probably wont suck dick again

so due to a traumatic incident involving sucking dick... i really dont think i'd ever do it again... even if it was someone i felt completely comfortable with, i just never liked doing it before (but i would have no problem doing it if i was getting something in return) and now even the thought of it makes me sick.

but guys, if you were with a girl like just hooking up or in a relationship, either one, and she didnt want to suck your dick (but would have sex) would you mind?

 

Knowing how the little perverts guys can be, you'll probably run into many that will mind.But that's why you need to find someone that will be ok with your decisions.

 

what happened, did u gag or something ?

 

although i do enjoy having the dick sucked no i would not mind. I found its the best when the girl is really into it. So if you were not into it then it probably would not be that great.

 

Girls dont like sucking me because i got dick cheese. It is a cheesewiz type cheese that grows inbetween your dick and balls when you dont take a shower for over a week.

 

i would mind, but it would certainly not be a dealbreaker.

you know we need to hear the story now, don't you?

 

Holy fuck, girls are stupid.

Hello! Attract the kind of guy who doesn't really depend on your dicksucking skills in order to sustain the relationship. Is it really that complicated?

 

What ???? Good lord !!!!!

 

Yeah, what happened? Earthquake? Fire? Some other natural disaster? What was so traumatic about it?

 

I would mind, but if the relationship works then it's something that has to be accepted. Just don't expect any back yourself.

 

I will be completely honest, I do not like sucking dick. and My man has no problem with it, bc there are other ways I can pleasure him, just as good, and sexual favors arent the end all to our relationship. I have my reasons to why I do not enjoy it as I am sure you have yours, find a guy that wont care about that, not all do. It just takes awhile sometimes to find one. But not everything needs to be based on sex.

 

yeah. i mean if im in a real relationship with someone then i probably would tell them what happened and if they didnt respect my feelings then theres no way i would date them.

but just like a random hook up, i wouldnt want to explain the whole situation to them cause that would be really weird, i just wouldnt want to do it, just wondering if that would really turn a guy off.

and as for what happened... ive mentioned it on here before but not in much detail at all, but what the hell , its the internet and i dont know anyone on here IRL... long story short i was sexually assaulted in a bathroom a couple months ago and was forced to suck some black dude's dick.... yeah... so thats why...

 

That's dreadful, sorry to hear it.

I can't say I am surprised though, not by you, but I once punched someone out for trying the same sort of thing with a girl I knew.

It was in the paper like two days later that this fella raped someone, I wish someone could have helped you


Urgh, I am in such a bad mood, the world sucks.

 

Sorry to hear about your trauma check. I wish someone to find the bastard and nail his ass to the wall. About your question, would I give up something I really enjoy to date someone? I probably wouldn't bail on her because of that. But I don't know if it could be long term or not. I wouldn't like the thought of going the rest of my life without oral sex. For me, it's part of a healthy sexual relationship. And a long-term relationship needs a healthy sexual relationship. Again, I'm sorry for what happened to you. I hope the guy rots in hell. I guess God will decide that.

 

Check I'm so sorry to hear about that! Did you turn him in or anything?
I woulda got his ass in big fucking trouble. That's really fucked up....

Anyways, up until I started talking to my recent boyfriend, I never would suck dick. I hated it.. not for any particular reason, I just didn't like it at all.. Whenever I hooked up with somebody and they asked me to, I would just tell them no, I don't do that.. I don't like it, and it was never a problem. I just usually didn't get any oral back haha, but it wasn't a huge deal breaker or anything.

 

i mean if i end up with someone i really trust i think after a while i'll maybe get comfortable with it eventually. its more just like a general hook up or whatever

 

When you find yourself in a "real" relationship you'll view his dick completely different as you'll be making love to him, not "hooking up" for sex

As far as telling him what happened, I wouldn't unless you end up with issues you can't over come. Then if it becomes an issue, talk about it. He may be able to help you through it if he really cares from you.

As far as some "hook up" guy, only thing he needs to know is you only do that once you're in a relationship. (whether it's true or not)
To give a guy you just hook up with a blow job for no real reason is not nessesary. If he doesn't like it, tough.

HNW put it pretty blunt, but he is correct. And you deserve better.

 

Should have bitten :reddevil:

I had a shite experience going down on a girl too but hasnt stopped me. Athough it wasnt assault.

 

I wouldn't worry about it then, you don't have to give head if you don't want to! And you don't need to explain the reason why, either. If he gets pissed then he's not worth your time.

 

I dated a girl that had the same issue for a fairly similar reason and it was fine we dated for 2 years and the lack of oral was not why we called it quits. I not gonna lie i missed it but she did other things to keep me happy.