I was at a concert last night, and in front of me was this straight couple, exchanging souls via mouth-passage. My younger sister thought it amusing, so I timed them, and they didn't break contact for over two minutes. Their hands were everywhere. And although I usually don't care about things like it, it really pissed me off, in a way, that if that couple was gay or lesbian, people would protest and jeer and call bring great attention to how tasteless it was. Does it bother anyone else that PDA among queerfolk is so widely unaccepted (relative to hetero PDA), even in 2007?
I know what you mean. I think PDA is okay to some extent, b/c I mean if you don't want to see it then don't look, but sometimes you can't help it. Like in your situation at a concert and they are right in front of you. I think if it had been a gay couple maybe reactions would have been similar but different, too. My last gf and I went walking up on Mill Mountain here on this trail and on the way down we were holding hands. I looked every person we passed in the face and they wouldn't look at me and this family passed us and the mother moved her boys away from us, the scary lesbians holding hands. If had been a boy's hand I was holding it would have been okay. A male and female couple holding hands is cute, a gay or lesbian couple holding hands is threatening. I don't want to know what people would have done if she and I had dared to kiss each other.....
It bothers me to some extent, but at the same time I sometimes adore pissing off all the heterosexist people in the world.
i think pdas regardless of the genders invovled are pretty nasty. imean, a quick kiss or two whatever. making out and groping and shit should be kept to when their in private. grosses me out wtherh its two chicks two men one man one chick or whatever other combination you can come up wiht
Hahaha! My gf and I dont get out of hand in public. We live in a small community in Kansas, the bible belt. Luckily, we havent had any nasty looks or comments made. I'm sure it'll happen some day, but I've been suprised that it hasnt yet.
Oh, man! I used to live in Kansas. Needless to say, Canada is a much more open minded place. However, I lived there for a little less than a year and never even BEFRIENDED anyone so needless to say I didn't have a girlfriend at the time. A romantic loving kiss and holding hands is the only kind of PDA that I think are appropriate. Anything else, as others have said should be kept in private. I do believe same sex couples should be able to do whatever opposite sex couples do with minimum harassment. When I was 15 years old, my first girlfriend and I were walking down the street holding hands. A few trendy looking girls in a car rolled down their window as they drove past, slowed down and shouted, "EWWWWWWWWWWWW SO DISGUSTING!" & drove away. For a date, once we went to a concert together. We held hands, danced and cuddled. Alot of people were giving us disgusted looks, but most didn't seem to mind. Ironically, when the 2nd band came on stage, the lead singer who happened to be a girl asked a girl from the audience to go on stage with her. She danced with this girl, took off her shirt and licked her stomach; then they shared a kiss. A few people cheered, and the people who were giving my girlfriend and I dirty looks looked very shocked. Haha. It was great. A few songs later, my girlfriend and I kissed. There were no more dirty looks in our direction.
pda has a time and a place i mean you don't grope eachother as you stand in frount of a playground but i don't see the harm in a late night stroll with a little action. pda can make people feel more secure about a relationship and in moderation be fun and exciting!
