pregnancy age?

Hi all
I was wondering how old everyone was when they had their first kid?
Also was it planned or a wonderful accident?

((note to Jaycee if he reads this, dont worry im not getting any ideas ))

llama love all
Fleassy xox

 

I don't have children myself, but.....
My mother was twenty five (well 24 and ten months) when I was born.
Yes I was planned.
I am the first born, my brother is three years younger than me (he was planned too)

 

Im 19 and i will be having my first kid in about 5 months, it wasnt planned but im happy

 

My parents were both 17 when I was born.

December

 

17 when I gave birth to my first and 18 when I gave birth to my second. Both very happy (now) accidents... Kids are so amazing!

 

I was 20 when I had my first, and 24 when I had my second. Both very wonderful accidents. Of course, when I was 19, and found out I was preg. with Maddie, I was a little freaked, but I got over it pretty quickly.

 

I was seventeen when I got knocked up... I had him when I was 18. My mom was like 25 when she had me.... My grandmother was 15 when she got married, and I think she had my mom when she was 16. That's very young to be married... geez....

 

If all works out as planned then I'll have my first when I'm 23.

 

19 or 20 seems too young to me.I'd like to have my first baby after I finish my studies .Is that so oldfashioned?

 

On the subject of procreation and related issues, here is a very interesting site which is well worth a read:

http://vhemt.org/

 

I'm 24 and just married. We want to have our first baby before I'm 28, and our second shortly after. I'll be at the last stages of getting my PhD..then I think I will stay home to take care of them...hopefully also working at home. That is our goal anyway. I think if it is possible that one of us (I think I would be better at this since I am a great cook and nutritionalist/fitness expert) stay home to raise the kids...we should do it...that is far more important to us than personal career advancement.

 

Don't do it.

There are no justifiable reasons to procreate. Please tell me why you even want to at all?

You know that the child will eventually die. You know that it shall feel pain, it is inevitable. You know that life is unfair.

You may feel extremely optimistic that your offspring would be born healthy and without deformity, or mental or physical illness. You may feel that it will grow up in a way identical to your idealistic visions. Many only ever behold falsely assuaged conceptions, which is fair enough for them, for reality is a terrible place. But when there is another life involved, it is a different matter. You need to be real. You need to grasp actuality, for the sake of those whom are yet to be created. Please do not condemn them to death. They are safe now. They are free in their non-existence.

Once you create them, they will develop cognition and they will suffer. Once brought into being, they will be available to pain and torment. They do not exist now. For their sake, leave it that way. Consider what is best for them, not what you want, not your maternal / paternal desires. You must be strong and ignore what your primeval urges are trying to force you into doing. You must be aware of your inherent proclivities, and over-ride them through intellectual analysis. Procreating is no different to murder. It is delayed-reaction murder, with a long period of suffering in between the death blow and the actual dyeing moment.

Consider mother Earth also. Humanity is collectively a virus unto the Earth. The species systematically rapes this planet. All life on it has suffered as a consequence. To add to that is to enlarge the problem. A new human will be a new consumer. More consumption, more eco damage, more air pollution, more animal suffering, and the more delicate the survival situation shall become for us all.

Please take the time to read through the website which I posted a link for earlier in this thread.

Remember, always question everything.

 

An interesting animation:

http://www.wired.com/animation/collection/nina_paley/stork/

 

this is the parenting board, we do not want to hear you rant about how you think we are horrible because we have childern. Please move on, your posts are not wanted nor listened to.

 

I was 28. He is the greatest kid ever. He's damn near perfect -- but his mom's a real fuck-up. Totally unplanned. I never would have willingly had a kid with this person. We had only known each other about a month.

I'm basically his real parent, and she's a part-time babysitter.

(edit) I also got a girl pregnant in high school (I think). She claimed to have a had a miscarriage. I'll never know if it was true or not.

 

Thank you for reading my post, and for your response.

Unfortunately you neglected to answer my question requesting reasons as to why people want to procreate. I know that is a hard question for many willful procreators as they are [incognizant] slaves to their subconscious minds and innate urges. But please try.

My mind is open to all posts, and all view points. I will grant an e-audience to any whom feel they can refute that which I have written.

It is a shame that you think I consider you horrid. I hope that your mind is not as closed as your response to my post suggests it to be. I have found many procreators to be insular and allergic to any impugnation of their ways. If you think that you are so justified in that which you do, then please educate me regarding why, so that I may learn.

 

ug. your writing is horrible.

 

Me? Why?

 

i dont feel like arguing with you... look at the forum name... parenting. we are here to discuss parenting and most of us do not want to hear about how you think procreation is wrong. we have childern, we are happy and we do not feel it is wrong. On the other hand I feel your posting here about this is off topic and not on the subject of parenting. I come here to post about raising kids not if we are or are not wrong about creating life. Please move to another forum w/ topics like this. Try random thoughts.
You had to have known you'd only cause problems by posting things like this here...

 

With respect, yours is a typical response to a very simple and pertinent inquiery, one I am more than familiar with. As you seem to be unable to provide an answer to my question, may I request that you remain silent and allow a more willing, flexible, easy going member to take the floor. Thank you.

My post is highly relevant in this section. It is my response to the posts of Michael and Goldilocks. Not off-topic at all.

My post is genuine. I seek no nastiness, nor do I seek to cause problems.