Possibly Pregnant

I'm....nervous. Here's the playback: So I invite this guy over I met at a party on st.patricks day. He comes over, we have sex the condom breaks he sais he didn't cum that's a releif for me I knew he didnt because he came on me after ..... but then.... (im extremely embarassed right now telling you all of this) but we had anal, and he slid in me accidentally. I said. " omg this feels so good don't stop" then eventually said shortly after okay we cant do this. And you know the whole...pre cum controversy. There's a chance there was cum on him. Theres also a chance when the condom broke that there was cum in there also.

I'm really unsure when I'm supposed to start my period it's either the end of this week or next week. I know I know...How could you NOT know when it is. I usually get cramping the day before, I don't normally keep track of it unless I know i'm going on vacation or I'm going to be sleeping with someone ahead of time.

So here is the dilemma! This would not be a great scenario. I live with my parents and at the moment am unemployed and am searching around for a job to save for my tuition.

My parents aren't the type to say...oh cool im a grandma/grandpa and infact my mom stated....I don't want to be a grandma for another 10 years.

Mom...that means I'll be 30 (I turn 20 on June 27th)

I'm not FOR abortion, not in this scenario anyways. or for adoption. So basically it would be a nineteen year old hippie chick with dreadlocks. I don't see that playing out well really. not at nineteen not when i'm not financially able to have a baby (people would pitch in but really though they shouldn't have to). let alone have yet to discover this world and experience beautiful things.

So fingers crossed that this was a very stupid mistake. That finally i've learnt my lesson that if i'm going to be sexually active I should be on birth control. Fingers crossed I get my period and get to put the whole mom thing on hold.

p.s: I swear I felt cum!!!! I SWEAR I did.....but he sais he didnt.

might I add he was number 5.
the first two I was in a relationship with (the first one lasted 3 years)
it's not like I go handing it out.

My paranoia extends to...not drinking.....or smoking......or even pot (okay I lie...I did twice) But we don't know yet do we!

....*tear *tear*... no more jumping on trampolines for me.....or...eating sushi ..even though im a vegetarian....or crack...just kidding,I'm going insane

All you pregnant women/moms out there shed some light on this scenario....
I'll avoid watching rosemarys baby for now and keep you all updated on whether we'll be welcoming a little vegetarian buddhist into this world.

 

Hey missy what are you like? Blimey very descriptive for a START!



It all sounds very wrong, from what you have written.. uke: not a love child at all..

I am a mother and I was a month into 19 when i gave birth.
I see nothing wrong in young parenthood to me its a part of nature it could be the making of you and it could be something that tames the wildness within. On the other hand you DO NOT sound ready and if you are pregnant you need to think long and hard about weather you are capable of caring for yourself and a young baby

ask yourself this? can you feel this way about the child ...


Before you were conceived I wanted you. Before you were born I loved you. Before you were an hour old I would die for you. This is the miracle of life.

I was very scared alone and without support, but I knew I had the love in me and the discipline to bring up a good soul and give my little one my all, but on the other hand you never really know what you wil be like until you are in that situation ..
It was / is the hardest thing ive ever done (and ive worked in mental health units, wiv some hard nut cases) so go figure!

I really hope you are not wiv child, if you are you will need to change your ways otherwise your little one wil be born to a mother who seems very self destructive and thats not what the world needs right now...

Maybe u need to take birth control as well as VD protection as you are active n random wiv your lovers and it seems the best way forward if your going to be promiscuous-

I wish you all the best and truely hope this is a warning for you to be safe and healthy
xxx

 

You realise you basically just called me a slut who could potentially have vd and I would be an unsuitable mother.
I've slept with 5 people in my nearly 20 years of life.
No it isn't a love child, that is why I'm reacting so indifferent. But if I was pregnant there isn't anything I wouldn't do to ensure that I could support this baby. The moment I had that oops moment with the condom it was on my mind.
I already love it and I don't even know if it's there.
The point I was trying to make (through sarcasm mostly) was that it wasn't planned and it wouldn't be ideal.

Planned or not it would be a miracle. I don't need to change. and your ignorance is not accepted. I would never give this up, I would never let anyone harm my baby the idea of it warms my heart. I'm very open to it clearly since I stated I wouldnt have an abortion.

If I'm not pregnant I will take precautions to ensure this doesn't happen again. But that doesn't mean that I wouldn't love him/her.

I expected more from you.

By the way I was descriptive so I could get better feedback on the odds of pregnancy.


All hail dancing till dawn because apparently she's fucking inferior.
How am I self destructive also?...because I had casual sex with someone?

Judgement coming from a progressive young mother who beleives childbirth at an early age is natural, fine I can agree with that. I have an open mind! where is yours?

 

Do women always have to go through their sexual history when they admit that they've had sex. People have sex, that's kinda what we do. So what if someone thinks you're a slut, they fucked too or wish they could find someone to fuck with. Sorry that's more of a rant about the sexual history thing i see in these threads and not about your situation sorry. /end-soapbox

Not about you.

Women can feel cum from the inside?! really, cause they always ask when the condom breaks.

At the risk of getting to personal when did this sex take place and have you checked or thought about using the Morning-After Pill? I'm guessing it was probably a week ago or something but it never hurts to ask.

Hope everything works out Sha-nay-nay, I've had a prego scare too a while ago. Obviously it's different for a man but I was still thinking about all the things I would have to change in my routine to help the mommy bring a new life into this world. With that said it shows a lot that you're thinking ahead, anyways I wrote too much and it's early - Take care

 

That reply my love says it all...

:coffee:

 

Your ignorant. Go take care of your baby.

 

Yes it's been a week or two. A little late for the morning after pill. Thank you for your best wishes I appreciate the positivity.

 

I'm so offended mostly because I considered Dancing Till Dawn as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside and then she condescends to me. For no real reason, other then taking words the wrong way when it was meant to be a light hearted joke. Your damn right i'm going to defend myself. How would you feel if someone told you that you were a bad mother without knowing you or giving you an opportunity to show that you are indeed a great mother.

I'm not even sure if i'm pregnant yet, and you without knowing me, other then a casual conversation here and there tell me that unless I change Id be a bad mother.

Alot would change, of course it would. But the person I'am is to loving and nurturing to not be a suitable mother.

I guess it really doesn't matter what you think.
I just didn't think I would have to tell you of all people on this site

To
GO FUCK YOURSELF

 

If you think your pregnant, take a test. It always surprises me that people come on here and detail everything, saying they are worried, but haven't done anything about it.

If you are pregnant, good luck with it all, but I agree with the others - why go and say how people you have slept with? People have sex all the time, it isn't a big deal. but when you post something like it, it does sound like you wanted the attention you got.

 

I can't take a test yet, it's too soon. I said 5 people so I could avoid receiving comments like the first one. But I guess it made no difference.

 

Man, the shit that goes on in girls heads, no wonder you are all crazy

 

How long do you have to wait to take a test? Over here, you can do it within a week. And, why not take the morning after pill straight away??

To be, I wouldn't say how many people I have slept with because that would have nothing to do with it. I probably wouldn't even say it was a one night stand. The fact would be whether I was pregnant or not.

 

That's true. But if it doesn't matter how many people you've slept with then it doesn't matter if you've stated it or not, or if you mention it's a one night stand.

 

Clearly it does. Some people just seek the attention. Other's don't feel the need to post it.

 

That's it, you got me.

 

Somehow I managed to offend everyone here?

 

No, just the ladies apparently

 

Wildflowers..
If you are pregnant good luck If you're not its a lesson you learned,like you
said, there's no need to be offended by what other people think.Only you know
what is.

 

i hope everything turns out ok for ya..
im 19 too, and i wouldnt like a baby right now... if i got pregnant , well then obviously i would love the baby and everything... but im not plannin that anytime soon ..

and everything happens for a reason, so if you are pregnant it will be a beautiful thing, and i hope everything works out well for you..

and if not, be more careful next time girl

 

good luck! I hope you are not since you dont want to be pregnant. and good luck, update us when you find out.