Problem

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by backtothelab, May 20, 2004.

  1. backtothelab

    backtothelab Senior Member

    My best friend came to me today, and asked--"If you saw someone you liked and could'nt stop thinking about her, would you talk to her, or just forget about it, and let the year end"(school year ends in 6 days). He continued to tell me that him and his current girlfiend of 2 years are taking a short break to meet some other people. It was on good terms, he says. Then he told me about this girl who he is totally infatuated with. He can never stop dreaming about her, he thinks about her all the time, where she is, what she's doing; he wakes up everyday and she's the first thing he thinks about, so on and so forth. Well, I've never seen this girl, but apearently she is the most beautiful girl he has ever seen. He has talked to her twice before, once, when he first met her, and again, when he told her how attracted he was to her. Well, I don't know what she said, but he said that she took it well, and was'nt apalled or disgusted or laughed at him or anything. He's a good looking guy too, so it is'nt that surprising. Thats all their relationship is really based on, these two incidents, not even real conversation, just chit chat; He does'nt even know her name. Where I come into play in this whole thing is that how he feels about this new girl, the one he just met, is literally how I feel about his girlfriend, the one he's taking a break with, to meet other people. Everything about her is amazing, I myself am infatuated with her, when I wake up in the morning, I am thinking of her. She knows that I like her, but we never really talked about it, because she was dating him, and he was my best friend, so we were going to leave it at that. We had lunch together, and none of us know alot of people, so it was just me and her for like a month, and i truly loved it, we could really just sit down and talk. Well, she left to go get homeschooled, and I rarely see her. The only time I do see her is when she is with my best friend. Break up by association, they break up, and me and her break up. If I ask her out, he'll get mad at me, and we won't be friends, and if I don't do anything, I probably won't ever see her again, which really, really scares me. What makes this harder is that these two people are my only friends. I mean, i know other people, but i just know them. We talk casual in school and stuff, but these two are really my only friends. If I fuck up and lose one of them, which would be first dana, or even worse, I lose both of them, I'm in the dark. I'll have no one, and be much more lonely than I am now. What should I do, because i certainly don't know.
     
  2. kier

    kier I R Baboon

    have you tried talking to him about it?
     
  3. backtothelab

    backtothelab Senior Member

    no, i suppose I could try, but I just don't want to seem like I'm betraying him or anything. He's my friend and im not sure if i should be jumping all over his girl the minute he tells me about it. I just feel really low, but i like her alot.
     
  4. kier

    kier I R Baboon

    but he may respect you for asking first...make sure he knows you haven't done ANYTHING :)
     
  5. backtothelab

    backtothelab Senior Member

    Yeah, I'm gonna see him sunday, ill talk to him then. Thanks
     
  6. kier

    kier I R Baboon

    ok dude...well good luck, and plan what you're gonna say :)
     

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