yeah, so i've known this girl for about 3 years now. we've been very good friends the entire time. i've always had a thing for her, but to her i have never really been a person she has thought of as more than a friend..despite the fact that i have always wanted it to be that way. i've always wanted to say something to her about it and take a chance..but i don't want to disturb the very good friendship that we have right now. also, despite the fact that i have this feeling for her, i know in the back of my mind that such a relationship would not work out. sure, the simple answer is to just move on in terms of a romantic relationship. however, i have been unable to do so. what is the best thing i can do in this situation? i think about her all the time but i don't want to say anything and i've found myself unable to really be interested that much in any other girls at this point. any advice would be cool. jd
did you read the question? that doesn't really answer it, wiseman. oh and you are right about one thing...long island girls are crazy. i'm slightly afraid of them heh.
well too answer ur question. i think you have to be straightforward with her and tell her how u feel. and if she does not respect your feelings or want to be with you then you have to drop it. trust me... being infatuated with someone for a long time is excrutiating. hopefully she will have the same feelings and u will live happily ever after, otherwise drop it like it's hot! hehe i hate that song. a good pieceof advice given to me was that: if someone likes you in the same way they will go out of their way to show you...
i think what you are not seeing is the fact that i said that i already said that i know she doesn't like me in that way, yet i like her in that way...the idea is to attempt to get over it if possible and allow myself to move on...excuse me if i seem like a retard...i've had many budweisers this evening.
sorry...i didnt read it properly... well obviously you have to do the tough work now. every time you think of her - no matter how tempting - u have to block it out... dont waste the yrs.
hardest task ever...b/c i don't want to block her out, and i want to remain friends w/ her(don't laugh heh).
i wouldnt "block out" romantic feelings it doesnt seem like a healthy way of getting past them, having said that i really dont know what advice to give you other then focus on other girls. For me i havent had this problem in a long time but thats because now days i am the kind of guy that have a crush in a heart beat and lose it just as quick so i tend to have lots of non serious short term crushes, i think it is best that way to.
tell me about it...i have been doing it for years..but finally have preety much mastered it... sometimes i still look forward to seeing him if i know our paths are going to cross.. but i have a boyfriend now and he is far more "real" and i think he's hotter too ... what will be will be...but dont delude yourself cos then you only get on the backward path.
It's hopeless bud. Being in the friend zone for about 3 years gives you about a 1% chance with this broad. Find another woman to swoon for.
My advice is a grand romantic gesture. Take her out to dinner and profess your feelings to her. It'll either work or it wont. It's better then sitting around bitting your tounge around her. Let her know how you feel. It'll come naturally if you speak from your heart. 'Luck buddy. Have some faith in yourself.
