explain what I mean by a puppet master and his doll. No, this is no bdsm relationship although it may look like one. The doll is a woman who will be with the puppet master and devote herself entirely to him. She does everything he wants within reason, no pain is involved.

The puppet master and his doll both love each other, they're best friends and lovers. The only thing is it's more selfish on the puppet masters end as he wants his doll to be everything he ever wanted, even going so far as dressing in cloths he has picked out or made.

She is by his side at all times and is his to command and will only serve him. So there would be no forcing her to be with other guy's or women.

Sorry if my posting was a bit awkward, like I said it is my first time posting on a forum like this.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

I live a life similar as a submissive. My clothes can be picked for me etc. but that's just me as my lovers pet, I need to make her happy to enable my happiness.

For you it's like a little possessive maybe. But if you find a women into that then you're sitting pretty sweet.

 

I'm relieved there are others out there who have a similar lifestyle. I mean I don't have my doll yet but I hope to in the future.

Yeah, I really don't want to be too possessive, I want there to be love and feelings for both people.

I would never want to be the emotionless master, though. Having a girl that wants to make me happy, and who I can make happy. That's what I want.

 

The lifestyle you desire is becoming more regular because people like you are opening up and expressing the idea. It's like BDSM. It becomes more expressed as the years go by and all of a sudden women are finding out they love being stuffed like pigs lol.

In all honesty there's women out there that'll really get off on your idea of this relationship, you just need to find them.

 

I'm glad to hear that, heh! I guess I should get looking as soon as I am able to form some kind of strategy. I guess expressing what I want is a good start when trying to find those types of girls.

 

I'm curious, how will you ensure that she is happy? What would you command her to do? What happens if you have children? From what I've read, people who participate in the BDSM lifestyle don't have kids (at least they don't mention it.) Your idea of having a doll seems to be part of the BDSM lifestyle.
The idea of being a "doll" seems as though the woman is a mindless puppet. You've done a decent job of expressing yourself. If you are looking for a relationship, you need to think of all the fine details. What are your specific expectations. What does she geto out of it? Do you want her to talk to you? Or is she truly a doll- doesn't speak? (unless spoken to?) Would seem to have a lot of rules!! To each his own, I guess

 

That's the thing, I do want her to be happy, I've been torn on this because I do want a best friend and lover and someone who I can talk to. Not a mindless doll but a doll at the same time. Yeah, I know it seems like I want two different people but really I want to design her to fit me.

And, I'm not into bdsm, never been into the pain or anything like that and I heard from bdsm people that it's loveless? Maybe not for all of them there are probably a lot like me who pick and choose what they want out of it.

And, the fine details? I suppose that's why I'm here, from your replies I can better understand what I want. And what does she get out of it? Not sure.. I know a lot of woman who want to be taken care of and told what to do but a lot of them have stated it's not love for them but the control.

I really don't want to be the loveless puppet master, but one who loves his doll and takes care of her. And kids? I wouldn't lie to her and make her think I wanted them, I'd be honest about not wanting kids so it doesn't become and issue down the line. If we did decide to have kids later on than I'm not sure how everything would turn out.

But yes, I do want her to talk to me, and see me as her mate and not just her puppet master. Yeah, a lot of conflicting stuff I know, but that is why I am here heh!

 

It does seems as though there is a conflict. You want someone you can "Design" to fit you. What does that mean? To a woman, it seems that you want someone without a personality that you can mold into your perfect woman. So what does "perfect" mean to you?

I would think that it would become boring after a while to have someone who you want to be a mindless automaton.

Hubby sometimes jokes that he wishes he had a "good" wife (meaning someone who will wait on him hand and foot.) I respond that he should have married one then. He acknowledges I'm a good wife. I am faithful to him, I cook meals from scratch, which he appreciates. We enjoy doing things together and we have a lovely family. He wouldn't be happy with someone who was a slave. We are equals and that's what makes both of us happy.

I'm trying to envision the person you see as a "doll" and I'm having a hard time. Perhaps such a person doesn't exist. Perhaps your gf could role play for a short time? I can't imagine doing that long term though. Good luck in your quest to find your doll.

 

You seem to be confused about bdsm. What you are describing is in fact a part of bdsm. Dominance and submissive doesn't have to include pain.

 

@ MAMA,

He wants to remake her into his vision of a "perfect" woman. Is that part of the D/s lifestyle also? Or just his "flavor" of D/s? I'm curious about how D/s works.

For the longest time, I had my own (ill informed) ideas. I guess I thought it was like 50 shades- an abusive relationship. From what I've read from legitimate BDSM authors/people who partake of the lifestyle, it's NOT about abuse at all!

 

Ok, first of all, Consensual bdsm is not abuse. It's actually one of the most intimate acts a couple can participate in. It's a level of trust and respect that most people will never experience.

Yes, dominant and submissive is a part of bdsm. He wants D/s lifestyle. Some only participate in sexual D/s. Whatever works for the individual, as long as it's consensual.

 

Yeah, I am looking for intimacy with my doll, as well as trust and respect. I wasn't saying anything bad about bdsm, I just don't understand it completely yet.

 

Well, this thread is mostly me asking women what they are willing to do and not to do in this type of relationship. See if I cant narrow down what I really want, because I really do want a mate but it's so hard finding one that I kind of drifted to this fantasy of a doll I had for as long as I can remember.

Fetlife really isn't me, i looked at it but it's not me.

I'm still struggling to find everything I want in my mate/doll, and how to find her. Being sickly and unable to leave the house often is a turn off to most girls. Kind of why I want a introvert who will be all about me, and vice versa.

 

I understand you are testing the waters, but it doesn't matter what WE want, since we aren't going to do it with you. One of the previous posters suggested WHERE you could go to find a woman with similar interests (a doll to your master). It is a "fetish," so I don't understand why you want something yet don't want to participate in "Fetlife."

Yes, the sickly thing doesn't help. How will you meet someone if you are unable to leave the house? Internet chat is fine but at some point you have to meet. I would be hesitant to meet someone (a stranger) at their home.

Perhaps you are not addressing this, but your posts are all about you. Women don't want selfish lovers. What are YOU bringing to the table? Just because you are the master doesn't mean this is about your pleasure only. If she's not enjoying it, she won't stick around.

I suggest you read more/talk more to people with similar fetish/interest (the website another poster mentioned).

 

Do a Dahmer and steal a mannequin. =D

 

No, hehe! I'm not going to steal a mannequin. But, I'm on THIS site for a reason, to talk to others, if I wanted to go on fetlife I'd be there. But yeah, I'm just hoping to get more insight from whoever stumbles across this thread.

The more I talk to others on here the more I find out about what i really want.

 

That is actually bordering on pathology. What that says is that you want to isolate somebody, weaken (and even sicken) them, have them be *entirely* dependent on you, and subservient to you, for your purposes. And you want her to be purposeless unto herself, and empty (void) so that her sole purpose is YOU.

That's not reality, that's fantasy. People get into serious trouble when they try to make fantasy a reality. We are all subject to the laws of nature (which, when violated, there are consequences).

The thing about females is their motivation to please. Females have a tendency to do just about anything to be loved. In order for YOU to truly love her, she would need to have *essence* and if she's a doll, she cannot have essence (remember, to be a doll .. she would need to be empty, void).

If you really, really want a doll.. get a DOLL. If you want a playmate, get a playmate who knows the boundaries and the difference between fantasy and reality. If you don't have a clear line on that, you could find yourself in a very real Hell.

 

No, I just want someone for my own, I want an introvert because that is what I am. I am too sickly for an extrovert, I wouldn't be able to keep up with an out door kind of girl.

I want my mate to have a personality, but finding the one who suits me has been hard. A doll is the second best thing, someone who will be all about me and yes, that is what I want out of my doll.

The doll phase would most likely only be temporary, because people do change. I see the doll as a transition phase, to see if I really want her, to see if she has has what I need and is loyal.

You see, I'm a man who has no time for going out as it bores me to sit in a restaurant or movie, going out and walking, that sort of thing. And that is why I want an introverted doll.

Just someone who'll be by my side, no matter what. It would be nice to find one with a personality of some sort, the type that fit's me. And I am changing slowly what I want with each reply, what I wanted before isn't exactly what I want now.

I'm doing a bit of editing and adding to this.

I did and still do want something more than a doll, I've tried to find someone who I can love and who can love me, someone I can walk side by side with. My equal, my mate. I wanted relationship where we both brought something to the table.

I love determined women, I really do. I want somebody who'll be there for me and help me, and vice versa. Someone who understands my life and goals and someone similar to me. My relationship, the true one I want won't be like others. I'm trying to build something grand and I want a mate to be there with me, someone who has the same goals.

There is a lot more but here's why I'm now looking for a doll. Most women responded to what I really wanted positively, but they always lie about themselves. I'm someone who does not want kids and when I meet someone who I think might be who i've been searching for I find out they've been lying about not having kids, they're married and just want a place to crash to get away from their husbands.

Yeah, that happens a lot with me. They come out and tell me they're married and unhappy, they have 3 to 5 kids when they said they had none. They want to just be friends but still move in and bring their kids with them since I seem like I'd be a better father due to having my life together. I'm just sick of that, and that's why this fantasy of mine is becoming more and more appealing.

I really don't want to control, but all I run into are liars and the doll seems so much easier. Although I get no positive reaction to the puppet master and doll relationship thing. Hehe!

So, should I continue with the doll thing or keep looking for what I really want?