Probably Won't Become A Parent Now

I'm 45 and don't have any kids. I haven't been in a relationship for a few years. I have wanted to be a parent since I hit my 30's, but I don't think that will happen now.

I am coming to terms with the idea, but I do find it hard, as I feel I will have missed out on something very special.

 

got siblings?

i can say from experience that being an uncle is the next best thing......bonus part is no diapers to deal with

 

What kept you?

 

This is my new life outlook and goal.

 

I'm almost 60 and never had kids... I consider that a score!

 

I've wanted kids since I was like 11. Of course, I didn't want them at that time. But, I realized that I wanted kids when I got older. I'm still young enough to have kids, but I'm starting to think I won't have them. One reason being because over the years I've had problems around my stomach area. One of my fallopian tubes has been taken out, I had precancerous cells around my uterus, I have about one or two fibroids, and I just had a few too many problems with my stomach. I did ask my doctor once if I can get testing to see if I can still get pregnant, but she said that it's best to wait until I have a partner. So, honestly I don't know if I can physically get pregnant. Another reason I don't think I will ever have kids is because I never have much luck in the relationship department. Guys simply just don't want me because I'm ugly. Anyways, that's that. Some people are fortune enough to have kids, and some people are not. I guess we're not.

 

What about these people that are like mid to late twenties and they say "we plan on having 3 children". Motherfuck! Who seriously plans that shit! That's like planning and revolving your life around 3 lives that'll be with you for the next 18+ years like WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD PLAN FOR THIS???

 

You don't have to be a biological parent to be a parent. There's lots of kids that need parents but don't have them.

 

I love money. Everything is about money, you can't do a damn thing without it.

Having enough money so you don't stress about having to eat catfood 15 years after you retire relieves a whole bunch of stress post 40 you don't really see coming earlier on.

Plus most of us are living too long now, when you are 80 and can't go the toilet by yourself, it won't really be family that look after you, they are not going to hose down your bum for you, and I wouldn't expect my family to.

At that stage, it won't be family, it will be money. Pay a bunch of Phillipino women in some nice aged care place with a view to hose down my bum for me

 

Well, that was quite the post.

I feel a poop coming on.

 

It's all about who cleans up your poop in the end

 

I'm just going to sit on the floor and drag myself around. Dogs can get poop out that way, why can't I? My children will never be born. So, I gotta make due somehow. Dragging my ass throughout the floor is what I gotta do. Please, don't judge me.

 

I judge you and sentence you to 4 hours of toilet training.

 

This, so much this.

I've wanted to be a foster parent since i was 16. There are so many children out there who have no one.

And i realize i'm probably being insensitive because i do have a biological child. But i remember when my child was a newborn and the slightest cry had me on my feet and by his side in a split second, i couldnt stop thinking about all the children out there who cry and no one answers them.

I'll probably start the process of becoming a foster parent in a couple of years. Its not really any of my business, but i do think for anyone who cant have children and want them, and cant afford to adopt a perfect newborn, fostering would be worth considering.

 

I'm pooping in the corner.
That's that.

 

there's also always the possibility of falling in love with someone who already has kids....

 

I think that's pretty common too because people's relationships aren't lasting long these days and they're all having kids relatively early so yeah, there's always the option to be with someone who already has the burden and you might miss out on the early annoying stages?

 

Going back to the topic (I pooped enough for a day), having foster kids and getting with someone that already has kids is awesome, but I want to experience the beauty of pregnancy. I want to have a little life inside me, growing, and I want to painfully push it out into this world.

I know I will never have that, but it is what it is. It's my desire. That's what I want.

 

Ditto. I never had kids either but my brother has two...I love them like my own. But since they're not mine, when it comes to the discipline part (which I'm not good at) I can let my brother and sister in law worry about it.

 

So you get them all wound up on soda and candy, then drop them off at their place... Good plan.