Potential fuck buddy. What should I do?

Last night I hooked up with a chick I have been with quite a few times in the past. Commercially, if you know what I mean. She's a hooker, but I'm only revealing this fact for context. This is not what I want to discuss.

Essentially, we have chemistry in bed. She's got lots and lots of problems, and takes medication for depression which lowers her libido. She said that I'm a heavy candidate to make her cum, which isn't easy. Her words, I'm not here to brag.

So, she basically popped the question that hookers pop sometimes. And that is, whether I didn't want to be her fuck buddy. No pay.

What I'd really like to discuss is whether she'd be a good fuck buddy given how attracted I am to her. To me, her two selling points are her mega tits, and the fact that she's good in bed and very caring.

However, I'm only attracted to her in a bada-bing-bada-bang sort of way. Reason I know is, I haven't gone down on her. The true test of whether I'm attracted to someone. And if my mission is to make her cum...

I guess what it really comes down to is, I sense that she wants me to be lovey-dovey. And I couldn't do that for her. She said she needed a lot of affection, and she talks a looooooot. She also said that she might fall in love.

The good news is that she wants to keep it open. I've been with my fair share of hookers who wanted to continue to pursue their careers, and wanted me to be a one-woman-man with them. How convenient... This one said she's not controlling.

I'd be very excited about this otherwise, but a part of me tells me I'm walking into a trap...

Have you ever had doubts about a fuck buddy? Why? Did she/he like you more than you thought you liked them?

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Edit: All posts about the virtues of monogamy, the risks of STDs, and the vicissitudes of prostitution will be summarily ignored. Whatever you might have to say on these three topics, I've likely already heard and I will not entertain circular arguments. This is a forum dedicated to people who have multiple partners. It's nobody's business. I already have most STD-monogamy-prostitution-is-inherently-abusive trolls on my ignore list anyway. And I urge well-meaning posters not to feed the troll.

 

You sense she wants you to be lovey-dovey and you don't want that. She's not cumming with the kind of sex you're willing to have (the stuff you do when you pay her), so, if you're supposed to make her cum, you'll have do to things you don't wanna do.

So, I think there is nothing in the change for you. OK, you'd have sex for free with her, but it wouldn't be the kind of sex you want anymore, since you'd be supposed to do things for her, too.

So, it sounds like a bad idea to change the way things are now.

 

I say you tell her you'll do the fuck bud deed a few times, and see if it's true you can make her cum. Following that....to keep her from falling in love or expecting you to be lovey dovey, tell her straight out that neither is part of the deal. You might also tell her that weekly or so is the frequency in which you'll fuck her. It all seems predictable and calculated, but often that is the conditions in which women respond.

 

That's a fair assessment.

Although, having sex for free is a huuuuuge motivation right now. I can have sex exactly how I want with another pro. But I can't have sex for free with anyone else ATM. And that means, I'm simply not having as much sex as I wish I were.

The question is whether she's willing to keep the sex the way it is, or if she's going to want more and more...From experience, usually it never stays static. Even when they say everything is peachy. After all, I did not make her cum yet.

Some people try to fuck you into loving them. Just like some others in the friendzone try to love you into fucking them.

Thanks for your answer. I just might let this one go...

 

only monogamy is virtuous! god will punish you with an std! prostitution is always bad!




oh, plus gimme her number

 

Oh, yeah. There's something else that just came back to me from our conversation last night. She's got an off and on stalker ex.

Another potential ticking bomb writ large. I can picture myself unwittingly being put into the shoes of the beta who's got to face the alpha for supremacy.

 

I would go for it. Free sex with someone w mega tits and who is hot enough to be an escort. Plus that's bragging rights. Lucky duck. Just let her know you don't want the lovey dovey shit.

 

Thanks for your input, baby. You always rock!

Edit: The mega tits are definitely a mega motivation. One of the most beautiful pair of tits I've ever put my hands on! Super white and veiny, natural, with pointy pink nipples. :biggrin:

 

I'm torn on this one. I'm thinking go for it, but on the other hand I'm sensing some red flags.

Does she strike you as someone who would turn psycho/obsessive? Even in light of her occupation?

And my other question: do you want to lick her pussy and just haven't done it yet, or do you have reservations about that?

 

So far, I have no reason to believe that. She is really mellow. If anything, I sense more clinginess.

I don't know if I'd call it a reservation, but when I'm into a girl, that's my first instinct.

There are a couple of chicks that I know that...wow, I can just eat their pussy for hours! So, there is a difference.

I had a fuck buddy like that before. I wasn't that into her, but she was a freak. So, I didn't reciprocate much. Eventually, the pattern became obvious and it was a problem.

 

I would figure out why I'm not getting as much sex as I want.

 

I'd probably go for it then. What is the worst that can happen, outside of being in the wrong place at the wrong time when her ex comes around. But theoretically we never know when something like that can arise when with a woman.

Another question. When you say mega tits, you mean naturals?

This made me lol. I know what you mean. If the thought is a total turn off I'd probably back off. But you might as well try it.

 

Very true. There's always some vulture or another around every half-cute chick, anyway.

Very. I'm telling you man, they are a sight to be seen. :devil:

Decisions, decisions.

 

The more I hear about this, the more I'm thinking go for it. But lay the ground rules so you can try to mitigate attachment on both of your parts.

What are your thoughts on a prostitute falling in love with you, and vice versa?

 

I mean that is a problem and the reason you are faced with the iffy situation.

Learn the art of relationship with all comers, that is instead of playing rackets. Then sex just comes without a lot fuss or expense. Sex is always hungry, it is relationship that satisfies.

 

I married a very successful and popular dominatrix.

 

This would be my 6th! I have only dated prostitutes ever since I broke up with my ex in 2006. I fucked a few vanillas, but they were all one offs.

A lot of water has run under the bridge, I'm a very different man.

I am in love right now. With another prostitute, Melissa. And I'm still not completely over Jackie, though that's been cooling off. She is yet another prostitute crush of mine, and the woman I've had most sex with since 2006.

Neither of them reciprocate my feelings, but they are the ones I had in mind when I said I can spend hours eating their pussy. Mel's pussy is the cutest thing I've ever seen.

I might go to the movies with Mel tomorrow afternoon (as friends, not as hooker and client). We go dutch on the tickets. I don't even fuck her anymore, I just enjoy her company.

Edit: To answer the question, I have no problem with it. I'd much rather meet a woman like that than going the bar route, which I just find belittling to a man.

 

I can understand that. There is something very respectable about prostitutes. It's like being with a woman, minus any kind of deception or using sex as a weapon/leverage.

 

Is she still in the biz? Or got out when you got together?

 

Hit the nail right on the head.