Traditionally, man proposes to woman. In my relationship, we have both said that we plan on marrying each other and want to be married with the next few years (Soon after we've finished college). I am terribly confused on proposal though. Who is suppose to do it? I've always wanted to be the one that is receiving the proposal not giving it. But how do I tell her this, I can't ask her to propose to me! I know there is no true answer to this, but what is everyone elses thoughts on the matter?
Bah, marriage is a socio-theological sham. You don't need a piece of paper and some holy man's blessing to prove you're truly in love. Just be together, and let your love be your vow. Solves your problem pretty quick
We really want to get married because it IS legal in Massachusetts and we just want to be like every other couple and get married and have a big wedding to celebrate our love. Obviously a piece of paper does not define us, but it means a lot to us that we can get married when lesbians in the majority of the country cannot.
Yeah I'm really big on the whole proposal thingy too. I've dreamed about a romantic/exciting proposal since I was a little girl. But I agree about talking to her. Casually put the word out about how you'd like her to propose to you. But make sure you get her opinion on it too! If you both want to be proposed to, I think you can work around it and have the big event be just as romantic and unforgetable. This may sound like a corny idea, but if you BOTH want the exciting proposal from each other, set a date and you can have your little surprises at the same time. Don't put the ring in a cake or wine glass, though. I've heard of too many horror stories... Then again I am a piggy, so I would eat any sweets put in front of me in 2 bites or less. And yeah I'd like the paper signing aspect of marriage for slightly less charming reasons. Tax breaks being at the top of the list.
