ok so i have a problem. and i know all the guys who read this are gonna think im crazy. im 23 ive been with 1 girl my entire life weve been together for 4 years. i love her to death and all the sudden she wants to have a 3 some with her friend at work and dont get me wrong the girl is sexy. idk whats freaking me out but honestly im nervous. never thought i would be. ive never told anyone that i was a virgin before we got together. so any advice..? should i tell her she was my first and explain i think thats why im nervous, i dont overly have expierence with other girls as you can tell
Of course I do but Idk I feel like I should tell her she was my first I mostly don't want to disappoint.. That and I don't want it to ruin anything you know?
I completely understand your reservations. My first threesome was with the wrong people. Wrong primary partner, wrong friend. Many experiences later, most have worked out, and the primary partners were happy and bonds were strengthened, and acquaintances grew into friendships in a few cases. The difference between success (both long-term, and during the act) and failure (long term) seems to be honesty, boundaries, and respect. That has been my experience; your mileage may vary. Does anything in particular make you worry about ruining anything, or is that a generalized fear? Have you talked about boundaries, hopes, and what you like about thinking about the situation? My thoughts about your fear of disappointing the new partner are these. You won't. You know why? Bcause you already learned how to undrstand a new partner four years ago. Having sex is meant to be fun, not stressful. Try out things that you think you would like if they were done to you, and then check her response. Be sure to help her understand what you like. If she does something to you, see if she likes it done to her. It's fucking, not rocket science, you will be fine! If you decide to do it. It seems like you're still on the fence. I say take your time thinking about it if you are not sure. If you want to tell your girl about your inexperience, tell her. Have you read any books or articles about navigating this kind of stuff?
You are one lucky guy! I'm guessing your girlfriend is bisexual so maybe she will be the one initiating various things and you can follow her cue. Unless she's expecting you to take the lead. Hmm..better ask her, and watch some online 3-way stuff. If you really don't want to do it, maybe you'd prefer to watch, while getting off.
Talk to her in the first place. If she doesn't understand, what's the point of being in such relationship?
If you've been in a relationship for 4 years and the girl still doesn't know that you were a virgin before her, I think that maybe you guys need to communicate a little bit more.
Yeah I agree with eggsprog. Also, you should not be afraid to be yourself and honest with people. If you want to tell her, then tell her. Don't be afraid to express yourself fully to her.
The problem is how do I tell her? She thinks i was with other girls before her and she was with other guys before me
"Hey, I didn't tell you this before because I was embarrassed, but you were my first and I've never had sex with anyone else."
Simple and to the point I guess. Anyone have any tips for a successful threesome.? I mean I want to do it I think it would hot. She's down for it I just want to make sure it's enjoyable to the point where if it's good weccan do it again
My tip for group sex is the same as my advice for one on one. Unless your partners are not worthy of you, they will see to your pleasure. Therefore, don't worry about yourself other than to guide the cluless. Focus on the pleasure you can give, and pay attention to verbal and non-verbal clues to the desires of your partners, ane fulfil those desires. Unlike many things, it is actually easier done than said!
Ah..the orgy fantasy..piles of bodies fucking in all directions. I get it, though. The reality is, I'm a "monosexual" in that I can only fully sexually fantasize about one person. But I'm also "sort of bisexual" in that I am also attracted to most females, but only explicitly sexually attracted to my male ex-spouse, so because I'm single, I could currently be technically considered "asexual."
I don't see the point. Obviously, she doesn't care about comparing stats, and she likes what you do with her. The other girl may have a few of her own distinct personal preferences in bed, which you aren't going to know until she tells you. No amount of past experience would change that fact. You always need to have open communication with your partners. Focus on the present, not the past.
Don't worry about telling her about your past. Talk to her about the threesome. Find out if she wants it for the bi-experience, or if she wants you to enjoy two women. I have been in fmf threesomes where the other woman was more interested in my girl than me, and where both wanted only me, which is way too demanding. Have fun don't be afraid to experiment.
