Premature Ejaculation: How to last longer? Please, help!

Hello!

This topic is a bit embarrassing but I'm so desperate that I decided to ask here in the forum.

It all started 1 year ago, before that, I was able to last like 30 minutes doing sex with no problem.

But in the past year, it would take something like 30 seconds for me to come. I think the longest was two minutes, which is still not great! Everything changed really fast and I think it is related to stress and lack of self confidence.

It was so frustrating, quite traumatic actually! Not being able to satisfy a woman is the most soul destroying thing for me.

So I would like to know if you know some exercises or treatment that could help me to last longer and stop premature ejaculation.

Thank you in advance!

 

Firstly, a warm welcome to this forum - you can relax here

Have you tried having a wank before the sex session so, in theory, you could last longer?

 

Thank you for the welcome!

Yes, I tried that, but this is not working for me. I come fast both times

These are the things I'm currently trying:

- I started to read a lot about this condition. Currently I'm reading this eBook: How to last longer, it has some individual exercises but also exercises for couples, so I'm trying both. I'll tell you in some weeks if this is working or not.

- I'm talking a lot with my wife, just to see if talking about the problem will help me psychologically to stop it.

- I'm also planning going to consult a professional, but it embarrasses me to speak about this!

New ideas will be welcome!

 

You need to find what's causing the stress and eliminate it! I don't see how one could keep coming consecutively , after you cum go for round 2 lol

 

next time when you have sex, be mean . for you the woman will be bitch .be mean ,cold heart guy . i don't know but for me when i sense sex ,and emotion i can hold about 10 min . but when i don't feel emotion , but i pretend to her that i am . I can hold 45 min intercourse sex , she likes it .

 

Hmmm, consulting a professional may be the way forward but if you have to pay then it could be expensive.

What about having two wanks before having sex? Just a thought.

Good luck

 

About the wanks... it could be a problem when you are not a young man

 

Check out my thread on "Premature Ejaculation" just above your post. It should help you...

 

I am not a believe in wanking before sex. I find I dont have the feeling or stamina after wanking.

 

I heard that penis exercises should be in order. You know when your penis flexes during ejaculation, try and exersize it everyday about a hundred times. And when masterbaiting (if you do) try and recede from ejaculating before your orgasm and just see how long you can last by preventing yourself from having a full orgasm.

Something like that, and lasting long isn't your fault. If someone has a problem with it you shouldnt be fucking them anyways, who the fuck judges nature?

 

Thank you very much for all your advices!

Lol, aesthetic, I don't know if telling this to my wife, hahaha.

Well guys, more or less I have good news! Since I last posted I've been practising the exercises described on the book How to last longer for a month now, some of the exercises are really similar to the one someone described here in order to stop premature ejaculation. My favourite ones are the ones for couples.

At first, like I said, I didn't notice anything, but after 2 weeks it started to work. Now I have more control over my ejaculation, it's not perfect, but I'm a lot happier than before. I didn't measure the time, sorry, but I can do that if someone is interested, just to see the difference "after / before".

So, thank you very much for all the advices again! And good luck to any of you that have this problem!

 

I started reading this great book about how to last longer in bed and I found some very helpful tips and tricks there that really work. Great techniques that can be implemented right away and other great tips for better sex, I think you have to focus on pleasing your partner first.

 

I think it is a matter to implement some great tips and techniques that work, I found some great ones about how to last longer in bed in an easy to read book. My girlfriend is already impressed with the changes; I hope you can follow these tricks too.

 

try a product called Tong Balm, thats ish works. Use half of what the instructions say, because you'll last FOREVER.

 

that don't work it just make you look like you have no cum in you when you do lol


anyway the first one don't count !

 

Don't get hung up on it mate its not that big a deal just have more forplay
I've been with my misses over 23 yrs and i still only take about 5 minutes actual penetration time we just enjoy more forplay and if you think your gonna pop just go down on her then she can't touch it

 

what did you decide?

 

lol to the guy who started the thread:

You used to last 30 minutes. I've been coming in 1 minute since forever. I think you're lucky actually. I've never been able to enjoy sex. Ever. Only a stressful experience. If I could get my balls and surenal gland extracted to feel no sexual desire, I would.

My best sexual experience: wanking. Only way to have genital pleasure without overwhelming anxiety and despair.

 

LOL 1 or 5 wanks won't help it just makes you look like you have no cum in ya
believe me i have tried its the warm moist loveliness that makes you cum quick. If you can have one fuck then a smoke or a cup of tea then go again.
the first one don't count bro.
I cum quick to have done for over 20 yrs with my wife just learn how to pace yourself buy a dong and just enjoy yourself didn't anyone ever tell you its not about the destination but the journey !:2thumbsup:

 

Pull out in advance of orgasm. Go down on her for an hour. Massage her clit until she is drenched in sweat. Gently rub scented lotion into her entire body. Lick and suck every square inch of her skin until you know exactly how she likes it at every point of her being.

After that, she won't give 2/3 of 3/8 of a negative fuck-all how quickly you cum when you stick it back in.

Peace.