Problems in the bedroom. ED?

My boyfriend has been stationed out of the country for almost two years, meaning for over two years he hasn't had sex... In typical millennial fashion we started dating before we even were able to hold each other and rely heavily on texting and facetime. After dating for over six months he is finally home for a month and everything is great except for one minor issue, anytime he tries to f*ck me he loses his erection. I can bl*w him for hours and he never loses it, but as soon as he tries to put it in me he goes limp and nothing after that can help him get hard again. The most tricky part is he does everything is his power to try to make me not notice it. I don't know what to do. It is by no means a deal breaker, I am just unsure how to go about it. Do I tell him I know what's happening? If so, how do I tell him without making him feel cornered? In my mind this isn't a him problem this is an US obstacle that we can tackle together... Down below I listed additional and maybe helpful information.
1: He is insecure by his size even though I tell him nonstop it is perfect for me.
2: He hasn't had sex in almost three years and maybe he is nervous? We have been talking about all the wild things we were going to do in bed for over five months and possibly he got into his own head?
3: He masturbates A LOT. I have read that masturbating too much could possibly do this?
4: Before the first time I ever s*cked his d*ck he told me he doesn't always cum from masturbation so if he doesn't it would not be my fault. (He never mentioned randomly going limp however)
5: Just one month before coming home he told me he isn't sexually attracted to me because I am overweight (ouch, but we worked through it) and that he felt it was important I know just in case anything shocking would happen it bed.
WITH ALL OF THIS INFORMATION CAN SOMEONE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME HELP MY MAN AND MINE'S SEX LIFE?

 

There are so many ‘pressures’ on deployment; so many worries. He should go to sick call and get checked out; it could be something important to you both!
Masturbation is the only way to maintain your ‘sanity’ without losing your mind or cheating for relief!
Slow down when you’re with him; concentrate on his smile, his eyes, the way he holds you; make it not about sex! Keep him interested in pleasing you in ways other than using hid dick; his fingers, tongue, and lips can make you scream, as well as take the pressure off to ‘perform’. If this doesn’t work...take him to see the Doc!

 

Its something I would say that you need to talk to him about and pin point the cause. The cause could be many things including those that you have stated and others .

 

I have no problems in the bedroom. Jane and I spent the entire weekend there last week and you should see the size of my tool.

Sadly, it was because I am building new fitted wardrobes and that big tool was simply for drilling heating pipes through the walls.

Their is a serious note to my apparently flippant reply.
You should get out there and enjoy the other aspects of a full relationship, then the size of his dick would stop being the main focus of your thoughts.
It looks to me as if you are putting a disproportionate emphasis on your sexual expectations and making him feel inadequate.
No wonder it wilts.

 

A different angle than mine but yes I agree .

 

Thank You "Captain Obvious".......



Cheers Glen.

 

Its a pleasure

 

Well......Wasn't That The Biggest "Letdown" Of 2019......



Cheers Glen.

 

On a more serious note we could be spending forever offering suggestions of which may not be the cause of the problem . That's why she really needs to find out the actual problem and then perhaps come back. Then we can offer suggestions specific to that problem .

 

A nice slap on the ass might get some blood pumpin'.

 

14 inches long and one and a half in diameter. That Bosch industrial electro-pneumatic machine didn't half make it go.

 

LOL......Good One Irm.......



Cheers Glen.

 

Was it an SDS ?

 

Did You Mean....STD....???.....If So....Tis A Very Uncommon Problem With Power Tools......



Cheers Glen.

 

Guys, she hasnt replied after that first post

 

That's why we started talking about drills.

Until she comes back to us then this thread is dead in the water

 

I think the best option would be to consult a doctor to determine the source of the problem. Erectile dysfunction is a common problem that can be caused by various reasons.

 

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